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beargonewild -> RE: Breaking Free (8/9/2007 9:07:45 AM)
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ORIGINAL: asubmissiveheart
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ORIGINAL: brightspot
Let's see[sm=idea.gif], You broke up with Robert 3 weeks ago and you are now thinking of travaling 8 hours to meet a possible new person to bring into your life.
So, you must of had to have some time to get to know this person a little bit before setting up your plans correct?
If so then you must have started looking for this new person shortly after what you have described as a heartbreaking break-up to you, even though on good terms and you can't stand being in your house because everything reminds you of Robert.
Going to Minneapolis for the Ren Faire to get out and clear your head is one thing and maybe even a good thing. But going to meet a possible new person to take into your life and Ren Faire is just an added bonus is where I start to think WTF?
For myself, if I loved as hard as you have described and this person still means so much to me that I have to leave my home because thoughts of them are haunting me, would be a HUGE red flag warning me that I am so self involved around my pain that I would be willing to bring an innocent person with desires to maybe find and have a healthy relationship, into my life for my selfish reasons and to entertain me to forget thoughts about another.
I just don't see it as a responsible, well thought out, adult decision and not giving a smidget of a thought of what I am going to put this other person through as I try to forget "Robert".
I also find it suspicious for you to come here for opinions about "your plans" when Robert comes here and reads the forums and here you are going on about his personal business. I find it somewhat tacky and thoughtless, especially how you claim to still hold him dear.
To be honest I think Robert made a good healthy choice in finding the door and taking leave.
Missy.
P.S. When you get close to Mpls. don't go on 35W to get into the city, the bridge is out[&:].
Brightspot we are two of the few here, that think this is very odd behavior.
I have noticed that Dominants are rarely judged as harshly as submissives online.
Dominants are rarely accused of behavior that is questionable, especially Female Dominants.
If nothing else, this is a great case of a Dominants behavior that could be considered off-base and possibly
out of control.
It is a good example that Dominants often don't make the best decisions, and for submissives to be very
careful in choosing the person that they are willing to submit to.
I would encourage any submissive to get to know their Dominant very well before making any serious committment,
especially moving.
This situation may save or spare many.
Pulease......we subs can engage in odd behavior, make poor choices, make bad desicions also. All one has to do is look through the threads, current and past to see how Doms get so fed up with the questuionable behavior of subs and the same goes with threads from subs complaining about questionable behavior of Doms. The fact is WE are all human, prone to making mistakes, prone to not being perfect.
As a sub, I find it is great to see a Dom who is willing to show a part of herself to us, a part that many Doms usually don't show to anyone other they the people who are close to them. This goes to prove that dominants aren't the "cold hearted, unemotional beings" which many subs/slaves tend to believe.
Even if we (generalizing this) think Donna's choice is inappropiate, it is not for any of us to judge. Seems to me in her original post, she simply stated she's meeting this person. Nowhere had she said this is serious, this is a replacement, or anything of that nature. Meeting could simply be going for coffee to talk nothing more and nothing less.
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