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Farewell - 6/30/2005 1:44:40 PM

noumenon

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I'm aware that none of you really knew me so I will make this breif.
I have made a choice in my life to no longer persue a relationship. I'm sure all of you will be eager to tell me how I am too young to give up on dating or how "Love will find you when you least expect it". Hopefully you're right. In the meantime I will no longer post in the forums and though I will be responding to e-mails received, I will not be sending out any of my own. Thanks to all of those who gave me kind words. Love And Truth.

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RE: Farewell - 6/30/2005 1:49:13 PM

sub4hire

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Are you no longer pursuing any relationship? Or just a lifestyle one? By leaving the boards you are doing yourself and your future dom a dis-service. Being educated is the key to making a relationship work.
That is why a "good" relationship that is considered long term in the scene lasts a grand total of 6 months.

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RE: Farewell - 6/30/2005 2:24:04 PM

EmeraldSlave2

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Gloria, sadly you speak the truth.

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RE: Farewell - 6/30/2005 3:03:27 PM

darkinshadows

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Something I ponder is - why does not pursuing a relationship mean a person does not contribute on a forum? Just because one does not wish to pursue a relationship, doesn't mean one has nothing productive to give or say.

If the reason one leaves is because BDSM is not being pursued, makes sense not to write in the forums - other than that, I do not see the relevance in making such an announcement.

I always find it strange why people announce they are leaving - if I go, or disappear for more than may be expected, then I mighy inform those I consider friends, but why else do people do so? (Other than to gain either sympathy or recognition) Maybe I am being harsh - however, I just do not understand.

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RE: Farewell - 6/30/2005 3:06:00 PM

perverseangelic

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I'm not pursuing a relationship either, but I'm still here.

Give up on dating/sex/love. Hang out on the boards anyway.

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RE: Farewell - 6/30/2005 5:13:49 PM

Raphael

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Good plan. It never comes until you give up on looking for it.

Good luck.

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RE: Farewell - 6/30/2005 5:51:31 PM

LadyShoshin

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quote:

ORIGINAL: noumenon

I'm aware that none of you really knew me so I will make this breif.
I have made a choice in my life to no longer persue a relationship. I'm sure all of you will be eager to tell me how I am too young to give up on dating or how "Love will find you when you least expect it". Hopefully you're right. In the meantime I will no longer post in the forums and though I will be responding to e-mails received, I will not be sending out any of my own. Thanks to all of those who gave me kind words. Love And Truth.

~NoumeNoN

I hope that the energy you were channeling into your search will now focus on you and your own personal growth. We all make choices in our life and have to do what is best for us. Alone can be lonely, there are times when having that other person there is something you want to tear the world apart and find, but sometimes in being with another person we can lose sight of ourselves and our own personal goals that might be compromised for another person.

At 55 I have been with and without, at this point in my life he would need to be very special and unique for me to consider a relationship. I have been wife, lover, mother, mistress and on my own. Right now I have spiritual goals to acheive that need my focus.

I trust that alone or in partnership, you will find joy in your life.

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RE: Farewell - 6/30/2005 7:40:56 PM

siamsa24

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quote:

I always find it strange why people announce they are leaving - if I go, or disappear for more than may be expected, then I mighy inform those I consider friends, but why else do people do so?

I do because I am usually going to be gone for a while and I always forget to tell everyone individually that I am leaving. Just me and my scatterbrainedness (I think I may have made a new word.....)

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RE: Farewell - 7/1/2005 12:52:22 AM

darkinshadows

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ah- yes siamsa - but yours is more an information thang - Not what I mean about not understanding. I just don't get the 'I am not looking anymore, bye'.... or the 'You obviously don't appriciate my posts - so long'....
The forum (as I understand it) is for general discussions and BDSM based thoughts - not a personal 'look at me' ad.

Like I said, I just don't get it.

Since I popped back after the move, I would say at least a third of the forum is all personal ads - and from reading the TOS - that's not what the forums is supposed to be used for.

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P.S Siamsa - its really good to 'see' you!