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RE: Black Dominants - 8/5/2007 2:20:51 AM   
nyrisa


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Status: offline 		I am not sure of what the consensus is on subs serving black Doms, but I have seen a post where a white Domme felt uncomfortable about being the Mistress of a black slave, due to the negative image of hundreds of years of black slavery that has been ingrained in just about all of us since birth. I have heard from others, who do or have had black submissives or slaves, that it was very difficult for many of them to get past a feeling of moral wrongness with that, and just enjoy and celebrate each other as individuals.

I have also seen many profiles where black Doms specify that they are seeking white submissives, and whether that is just personal preference or a form of racism in itself, I have no way of knowing. I do know that as people, we like what we like. Being a tall woman, I'd have some initial qualms about meeting a Dom who is 5 feet tall, although in my head, I know that should make no difference.

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RE: Black Dominants - 8/5/2007 7:39:06 AM   
ELUSIVE1


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my first Master was a HOT black doctor--I have been with dominants from other countries--the accent sometimes made following direction a little difficult-but I think when the dynamic is there the rest is just smooth sailing. . . bigotry has no place in this community


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RE: Black Dominants - 8/5/2007 8:50:54 AM   
Celeste43


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From: NYS
Status: offline 		Many people prefer to be in a relationship with someone who has the same background; meaning ethnic, religious, socio-economic, education levels etc. If you already understand where each other is coming from, then you don't have the hurdles caused by miscommunication and unrealized expectations.

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RE: Black Dominants - 8/5/2007 9:45:17 AM   
sambamanslilgirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Pontificator

There are many subs who would not even consider speaking with let alone serving a Master or a Mistress of a different ethnicity.  Is this true?

where are you getting your info from?

i'm chained, owned and collared by a white Daddy ...in fact my last 2 formers were white as well.  you could say it's a hidden preference of mine to serve someone who's white rather than someone who's black due to how i was raised ...i naturally find it much easier for me chat with someone outside of my race because of my eclectic tastes, style, music and BDSM activities.  i'm not saying i'm prejudice against serving a black dom - just i've never considered serving one especially when i haven't met one.


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RE: Black Dominants - 8/5/2007 9:54:10 AM   
greeneyes1962


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Status: offline 		I'm sure there are those who would not submit to a dominant of another ethnicity, just
as there are those who would not be in a vanilla relationship with someone of another
ethnicity.

But I've also noticed many inter-racial BDSM relationships.

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RE: Black Dominants - 8/5/2007 10:57:36 AM   
Rover


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Status: offline 		I don't see where the BDSM community differs in any way from society as a whole as it relates to inter-racial couples.  Some are ok with it, some dig it, some don't like it.  Whatever floats your boat.
 
I don't know how or why people continually perceive the BDSM community as substantively different from the whole of society.
 
John
 
P.S. - Interestingly enough, as someone who has owned several women who are racial minorities, it has been my personal experience that the greatest amount of expressed prejudice came from other minorities.

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RE: Black Dominants - 8/5/2007 11:05:19 AM   
DarkWriter


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Status: offline 		Rover,
You could not be more on target with that observation! My ex-wife is black and I am white and I can tell you that we got more crap from black men than anyone else. Black women were supportive and, for the most part, intrigued, but it seemed to violate some black male ideal of the world. It didn't bother me personally except that it hurt her and so I ended up in lots of confrontations over it.

And I would happily do it all over again!

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RE: Black Dominants - 8/5/2007 11:28:25 AM   
sambamanslilgirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Rover


 
P.S. - Interestingly enough, as someone who has owned several women who are racial minorities, it has been my personal experience that the greatest amount of expressed prejudice came from other minorities.

when i was married to my ex (who's Mexican), i found acceptance and respect within the Hispanic community (and not because of our bi-racial daughters) than i did within my own race.  black women would think i was a babysitter/nanny and NOT the mother to my own UMs  ...people only saw the prettiness of having interracial UMs when they realized i was their mother.  the only place i've found acceptance was within in my own family since it's bi-racial as well.


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RE: Black Dominants - 8/5/2007 11:32:02 AM   
SirEbonyPhoenix


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From: My realm in Central Indiana (you guess where :P)
Status: offline 		As a Dominant of color, let me say that while I personally prefer a submissive/slave/switch of color, to me, what really counts is their character, their honesty, their willingness and their dedication to who they are. Ironically, I have yet to play/scene with a sub/slave/switch of color, but have gained a great deal of experience by scening with a few white subs/slaves as it is my belief that they are more open to play without regard to what race a Dominant is because once again, character, honesty, willingness and dedication are much more important.  

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RE: Black Dominants - 8/5/2007 1:32:32 PM   
BayBgirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Pontificator

I have noticed that the BDSM lifestyle has not caught up with today's society.  There are many subs who would not even consider speaking with let alone serving a Master or a Mistress of a different ethnicity.  Is this true?


