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Why do Men pose as Dominant Women? - 8/2/2007 3:40:50 AM   
gratefullsub


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Status: offline 		For example i chatted with XXXXXXXXXXX on here for awhile then we went further and had a online session. At the end of the session  i was told that she was a he. Really made myself feel like a real dumbass. Just my dumb luck i guest.

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RE: Why do Men pose as Dominant Women? - 8/2/2007 4:26:51 AM   
CandyLover


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Status: offline 		Might have been a Domme testing you to see if you were really bi enough for her.
Could be an online-only transgender person.
Probably was a teenager trying to get a rise out of you.

Just curious, though--was it fun for you up until the end?

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RE: Why do Men pose as Dominant Women? - 8/2/2007 4:32:54 AM   
Absolutemaster


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Status: offline 		Why do men pose as sub women?

Why does anyone pose and someone they're not?

Because they're living out a fantasy, or they're looking for cheap thrills, or they're trying to make trouble.

Dumb question.

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RE: Why do Men pose as Dominant Women? - 8/2/2007 5:55:44 AM   
LadyLynx


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Status: offline 		This is not a rationalization of lying, but consider this:  Transgender out of all people probably have the worst time trying to find others to play with, much less to have a long term relationship.  So it is possible that the "lady" you were talking to, wanted to see if maybe you would be open to that.  Apparently you aren't.  Aren't you glad you find out before an actual session? heh.

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RE: Why do Men pose as Dominant Women? - 8/2/2007 5:58:38 AM   
earthycouple


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ORIGINAL: Absolutemaster

Why do men pose as sub women?

Why does anyone pose and someone they're not?

Because they're living out a fantasy, or they're looking for cheap thrills, or they're trying to make trouble.

Dumb question.


dumb question, eh?  Nice.  I don't think it is dumb.  I wonder why people pose too.  If you can't be you and search for what you need and in return what that person needs it is perplexing. 

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RE: Why do Men pose as Dominant Women? - 8/2/2007 6:15:41 AM   
MissIsis


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Status: offline 		I had a friend that used to pose as a submissive woman all the time.  It ended up putting a strain on our friendship.  I really, really detest dishonesty.  He thought it was funny, & would even copy & paste what his conversations with me.  The man truely thought that everyone who was online, was there for the same reason, he was, to get his rocks off.  It disgusted me, especially, after visiting & walking in on him, after he left me watching TV for awhile. 

When he sensed someone getting feelings for him, he would either confess, or disappear. 

The man was socially, inept.  When he would go to events, rather than try to make normal conversation, he would inevitably leave, feeling hurt that people didn't go out of his way to befriend him.  He would hover over people's scenes when going to play events, & would act as if he was interested in playing with other people's partners.  To this day, as far as I know, he still behaves the same way. 

He describes himself as Dominant, but more than being dominant, he loved to play with Dominant men who he felt were the most cruel & sadistic, all the while jerking himself off. 

When I was new to this lifestyle, he taught me not to take people at face value, which is sad.  He still messages me from time to time, & still wonders what about him puts people off.  I have learned to take friendships very slowly, & really get to know a person in real life before giving too much of myself to them. 

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RE: Why do Men pose as Dominant Women? - 8/2/2007 6:19:52 AM   
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Why do Men pose as Dominant Women?


wishful thinking?


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RE: Why do Men pose as Dominant Women? - 8/2/2007 8:01:26 AM   
sub4hire


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Status: offline 		They get to play more?  Beyond that I do not know.  Over the short few year's this board has been here.  Many have gotten caught one way or another portraying a different gender than what they are.
Some are still here.

Why do they do it?  All I can fathom is they get to play more often...at least online.

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RE: Why do Men pose as Dominant Women? - 8/2/2007 8:18:47 AM   
LadyEllen


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Status: offline 		My view is, that in the absence of a domme of their own, they may still acquire the pleasures of submitting to one through the act of portraying one, via the responses of their victim. A little like the way in which porn works, whereby the viewer will imagine himself to be the guy in the picture.

As for the idea of transgender individuals being involved in this - I'm sure that in all probabilities this may be true. However at the same time we must be careful to discern exactly what is meant by transgender. Those of us already on the "other side" by way of medical interventions for an ongoing condition, I cannot imagine being involved in such scenarios, albeit they might be accused of such falsehood. Those on the journey to the other side I would say the same thing applies. There is little point or reason to pretending to be female, if that is what one truly feels onesself to be.

And then, given that crossdressers are regarded as transgender (which I would dispute in the definition I ascribe to transgender), one must also consider that whilst I would think they would be more likely to engage in such deceptions, their penchant for crossdressing is no indicator whatsoever for such behaviours. Crossdressers come in as wide a variety as women or men after all, and cannot therefore be taken as a single group aside from sharing crossdressing as a factor in common.

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RE: Why do Men pose as Dominant Women? - 8/2/2007 8:22:15 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Absolutemaster

Why do men pose as sub women?

Why does anyone pose and someone they're not?

Because they're living out a fantasy, or they're looking for cheap thrills, or they're trying to make trouble.



This is kinda what I was thinking myself. I guess the answer is............because they can.


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RE: Why do Men pose as Dominant Women? - 8/2/2007 11:01:02 AM   
CruelGorean


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Status: offline 		Men posing as dominant women is just...well, it's sad. The world of BDSM is much too big to go around pretending to be something you are not. If you are a switch find yourself a switch, if you are bi-sexual, find yourself a bi-sexual partner, and so on, and so on. Bottom line is, there's no reason to lie. That's why I alteast ask for a webcam or telephone verification. Or both. Call me overly-cautious if you would like too. But I detest liars and I wont be made a fool of. 

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RE: Why do Men pose as Dominant Women? - 8/2/2007 11:06:11 AM   
michaelOfGeorgia


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Status: offline 		i like my answer better, but that's just me...LOL

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RE: Why do Men pose as Dominant Women? - 8/2/2007 12:20:00 PM   
Masque66


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Status: offline 		Hard to say, possibly they're playing what they wish they were.  Maybe they find it easier to find interested parties posing as a female. 

I know I pose as a mid-twenties nursing student because no one would talk to me if they knew I was a third world dictator.

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RE: Why do Men pose as Dominant Women? - 8/2/2007 12:25:54 PM   
michaelOfGeorgia


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Status: offline 		maybe some of them actually look good in dresses?

just a thought...LOL


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RE: Why do Men pose as Dominant Women? - 8/2/2007 5:52:06 PM   
fungasm


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Status: offline 		Lots of great answers here, but my fave is "Socially inept."   

My answer though, is that it's the a way to explore a situation that's incredibly fun without fear of being discovered.  Until he told you, you didn't know.  You assumed because (I'm not certain why- perhaps the name, perhaps the description, perhaps a picture of a woman with tits) that this was a woman...  So you treated him like a woman, and a domme at that. 

He got to explore a situation where you submitted to him.  

Pretty heady stuff...  But if he had told you in advance, he couldn't have the experience he wanted.  Not that it is justified- but it is understandable.

My two pennies.

Alison

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RE: Why do Men pose as Dominant Women? - 8/2/2007 8:11:19 PM   
MHOO314


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Status: offline 		Because We have all the fun.

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