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MisPandora -> RE: territorial behavior (8/2/2007 5:16:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MsCfromMelbourne Sorry to state the obvious, but Dominas love power and often will fight for the position of alpha female in the pack. Cruising other women's subs makes them feel very superior. Afterall, if the other Mistress was worth her salt, she would be able to "keep her dog on the porch". I have found that when you get a smart, handsome sub, unless he is an absolute newbie, he will have other Domme "friends" hanging around sending email, on MSN, texting etc. It is really important to assert yourself as the alpha female and direct your sub that he must tell the other women they need your permission to speak to him. That tends to make these other women throw a tantrum and disappear in a huff, which is what you want :) If your sub has a problem asking his female Domme friends to respect your wishes, you will have problems with your sub. Face power struggles like this head on. Its not jealousy or insecurity, it is exercising proper authority over your domain But in answer to the OP, you cannot expect other Dominants to automatically show you respect. You haven't done anything to earn it. Slapping down unwanted attempts to top you (by cruising your sub) will earn that respect. The only person you can dominate in the whole world is your own sub - nip the problem in the bud starting with him. Absolutely brilliant words!

LATEXBABY64 -> RE: territorial behavior (8/2/2007 5:21:15 PM)
did you not see the one csi episode with madam heather did you not know its the sub that has the power :

LadyClaudiaVan -> RE: territorial behavior (8/2/2007 6:52:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Ericus1 Just a quick observation: as a male sub i gotalot more emails from Dommes when my profile said i was collared. I am not sure why that happened. But i always thought it was disrespectful to my Mistress and always directed the other domme to contact my Mistress. ericus It may not even have much to do with the sub. (Nothing against you, of course as I'm sure you are a small factor.) But someone who intentionally goes for a collared or married or in some way "taken" person knowingly and willingly really has low self-esteem and is desparate for an ego boost. Nothing more, nothing less.

LadyHeart -> RE: territorial behavior (8/2/2007 8:26:40 PM)
What caught my eye in the OP was the fact that your sub alerted you to the message. Clearly the sub felt uncomfortable and wanted you to know what was going on. Submissives often have difficulty telling a Dominant to back off. It's not in their nature. But they also feel foolish asking you to do it for them. I would take this as a covert request to step in and help out by exerting your authority. I know my husband's slave has had this problem. His response was to "appear" in his sub's mail box, and reply to the email on her behalf, signed with his name. That was the last she heard of THAT particular Dominant! lol :)) LH

interestingtimes -> RE: territorial behavior (8/2/2007 10:37:04 PM)
dam that was one hot episode...

LadyPact -> RE: territorial behavior (8/2/2007 11:32:23 PM)
Just of a bit of a ramble on My part. I often speak with collared or owned submissives. It is always with the consent of their Domme (yes, I ask the submissive if they have permission) and only within the Domme's parameters. Any time I send an email, I always include My regards to their Domme and give an open invitation to befriend them as well. I think anything less is disrespectful to both.

interestingtimes -> RE: territorial behavior (8/3/2007 12:13:58 AM)
I enjoy chatting to intelligent domme's im careful, as im being considered and don't want to do anything to damage that.... However in general on here you can learn alot you just have to sort thru the chaff...

MrsDiablo -> RE: territorial behavior (8/3/2007 8:17:16 AM)
Well, after all these years, he has never strayed, personally I think he would be scared to do so..lol..hence my name..I always remind him, you don't get a name like that for being "nice"..lol...I don't take myself too seriously, he's owned, and he's happy, he has a social life, he has friends, and I am ok with that, I just was a bit taken back by her suggestion of compatibilty, even after he reminded her he was taken...I just look at as a line of respect, don't step on my toes, and I won't step on yours...I have no desire to waste my words, or thoughts on what a troll she is, but it just struck me, when friends had said I was being territoral with a sub, my friend had said to me. "he's your play toy, not your husband..there is a difference." To me, there is not, I care for him, and love him pieces...I guess the saying is true, no matter what your into, people always want what they can't have..

Najakcharmer -> RE: territorial behavior (8/4/2007 11:41:22 AM)
That does sound like she's looking for more than friendship. Personally I'm just as likely to drop a wave to a collared sub, a male dom, a gay man or a woman if they have certain specific interests showing in their profile, but what I'm looking for is online gamers to hang out with who are also lifestylers or at least perv-friendly. Their D/s or relationship status isn't relevant to that. Doesn't seem like that's what's going on here though, so yeah, I'd consider it creepy and rude.

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