How doi tell my Misrtess that im hidding something from her

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evilgoodsub23 -> How doi tell my Misrtess that im hidding something from her (8/3/2007 3:53:35 AM)
[:o]A first i new i was both sub and dom cuz im switch and wen i met my Mistress i did not tell her and now i dont no if i should keep hide'ing it from her or just tell her cuz the longer i keep it from her makes it harder on me in do time and i dont want to keeep things for her but i dont [&:]no how to tell her watt i was keeping from her ....so what should i do...........[&:]

MsSonnetMarwood -> RE: How doi tell my Misrtess that im hidding something from her (8/3/2007 3:55:18 AM)
Once more, in standard English please?

evilgoodsub23 -> What is a sesson and do it works (8/3/2007 3:58:03 AM)
im lost and i have no idea about it at all

evilgoodsub23 -> how do i tell my Mistress that im Switch (8/3/2007 4:02:29 AM)
cause MY Lady ...thinks im all submissive[:o]

MHOO314 -> RE: how do i tell my Mistress that im Switch (8/3/2007 4:21:56 AM)
*Well, you better tell Her now or there will be hell to pay later.*

Jaded2005 -> RE: how do i tell my Mistress that im Switch (8/3/2007 4:30:21 AM)
Say nothing and hope she can understand what you wrote here. I'm guessing that you didn't focus too hard on the basics in school..... Scratches head at post

MistressRouge -> RE: How doi tell my Misrtess that im hidding something from her (8/3/2007 4:42:09 AM)
Do not be dis-heartened, I scene with quite a few male switches, and I find it extremely liberating and exciting. I would come clean with your Mistress, I am certain She will not be offended by this, moreso you keeping it from her maybe.

MissMagnolia -> RE: How doi tell my Misrtess that im hidding something from her (8/3/2007 4:48:07 AM)
A major OOPS, but be quick about telling the Lady the truth. You MAY lose Her for neglecting to tell Her a very basic fact about yourself or maybe because she doesn't want a switch (I'm the same myself, I don't work well with switches). Either way, learn a lesson and be upfront and honest always!!

nonu -> RE: How doi tell my Misrtess that im hidding something from her (8/3/2007 5:15:28 AM)
Write her a poem or a song, describing how you feel you have offended her by keeping from her the truth. Then you could possibly kneel before her and recite it with the utmost dedication (and in proper English, please - that is if you communicate with her in English). Then you could leave it upto her to decide how she wishes to make amendments, if any. Don't be surprised if she gets mad at you - she has all the reasons to be angry. The purpose of the poem is to let her know the truth and also how much this mistake on your part means to you, both at the same time. Just remember to be natural and be yourself - don't fake it. All the best!

chiaThePet -> RE: How doi tell my Misrtess that im hidding something from her (8/3/2007 7:17:10 AM)
Your five aren't you? If not, hide the whips, crops, canes, order up Her favorite flowers, parfume, and sweets. Dig deep and find that honest bone in your body, be truthful and genuinely remorseful for your indiscretions and human weakness. Begging, pleading, and a nice new glimmering Mercedes might bode well also. Now, if you are five, pick up your toys and get in the tub, you're going to be late for school. And as is evident here, some serious study is in order. chia* (the pet)

MistressSassy66 -> RE: How doi tell my Misrtess that im hidding something from her (8/3/2007 9:21:27 AM)
Saying something now is way better than waiting. She may find out on Her own and be really upset.

thetammyjo -> RE: How doi tell my Misrtess that im hidding something from her (8/3/2007 9:31:11 AM)
Try writing a letter out first and then read it out loud to yourself. Imagine the reactions she might have -- as many as you can think of. This will help prepare you to tell her. Then sit down and tell her. If you find yourself shaking, read the letter. At that point you can only deal with her reactions, you cannot control them.

