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ORIGINAL: AMADF

After reading some post in this forum i kind of undestand more and thank you for it.

Personally i respect switchs as any bdsm player, actually my best bdsm friend is switch :) but i dont play with them. The main reason is that in the few session i have with them, they always try to top from the bottom.

Sometimes i think they are not really aware of it, but kind of "overtry" to please or impress or suprise dom: for instance i ask him to go to bathroom and wear a vibrating plug and he comes with plug but back already nacked, or things like they hear the cane and then they assume certain position, wich they think its better to do it. In that moment i think: I didnt ask to bend i just want you to stand there and listen the cane. 

I mean its fine when a sub does already "reads" you and obviously signals get more easy to read when play long with same parthner but i always find myself kind of tired after playing with switchs in the sense that i have to remind them that they dont need to "think" or "predict" my moves: im the one who gives the orders and I make sure they dont forget this.

The sessions where ok, but i always had this kind of emotion like trying to say "dont think for yourself, let me as mistress choose what i want, youre now a slave not the master". I dont say its bad a slave suggest thigs but i definetly preffear the feedback that always have after a session instead of simply doing it in a session.

This is something i havent feel when play with subs, even with experimented ones, . So this  experiences make me stop playing with them, but i was wondering: do all switches do this things or maybe i just found some of them who where a little "messy" when reiceiving orders?

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ORIGINAL: AMADF

Thanks for your reply all :)

After reading them i kind of realize it might also be my style of dominantion that has an impact in this issue. This maybe became on the first place from expectations. I sincery in the beggining expected that playing with a switch would be super cool, maybe even better that playing with a sub, after all he is also a master and of course would know exactly what a master expect from subs, but in my experience instead of a docil sub i got kind of "rebel" one.