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Master's Former Slave.... - 8/1/2007 1:20:46 PM   
atendersoul


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Status: offline 		yesterday, this one recieved a phone call while Sir was at work from His former slave to educate her of what type of Master she is presently under here.....
the former slave told this one of Him being a manipulator and of having forced the former slave into a contract that is costing her a great deal of money now, putting her credit at risk and she threaten to see Sir in jail....
this one has not yet said anything to Master about this very upsetting phone call yesterday and this weights heavy on her mind...
how should this be handled, please?
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RE: Master's Former Slave.... - 8/1/2007 1:23:49 PM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		Can she tender actual proof of this?  If so meet her and see it, if not fuck her and the horse she rode in on, and tell your Master.

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RE: Master's Former Slave.... - 8/1/2007 1:25:05 PM   
SimplyMichael


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Status: offline 		he thinks that one should do that and then the other should do this but the other other should not do that until this ones done that.

Understand?

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RE: Master's Former Slave.... - 8/1/2007 1:29:46 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		Why on earth haven't you told him about it yet?  Is there a particular reason that you didn't talk to your master about how the last relationship ended and what feelings their might be?  If not, now's the time for full disclosure.

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RE: Master's Former Slave.... - 8/1/2007 1:29:48 PM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		is this running parallel to the to be or not to be?  or is this do be a do bee, don't be a don't bee?  the mangling is of course, infuriating.

LOL, good one tho Michael

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RE: Master's Former Slave.... - 8/1/2007 1:31:18 PM   
beargonewild


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Status: offline 		Tell your owner about phone call. It is up to one's Master to deal with isues such as that.

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RE: Master's Former Slave.... - 8/1/2007 1:32:55 PM   
Babybass


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Status: offline 		i think you should take everything you hear from former slaves and subs with a large truck-load of salt. they are 'former' for a reason - and it may not have been an amicable split. by all means seek proof - for you really need to look into it - but with no proof you should either talk to your Master or decide to put what you heard down to sour grapes!

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RE: Master's Former Slave.... - 8/1/2007 1:36:47 PM   
twistedkytten


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Status: offline 		your owner should have been told of the phone call

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RE: Master's Former Slave.... - 8/1/2007 1:41:08 PM   
kossack


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Status: offline 		Do you trust him?  Have there been little clues that you've been ignoring?  Did this upset you because it confirmed something you felt to be possible?  If so, add this to the pile and protect yourself!  You should be protecting your credit anyway--I can't think of a single legit reason you should give your SSN or co-sign any debt unless you have financial protection of marriage or some other agreement.   

If, however, this doesn't fit with the man you know, let it go.  But either way, you should really trust him enough to talk with him about it.

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RE: Master's Former Slave.... - 8/1/2007 1:42:07 PM   
SnugasaBug


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Babybass

i think you should take everything you hear from former slaves and subs with a large truck-load of salt. they are 'former' for a reason - and it may not have been an amicable split. by all means seek proof - for you really need to look into it - but with no proof you should either talk to your Master or decide to put what you heard down to sour grapes!


Actually that is the quickest way to get hornswaggled, scammed, taken for a ride, you name it. It is time for a sit down, and yellow flags are out!


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RE: Master's Former Slave.... - 8/1/2007 1:59:32 PM   
Stephann


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Status: offline 		If my slave received a call like that, and neglected to tell me, it would be a huge blow to the trust in our relationship.  I might not be inclined to continue in a relationship with her.

You don't say why you didn't tell him.  I can guess it's because you don't want to face what he might say, and that you don't want to upset him.  You're not seeing, that from his perspective, it's a huge breach of his trust in you: to address issues when, and as they come.

Tell him.

Stephan


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RE: Master's Former Slave.... - 8/1/2007 2:02:10 PM   
chickst3r5000


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Status: offline 		You need to discuss this with your Owner.

If you have a "safe" word or venue for frank conversations, this would be the time to use it. (Since I know personally my Master would be very upset that I hadn't gone to him with this first).

But really, the advice would be the same even if this was a vanilla relationship; you need to hear his side of things and make up your own mind about whose version sounds more likely.

Communication, Trust and Honesty...remember those foundations. Good luck!

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RE: Master's Former Slave.... - 8/1/2007 2:03:06 PM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		my comma may have misrepresented me, by the way, it was (seek proof AND tell your master) < that in the mathematical sense--- not as separate events.