pixelslave -> RE: How doi tell my Misrtess that im hidding something from her (8/3/2007 12:43:35 PM)
First, you've already been given some good advice. Next, I'd say this applies to any relationship whether vanilla or lifestyle D/s, M/s, etc. Lying or witholding important information about yourself, to a new partner is not a good way to start a relationship! [image]http://www.collarchat.com/micons/m23.gif[/image] The only thing you can do is come clean with her; hoping that you have some redeeming qualities within you that she sees which will overcome her broken trust in you. For most partners, that will be a *far* greater issue than your not being as fully submissive as you may have tried to lead her to believe! My guess is that she already knows that. [&:] So, the real questions I see is 1.) What do you want your relationship with her to look like after admitting to her your mistake? and 2.) Will you be able to overcome the trust issues born out of the misrepresentations about yourself that you knowingly made to her when you first met? Those are questions that only the two of you can answer. I suggest that you think about how they can possibly be resolved before you confess the truth about your knowledge to her of your true inner self. As others have suggested though, I wouldn't waste time thinking these things over for long. In my opinion you owe it to her to set the record straight right away! [8\|] - pixel Collared to Majik

MisPandora -> RE: How doi tell my Misrtess that im hidding something from her (8/3/2007 4:05:05 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: evilgoodsub23 [:o]A first i new i was both sub and dom cuz im switch and wen i met my Mistress i did not tell her and now i dont no if i should keep hide'ing it from her or just tell her cuz the longer i keep it from her makes it harder on me in do time and i dont want to keeep things for her but i dont [&:]no how to tell her watt i was keeping from her ....so what should i do...........[&:] Post it on a public forum for everyone to see. Oh wait, you did that already. I bet if you've sent her more than one email, she already knows you're a terrible speller and have never used a period or comma in your life. It's ok. She'll understand.

LadyHeart -> RE: How doi tell my Misrtess that im hidding something from her (8/3/2007 11:32:24 PM)
Your profile indicates that you are a switch so presumably you met her outside of CM? Or have you just done the honest thing and changed it? You have given a clear indication that you are a bit of a handful, so she probably already knows that about you. Come clean when you are face to face. It will be harder that way, but will get you the best results. Good luck! It would be great to hear the outcome... :)) LH PS I am at a loss why people think it is their duty to come down on other people's spelling and grammar. Is good spelling the measure of a man? I look for kindness and sincerity and compassion myself....

FelinePersuasion -> RE: How doi tell my Misrtess that im hidding something from her (8/4/2007 12:53:44 AM)
Sometimes people make comments to be pissy or mean or vindictive, sometimes they have a fetish for correct spelling, and incorrect annoys them, and sometimes just cause they can, or it's honestly gibberishly hard to read, which was not the case with the op, I could understand him quite well, dispite all the poor spelling. quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHeart PS I am at a loss why people think it is their duty to come down on other people's spelling and grammar. Is good spelling the measure of a man? I look for kindness and sincerity and compassion myself....

freex -> RE: How doi tell my Misrtess that im hidding something from her (8/4/2007 1:14:11 AM)
yeah, yupp that about sums it up. Look if you have a problem with honesty now what can you expect from yourself? Ill tell you it will be more cover ups, dishonesty, Zero dominance, only submission to your lying which will change you more until you are yourself a farce. Now that you know how you feel you can come clean. Tell them you thought u might be but did not know fore sure until know. That is if I understood your post. Although you could continue to lie and simply hope that you manage to take it to your grave with you. If you have done any ready into this lifestyle you will find that you need to drop the facade now and get real with yourself and your Dom. Remember your no longer a child so don't act like one. Expect the truth and give the truth. Living life as a dual visage is no life at all.

WyckedMystress -> RE: How doi tell my Misrtess that im hidding something from her (8/4/2007 5:48:00 AM)
simple advice - just tell Her - secrets only ever come to no good. WyckedMystress

evilgoodsub23 -> RE: How doi tell my Misrtess that im hidding something from her (8/4/2007 6:38:56 AM)
thank u for you help

evilgoodsub23 -> RE: How doi tell my Misrtess that im hidding something from her (8/4/2007 6:40:48 AM)
[:D]

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