In my experience, i think it is the other way around...i think interracial "couples" or pairs are more common in the lifestyle than in society in general...

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RE: Black Dominants - 8/5/2007 9:01:23 PM   
SireKane


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Status: offline 		I am a black dominant man.  The majority of dominant black males I know, including myself,  are in interracial relationships.

Kane

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RE: Black Dominants - 8/5/2007 9:18:07 PM   
LATEXBABY64


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Status: offline 		OK if i see another thing about race thingys i am going to scream... i do not know what part of the world people keep coming up with concepts like this  but i will tell you this. if you fell the world has just pissed in your wheaties. thats on you. all i know is how i treat someone and lead by example. so I know if i treat everyone honestly and fairly. then i did the right thing... for me.. there is nothing anyone can do about people who have a mind set.... that is their choice and it is their right.... we talk about rights in this country.. you have a right to speak out or be or do... or just be you. if your feeling separated from the rest of the comunity get out and be a leader quiet whining about things the lifestyle is made up of people who enjoy something different from the norm so we are all in this together ...now give it a rest lol

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RE: Black Dominants - 8/5/2007 9:29:20 PM   
badgirl64


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Status: offline 		MasterLDeSade....

You are my hero!  Thank you for saying the truth out loud!  I couldn't agree with you more!

Mistress Carla

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RE: Black Dominants - 8/5/2007 9:36:22 PM   
marieToo


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Pontificator

Tell me. . . I have noticed that the BDSM lifestyle has not caught up with today's society.  There are many subs who would not even consider speaking with let alone serving a Master or a Mistress of a different ethnicity.  Is this true?


I would consider serving a black man or someone of a different ethnicity, but I certainly do not condemn anyone who wants to only involve themselves with their own ethnicity or skin color or whathaveyou.  I dont think it has anything to do with bdsm "catching up with today's society".  People have preferences--pure and simple-- and they shouldn't be condemned for them.

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RE: Black Dominants - 8/6/2007 12:51:11 AM   
awmslave


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Status: offline 		I had a black mistress for three years. I moved to other area but we still have very good relationship. Only bad remarks I remember came from black men in vanilla  settings.

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RE: Black Dominants - 8/6/2007 8:22:57 AM   
DarkWriter


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Status: offline 		Thank you! My experience precisely!

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RE: Black Dominants - 8/8/2007 11:05:00 PM   
Gwynvyd


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Status: offline 		I think interracial realtionships of every flavor are becoming more acceptable in soceity. On average from what I have seen personaly I have noticed a lot of IR in BDSM. Maybe it is because folks who ingage in BDSM tend to be more open minded in general? In my personal exp. I am open to just about everyone. Just play nice is all I ask, and be a decent person. Male, female, trans, black, white, yellow, red, green whatever. I like the person for who they are.. not what. Of course I do have my preferances... I adore Black Doms.. I just do. all the ones I have had personal dealings with were respectful, dedicated, and damn yummy. I have even served one from here. ( being a Domme, that was interesting ) My now ex girfriend is Cuban. ( her family hates me.. but oh well.) My first 4 girlfriends were black. My son's father is white. I have dated Asians as well... Your milage will vary~ there are good people and goobers from every walk of life. I choose to not be fussy about what sex or race someone is.. but I am very picky about everything else. If someone has a preferance for one or the other.. that's thier walk and thier decison. Just like I am not fond of men with super curly/frizzy hair. We all have the right to choose. As long as they arent nasty about it, and think less of others who are open to other options I say live and let live.

The world if full of prejudice and goobers. ( you will know this if you read my blog.. I complain about it all the time) It is no different in the lifestyle. What is out there is here as well.. people will be people. Just because they live in the lifestyle does not make them any more Noble of spirit. Gods I wish it did.

Good luck to A/all in thier searching.

Gwyn

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RE: Black Dominants - 8/11/2007 3:26:44 PM   
SubJordanTyler


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Status: offline 		Not for me.  I would actually prefer to be owned by a black domme............just much harder to find, at least in my personal experiences.

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RE: Black Dominants - 8/12/2007 6:25:25 PM   
MasterLDesade


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Status: offline 		Mistress Carla , Your welcome , The Truth cannot be hidden and will not be , those raised with racial bigotry and theory have the most difficulty adgusting their value system later on in life .
                 Regards
                               MasterLDeSade

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RE: Black Dominants - 8/12/2007 10:48:54 PM   
gemy


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Status: offline 		Pontificator - i will answer this without having read any of the thread --- yet.  i had not considered an ebony Master for various reasons.  so far, in the time i have been here, 3 black Men got through my resistence to it and talked me into thinking maybe it wouldn't be bad.  all 3 were fuckers.  won't do it again. period end of story. sorry for anyOne who's a true Dom that is a black Man, but 3 others ruined it .... not that i'm the greatest catch or anything, but it is what it is.

gemmie

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