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New with questions - 8/3/2007 10:14:33 AM   
curiousdee


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Status: offline 		I am am 41 year old married female. I am submissive , hubby is dominate. I am curious about the lifestyle. We both enjoy spanking, and him taking pics and lite bondage. Would love to hear comments and suggestions on ways to enhance our venture into the lifestyle.
Dolores
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RE: New with questions - 8/3/2007 10:20:19 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		Hi Delores,

First, it's "hubby is a dominant"  And second, just go where your fantasies take you.  That is what will fit best.  Find local groups and attend socials and parties if you feel that would be good to help you get exposed to new ideas.

But really, it all comes from inside you.

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RE: New with questions - 8/3/2007 10:27:44 AM   
RCdc


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Status: offline 		Get out and attend some groups and munches.  Start on a little 'light' reading.  Communicate well with each other and lay out your wants and fantasies and take all that's inside you.  And enjoy.
 
Peace
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RE: New with questions - 8/3/2007 10:28:30 AM   
FelinePersuasion


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Status: offline 		what does it matter if she says hubby dominant or is A dominant?

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RE: New with questions - 8/3/2007 10:31:40 AM   
stef


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Status: offline 		It doesn't.  It matters if hubby is "dominate" instead of  dominant.

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RE: New with questions - 8/3/2007 10:32:22 AM   
Alumbrado


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Status: offline 		Dominate is a verb, dominant is an adjective... for a lot of  folks it is like fingernails on a chalkboard... I suspect it was not a put down of the OP, just some free advice, in order to feel less like a noob...

< Message edited by Alumbrado -- 8/3/2007 10:33:20 AM >

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RE: New with questions - 8/3/2007 10:33:25 AM   
FelinePersuasion


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Status: offline 		opps yeah.

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RE: New with questions - 8/3/2007 10:35:09 AM   
RCdc


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Status: offline 		She didnt say 'hubby dominant' - Because if she is new - then she is going to get blasted for using the word 'dominate' - LA was being helpful and trying to assist her in advance that using that will get her condemned even before she starts.  Come on Feline, you have been around long enough to know the blasting people get for using that word.
 
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RE: New with questions - 8/3/2007 10:37:47 AM   
MasterMike04103


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Status: offline 		I know this is going to sound hokey as hell but if your looking for reading try castlerealm dot com, that is light reading IMHO, if you want something a bit more heavy try thebrc dot org or vanilla-not dot com. If you like I can post my list of lifestyle links for you and yours to use.

Blessings,

Mike

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RE: New with questions - 8/3/2007 10:43:23 AM   
FelinePersuasion


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Status: offline 		That is true, people will get blasted here for almost anything, though ehehe. I honestly didn't notice she said dominaTE instaid of dominanT hehe. so yeah it was my mistake
quote:

ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark

She didnt say 'hubby dominant' - Because if she is new - then she is going to get blasted for using the word 'dominate' - LA was being helpful and trying to assist her in advance that using that will get her condemned even before she starts.  Come on Feline, you have been around long enough to know the blasting people get for using that word.
 
Peace
the.dark.


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RE: New with questions - 8/3/2007 12:51:22 PM   
proudsub


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quote:

Would love to hear comments and suggestions on ways to enhance our venture into the lifestyle.


Welcome to the forums.  I would suggest you go back and read some old threads here at CM, there is a lot of good information.  You can use the "search" feature at the top of the page to look for topics that might interest you. Enjoy your journey.

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RE: New with questions - 8/3/2007 3:25:38 PM   
PairOfDimes


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Status: offline 		Welcome! Keep doing spanking, photography, and bondage, if you find that fun. If you want to do different things, think about what it is about spanking, photography, and bondage that you like, and think (or ask here) about activities that would meet that desire. For example, if you like spanking because you like the feeling of impact on the butt, you might want to try spanking with straps, paddles, or canes, or using flexible whips or floggers. If you like spanking because it feeds a sort of "little girl" ageplay fetish, you could do other roleplays like that.

P.S. "Hubby is dominant." Dominant is an adjective, and, around here, a noun sometimes, "hubby is a dominant." "Dominate" is a verb.

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RE: New with questions - 8/3/2007 3:32:46 PM   
mstrjx


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Status: offline 		Personally, I don't see anything wrong with couples being dominate and subversive, as long as they're happy.

Jeff

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RE: New with questions - 8/3/2007 4:02:29 PM   
spiral23


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Status: offline 		As other people said, go with your fantasies, other toys and situations you might get off on are...gags, blindfolds, buttplugs, nipple clamps, collar and leads etc...and roleplays are for some an easier way to get into kinky stuff...a little pretend and play can be a good way to explore fantasies, likes and dislikes etc. Read erotica together and the boards here and discuss what ideas turn you on together, a lot depends how much you want to keep things in the bedroom or incorporate stuff in to your more everyday life, but the boards here are a mine of useful ideas and thoughts...hope you have bundles of fun together exploring....    

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RE: New with questions - 8/3/2007 8:49:59 PM   
curiousdee


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Status: offline 		Thank you, That would be greatly appreciated.

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RE: New with questions - 8/3/2007 8:51:18 PM   
curiousdee


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Status: offline 		Thank you !! I stand corrected.

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RE: New with questions - 8/3/2007 8:54:41 PM   
curiousdee


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Status: offline 		Thank you all for the information. It will definately come in handy. I think reading will help too.

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RE: New with questions - 8/3/2007 8:59:14 PM   
krikket


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Status: offline 		Just a thought ... go to a hardware store (Dom's..er..home depot) or the housewares section at Target/Walmart.  There are so many things there, if ya look at em right...lol.  A glance through kitchen drawers and cabinets can also be interesting..lol.

and..most of all... Have Fun!!!

cheers,
jimini

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RE: New with questions - 8/3/2007 9:03:19 PM   
Mystique567


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quote:

ORIGINAL: mstrjx

Personally, I don't see anything wrong with couples being dominate and subversive, as long as they're happy.

Jeff


Perfectly said

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RE: New with questions - 8/3/2007 9:25:43 PM   
curiousdee


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Status: offline 		Please forgive me if I sound ignorant, but I'm a bit unsure of what I would be looking for.

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