LaTigresse
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My honest opinion. Most people only want to hear sympathetic platitudes.
On some level I think they already know the truth they just don't want to face it so they toss their dirty linen out for everyone to see, hoping that someone will tell them it really isn't as dirty as they already know it is.
I have said many times that, when something annoys me, I know I need to take a closer look at it. Why, because it is usually something I need to deal with. Something I have been avoiding. The annoyance is my subconcious telling me to pay attention, I have work to do.......work on ME. Usually something rather unpleasant, something I don't want to own and take responsibility for. It would be great if I could just sit back, pretend that it is the person that annoyed me's fault for being annoying then I can ignore what I need to be doing within myself. But, what good does that do me???
Advice or words that rankle us and hit near a nerve, tend to do that. Piss us off, make us defensive, make us come out all huffy and self rightous, and usually we end up making a royal ass of ourselves. Only we are sooooooo self rightously upset at all the big meanies that gave it to us straight, we are the only ones that fail to see how bloody, awful, stupid we look.
I see that alot on here and it is rather sad. People struggling with their issues, most people can see the problem immediately, especially if it is someone with a relatively long posting history, yet they just refuse to "GET IT". Instead they berate everyone that didn't double layer sugar coat everything and tell them how okay they really are and blah blah blah, ick, puke.
Personally I believe in dealing with my shit under the radar. It is just my way. I think I know me and my stuff better than anyone else. I have always kept my stuff close and inside, so to deal with things in this manner makes sense.
I do get a fair amount of people asking me for advice or telling me their problems. They do it because they know I won't sugar coat it. I won't be needlessly cruel but I will get my point across in whatever way is going to work best for the person in front of me. And most of all, I am honest and will not run around telling others about their shit. I kinda think that is important.
But as for what comes out on here. Well, we are all supposed to be adults and we all choose to be on this site. If someone takes the time to do any reading on the threads prior to putting their shit out here for our consumption yet want to choose the feedback they get......they are fools and will get what they get, for it. We all talk about taking responsibility for our stuff, generally that is interpreted as the stuff we put out, what we write, the attitudes we send out. Well I also feel that there is a flipside to taking responsibility and that is how we process everyone else's stuff. We choose to take offense or not. Neither side of that equasion is without responsibility. To say otherwise is immature and ignorant.
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My twisted, self deprecating, sense of humour, finds alot to laugh about, in your lack of one!
Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!
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RE: Do people want to hear the truth or get their hands... - 
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. Thanks for pointing out the distinction and for saying that needing validation from time to time isn't all bad. I think we all need it occasionally - whether we can easily admit that or not. Thanks Kyra...........luci 
" is when people ask questions that can easily and more appropriately answered elsewhere, but they're either too dense or to lazy to do a quick search on the net. 
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