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Why do some Dommes play online while others do not? - 8/4/2007 12:05:44 PM

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I was just curious to find out why some Dommes like to play and discuss things online while other Dommes just give you their number to discuss things. Any opinions?

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RE: Why do some Dommes play online while others do not? - 8/4/2007 12:10:16 PM

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Why do some like strap ons and some don't----personal preference.

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RE: Why do some Dommes play online while others do not? - 8/4/2007 12:18:32 PM

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Some of Us take more time to get to know someone before We honor you with the gift of Our voices!

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RE: Why do some Dommes play online while others do not? - 8/4/2007 12:22:13 PM

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Come on sweet Original Poster.............you must of posted before you thought about it.............. Us Domme women are not all alike ......... just as we are women we are individual people .. ....I go by what my brain reacts to.... not some book of how to...

I think the basic core of this is the same answer with everything we all do as individuals..it is just that..our moods..our comfort zones..our joys..our schedules.. our lives.. just personal preference...

I like to start slow with an almost 99% certainty that you will not be a person I will meet... this gives me no expectation..I go free flowing full speed ahead... then there is that thing that happens every now and then..there is something special in you.. I notice you .. it happens from there.. I have no idea what will happen, but it is a desire that I want to be near you, or possibly touch you... as on line and phone is no more staisfying to me.. I first take in to consideration can you handle it..you have to pass a fbi like clearance........for my safety..---------------Then you have to be able to afford with ease the set up of the scene and all that surrounds it and after it....-- this is rather complex...

from there I usually stay connected with that person for years to come.........those people (mostly men) are wonderfully doomed till the day they die.....

I also think --online with emails back and forth it is easier for my personal time..I write and read when I want.... phone coversation takes comittment of 15 mins or an hour.... or what ever.. maybe half way thru the intended phone conversation, my dog wants to go for a walk.. well conversation over.....online I can pick it back up.

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RE: Why do some Dommes play online while others do not? - 8/4/2007 12:24:34 PM

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It is easier to get a good feeling for someone and how sincere they are about things when you can hear a voice. Personally, I will discuss anything anyone wants online, but just as discusion. That does not include online training, I have no interest in having someone jump thorugh virtual hoops for me, but if they want information or opinions, I am all for it. No one gets my number until I am seriously interested in moving forward with them. But thats just me.

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RE: Why do some Dommes play online while others do not? - 8/4/2007 1:31:28 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: barrelboy

I was just curious to find out why some Dommes like to play and discuss things online while other Dommes just give you their number to discuss things. Any opinions?

Because I'm not an online dom -- I play RT only. Because I want him paying attention to me and not wanking while one-handed typing. Because I can.

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RE: Why do some Dommes play online while others do not? - 8/4/2007 2:16:23 PM

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Yup, preference. Some people think better in spoken conversations, others prefer the written word. Also, some dominants neither like to play online nor via phone--we're weird, we like to play in person, where we can touch people.

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RE: Why do some Dommes play online while others do not? - 8/4/2007 2:19:31 PM

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I really dont know, damn Dommes why cant they all just make up their mind... The subby union should organise a strike untill they can all agree on the ONE TRUE WAY for it to be!!

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RE: Why do some Dommes play online while others do not? - 8/4/2007 2:26:02 PM

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When the union decides, let us know..after all, we are here to please the subs,lol!!!!!

Seriously to the OP, you might want to rephrase your question. The way you phrased it has no more answer then why do some people like blonds, brunettes, redheads, skinny, large, etc. It's all personal preference.

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RE: Why do some Dommes play online while others do not? - 8/4/2007 2:32:09 PM

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quote:

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When the union decides, let us know..after all, we are here to please the subs,lol!!!!!

Seriously to the OP, you might want to rephrase your question. The way you phrased it has no more answer then why do some people like blonds, brunettes, redheads, skinny, large, etc. It's all personal preference.

