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Touch Sum Buuday (long) - 8/4/2007 4:21:09 AM   
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Been touched lately? Touch anyone today?
 
http://www.brisbanetimes.com.au/news/health/a-hug-a-day-keeps-the-doctor-away/2007/07/31/1185647872383.html

These were the last few paragraphs of the article:

Touch deprivation appears to lead to a depletion in norepinephrine and serotonin, which, with dop-amine, are neurotransmitters affecting mood. When levels of norepinephrine and serotonin fall, levels of dopamine are left uninhibited, leading to the impulsive, often aggressive, behaviour associated with high levels of dopamine. (Research also suggests that levels of norepinephrine and serotonin may be increased through touch.)

Even though we're isolating ourselves from it, humans crave physical touch. It is one of the reasons people keep pets, Aleksandrowicz believes. "Because they can touch them, they can exchange warmth with them."
In many ways it was her own yearning for touch that brought Aleksandrowicz to massage. "I had some problems with my second husband," she says. "We had a lot of problems with intimacy, we couldn't open up for each other, and our friend just gave us the advice to try to touch each other a lot and just see how it goes. And I was amazed how closed I was to touch. I could not receive touch - it made me panic."
Now she offers courses for couples (as well as encouraging parents to massage their children, so they grow up to find touch usual). "You suddenly see these men who open up so much," she says.
Aleksandrowicz recently returned from a trip to meet bushmen in the Kalahari. She expected them to have a much freer approach to physical interaction and was shocked to find that was not the case. "I was in the middle of Namibia, 40C, sitting on the sand, with people who I've never seen before, whose culture is 40,000 years old, and they were all asking about touch," she says.
She massaged everyone in the village, sometimes several times. The first to be massaged was the oldest woman in the village. "Suddenly there was silence, this whole village stopped what they were doing - they stopped talking and started to sing," Aleksandrowicz says. She believes that the political situation of the bushmen - landless, powerless, severed from their traditions and history - has led to this intense feeling of disconnection. "It was very interesting. All of them asked me to touch their chests, the most emotional part of the body and also responsible for the ego. They don't know who they are - they're lost."
Some would say that people in the West are also losing sight of who they are. We shy from touching each other but are obsessed with appearance. We would rather, for example, go under the surgeon's knife than accept our own bodies. "We are living in a materialistic time where if you don't see you don't have," Aleksandrowicz says. "So we have cars, we have high salaries, we have the right shape of our bottom ... But we stop believing that we have enormous potential inside us."
And what does Aleksandrowicz get from a career that involves touching people all day? "It's amazing," she says. "It is a communication on the most basic, fundamental level, where there are no words or judgement or ego. It's just the purest possible interaction between two people."
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Reach out and touch sum budaay!
 
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RE: Touch Sum Buuday (long) - 8/4/2007 5:18:14 AM   
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i used to look after an elderly relative, who was in the mid-to -later stages of dementia. he spent most of his pre-dementia years being a curmudgeon and pain the ass to his relatives who would come for duty visits but not much more. he was rarely, if ever touched other than his hand being shook.

he had TIA's and they sometimes change the personality of the person. as well as dementia, lol....

anyways, one time, i gave him a kiss on the cheek before i left. he got quite giddy. and so i would touch him more often after that. his hand, stroke his arm, give him big hugs. i hadn't realised til then how little he was touched, and how big a difference it makes.

nowadays i'm planning on working in aged care. and when i did my prac, i made it a point to always touch the person i'm working with or talking to. makes SUCH a difference to them. makes them happier, calms them, and for something so simple, its such a big deal to them.

so touch your parents, your grandparents. just because you can...

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RE: Touch Sum Buuday (long) - 8/4/2007 6:24:14 AM   
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as a nurse in a dementia alzheimer's unit i promote touch all the time. there was a lady no one liked to be near due to her temper and habit of hacking lugies at people. i touched and spoke to her whenever i went by her, i never got spit , and a couple of times she said i love you and once gave me a kiss. she never kissed any one or spoke other words than nonsense. she died 2  months ago  at 100 years old.

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RE: Touch Sum Buuday (long) - 8/4/2007 9:23:13 AM   
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In the crisis unit I worked at we tried to promote hugging for the clients.  Due to the idiotic legal issues of this country however the rules were as follows.  Clients could hug eachother as long as it didn't last too long to be inappropriate(never did determine that length of time), staff were never permitted to hug a client, clients could hug staff but the staff had to basically stand there with their arms at their sides.  And of course the no means no rule applied so clients could refuse to hug.  I think that about covers it.  Just one more of the moronic reason I don't work there.

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RE: Touch Sum Buuday (long) - 8/4/2007 11:25:30 AM   
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How about schools?
When my son was young I went in to volunteer at the school library. They handed me a pack 1/2" thick all about the rules regarding 'innaproriate touching, etc  kids and adults. No hugging! No patting, no squeeze of the shoulder, no kiss on top of the head!

*shakes head muttering to self.

I'm gonna hug at least one big person today. How about you?

(edited to say, so of course I broke the rules a little!)

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RE: Touch Sum Buuday (long) - 8/4/2007 11:48:05 AM   
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Yeah, I'm really sick of it.  This country has gone to crap because of all the legal bullshit and lawsuits. I blame the 60's...that's when psychologists started this get in touch with your pain and anger stuff and we started getting so touchy.

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RE: Touch Sum Buuday (long) - 8/4/2007 12:33:58 PM   
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ORIGINAL: HydroMaster

Yeah, I'm really sick of it.  This country has gone to crap because of all the legal bullshit and lawsuits. I blame the 60's...that's when psychologists started this get in touch with your pain and anger stuff and we started getting so touchy.

Yes, and Greed! Fear, Liability...

Thanks to everyone for sharing here. Good stuff.

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RE: Touch Sum Buuday (long) - 8/4/2007 7:53:37 PM   
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ORIGINAL: HydroMaster

Yeah, I'm really sick of it. This country has gone to crap because of all the legal bullshit and lawsuits. I blame the 60's...that's when psychologists started this get in touch with your pain and anger stuff and we started getting so touchy.


come to australia dragon, not so much bullshit here YET. its one of the primary reasons i'm going into nursing. one of the few professions around where its a REQUIREMENT to touch and when people are sick (whether physically or mentally) they need touch so much more. as a student nurse, i've never had a patient complain about my touching them. in fact i've always gotten good reviews

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RE: Touch Sum Buuday (long) - 8/5/2007 2:36:12 AM   
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I almost relocated to Au when I was 20. Sometimes I wish I had.

Plenty of Hugs tomorrow.
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RE: Touch Sum Buuday (long) - 8/31/2007 9:06:59 AM   
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quote:

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Yeah, I'm really sick of it.  This country has gone to crap because of all the legal bullshit and lawsuits. I blame the 60's...that's when psychologists started this get in touch with your pain and anger stuff and we started getting so touchy.

I blame people who are greedy and dishonest. They helped to create fear and distance between people. I grew up in the 60's and we had a wonderful neighborhood where people were affectionate and good to others. My family was into all that 'communication' and it helped our family dynamic a lot.
 
I am heading out to hug my 70 yr old neighbor.
 
Have a great weekend and hug some buuday!
 
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