Just like to clear that up.

I agree with all that has been said here.

Ron (keepin' it real)

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RE: Master's Former Slave.... - 8/1/2007 6:22:25 PM   
OsideGirl


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Status: offline 		Well, my first thought was "Wow, he collared Master's ex-slave, too......"

Well, there's one of two things going on:
1) She's telling you the truth or
2) She's trying to destroy your relationship with him and get even with him for what she's feels are past transgressions.

You'll never find out which it is until you sit down and talk with him.

We went through something very similar with Master's ex. She had pretty easy access to us because at the time the SoCal community had a chat room on AOL....and we all pretty much knew each other in real life. She first attempted to stay friends with him and win him back (bought him a Wheeler single tail for his birthday months after they had broken up). When that didn't work she tried to convince me (anonymously, of course) that he was cheating on me. She then went on to tell everyone that he was a sex addict, a thief and a horrible person. He owed her about $1200 and when he tried to contact her to pay her back, she called the cops and said he was threatening her. In the process she outted every single person that had been carbon copied in on the emails. She wanted revenge so badly, she was willing to violate her friend's trust.

The final straw was the day she went off on me in front of our friends. While her current Dominant stood there and listened, I loudly said that I felt bad for him, because two years later and the only thing she could fixate on was *my husband*.  He was embarassed, she was embarassed......and we never heard from her again.

< Message edited by OsideGirl -- 8/1/2007 6:55:12 PM >

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RE: Master's Former Slave.... - 8/1/2007 6:37:21 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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quote:

ORIGINAL: OsideGirl
(bought him a Wheeler single tail for his birthdays months after they had broken up).

Wow, just wow.

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RE: Master's Former Slave.... - 8/1/2007 6:46:42 PM   
PairOfDimes


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Status: offline 		How established is the relationship? Are you pretty well invested in one another? Living together? Joint accounts? Or, are you in the early dating stages? Because, er, this is a different matter in one case than the other--for one thing, your independent evaluation of this man is more sophisticated in the former case.

Contemplate this. Consider what you have observed of your master in relation to this statement. Does his behavior accord with or even hint at it? If so, then you may have a problem. You don't necessarily need to end the relationship, of course, but as in *any* relationship, you should consider whether any action is to your advantage--that is, whether it makes your life better.

(By the way, this contract? It might just be a joint account--which can certainly put one's credit at risk if one's partner in the joint account is irresponsible. That's why if I'm putting my money, or my credit card, in my name and someone else's, I'd better have some argument for why this would make my life better.)

Sometimes exes are nasty after a breakup, and this might just be nastiness. If his behavior doesn't even hint at this being true, and she's not willing to furnish proof, I'd suggest you talk with him about it. Even if his behavior could hint at it, and you have a pretty established relationship (and thus your independent evaluation of him checked out), you should tell him.

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RE: Master's Former Slave.... - 8/1/2007 6:59:45 PM   
slaveish


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Status: offline 		That his former slave contacted you (and not him) says a lot. Sounds like a buncha drama BS. Tell him anyway.

Picture this. You don't tell him but Ms. Vindictive has a chat with him and tells him she told you all about it. Ouch. It would not be a good day to be you.

Or this. He really is in as much trouble as she says he is. Do you want to be in that mess?

And finally this. Would you hesitate to say something to a spouse or a friend in this situation? Your boss? A sibling? No difference. It's about respect.

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RE: Master's Former Slave.... - 8/1/2007 8:13:18 PM   
feastie


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Status: offline 		That's a not a secret to keep.  That's a tellmasterassoonasican type deal.

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RE: Master's Former Slave.... - 8/2/2007 4:54:41 AM   
SeeksOnlyOne


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Status: offline 		i could be wrong but......

the fact that you chose to ask on here before discussing it with him makes me wonder if you think these things could be true.......and if thats not the case, it makes me wonder about your relationship.

the thought to ask such a thing on an internet forum would never occur to me......i would have brought this to his attention immediately and let him decide how to handle it.....i would have had many questions i think, but all of them for him, not on here.

good luck...

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RE: Master's Former Slave.... - 8/5/2007 12:23:31 PM   
Kinkypupper


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Status: offline 		Tell your Master.
let them deal with it


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