Well the Union is ok with the Domme's desideing themselfs as long as they all agree on one way!!! ((giggles))

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RE: Why do some Dommes play online while others do not? - 8/4/2007 2:40:39 PM

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You gots it...we know we are not supposed to be individuals!!!

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RE: Why do some Dommes play online while others do not? - 8/4/2007 3:04:08 PM

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Chiming in with the choir here. My personal preference is real time only. Afterall, if I'm not going to get to use a boy for My perverse pleasure in life, what's the point?

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RE: Why do some Dommes play online while others do not? - 8/4/2007 3:12:46 PM

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ORIGINAL: MisPandora

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ORIGINAL: barrelboy

I was just curious to find out why some Dommes like to play and discuss things online while other Dommes just give you their number to discuss things. Any opinions?

Because I'm not an online dom -- I play RT only. Because I want him paying attention to me and not wanking while one-handed typing. Because I can.

I concur. :)

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RE: Why do some Dommes play online while others do not? - 8/4/2007 3:23:29 PM

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This is what I have in my journal and profile and sums it up for me.

I've found that moving things to the face to face r/t world works best and cuts out a lot of tedium. It will tell us quickly whether we are just friend material or more. Till we've met face to face it is all fairy dust to me and not terribly exciting.

I nabbed the following paragraph from Domiguy's profile – it just sums up my feeling about the whole online thing exactly. SO of course, I will meet you if you are in the ATL area.

Words of Domiguy “So, send me a message and let’s get this thing going...you will not be disappointed. I live in the real world. I will treat this site no differently. I am willing to meet someone from the area ; public place, mutually comfortable. I may end up wasting a few minutes of my time but that I am much more willing to do, than waste hours chasing mirages on a computer.”

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RE: Why do some Dommes play online while others do not? - 8/4/2007 3:33:25 PM

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Because I am looking for the real thing. A commited relationship. Not on-line play. Not one off meets. But an exchange of power. It's simple really we are all looking for different things. And because we are different people we go about getting our needs met in different ways.
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RE: Why do some Dommes play online while others do not? - 8/4/2007 3:37:53 PM

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I like to take emails back & forth for awhile. We are all different. It gives me an opportunity to get to know someone & to get a feel for them through their writings. I don't care much for messaging or chat programs. It ties me to the computer & I usually have other things going on like work & family. Emails take the pressure off of both of us till we have an opportunity for more. It only takes a few emails for me to get a sense of someone wanting just an online experience or more.

It is my preference. I don't really get much out of playing online. It is rather silly to me. I want to touch their skin & see their facial expressions & how they carry themselves. It works for me.

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RE: Why do some Dommes play online while others do not? - 8/4/2007 6:01:11 PM

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Dear barrelboy, Ladies and Gentlemen;

I can only render my personal opinions and experiences as to respond to your topic and question.

For me, real time envelopes the physical, as well as the mental and emotional. It is something to which any relationship that lasts and in the moment, physical participation can seed, root, bloom and grow. Online, one may have emotional and mental seeds started however, without physical interaction --it is like a 2 legged stool, where the three legged stool has more chance of staying steady. I see online as a communication tool, just like letters, telephone and such are tools. However, in my mind's eyes--it takes physical investment to make any relationship grow.

Just some thoughts.

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RE: Why do some Dommes play online while others do not? - 8/5/2007 6:16:39 AM

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For me, and IMHO, I feel that anything other than real time is fantasy. I don't feel that any sub or slave could possibly "serve" me over the telephone or on a computer screen. I am not looking for a fantasy chat........ I am looking for an actual, compatible relationship.

But that's just my preference.

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RE: Why do some Dommes play online while others do not? - 8/5/2007 8:43:48 AM

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In my opinion, some are only looking for play in gereral to escape their everyday reality; others are seeking a connection in hopes of developing a good and healthy LTR. Of course noone is being judged because they are looking for a bit of fun- we all want to have some fun. Just keep in mind what it is that YOU are seeking or what it is that you need in your life. Be honest about what you are seeking, even if it is 'online play' or not.

I really like and agree with what LadyHugs had to say on the matter.

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