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RE: Apology to ALL! - 8/6/2007 5:34:00 PM

unsung

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I travelled back to some of these 60 or so posts you made quickly and do have to concur with many here although I sense they are a retake or spin off of your profile being spewed across many posts, alot of view point without any real question or bases to a question. As a submissives your posts have little value to me, new or old. But I guess thanks for the apology is in order anyhow.

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RE: Apology to ALL! - 8/6/2007 5:38:10 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Stephann

quote:

ORIGINAL: BIllCT

Growth over the years has taken a slow and painful process actually now that you mention that. Because growth can only happen if you directly involved in the lifestyle with a full time partner. Each step is touchy learning first that as the Dom you must remain in control of yourself and the situation your in and the submissive your with. Then learning the use of each toy, impliment, device can be pretty touchy too, unless you don't care about what your doing and rush in.
For instance, a tens unit and a violet wand for electric play, these devices can severly damage a person if used wrong or in the wrong place on the body, causing heart problems is not a way to a good time.
Also, impliments for spanking or whipping or cropping, takes a while to learn how to use each one, so your not inflcting damage on anyone and to pop em properly and control em. Same with cuffs which everyone wants to use and thinks are so hot to play with but if you don't double lock them they can hard someone also.

And your vast experience in the use of Tens units or Violet wands would be.....? How do you define damage? Have you worn cuffs before? Exactly what part of this post could I not find in ten minutes on castlerealm.com?

Stephan

Everyone is just saying it for me tonight. Please....tell me of your vast experiences (I own and use with proficiency, a violet wand by the way so be careful how you reply)

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RE: Apology to ALL! - 8/6/2007 5:49:47 PM

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ORIGINAL: BIllCT
But the truth is I am asking the questions so newbies and others who have no knowledge or experience in D/s or BDSM can find the answers thats number one.

As someone who is not new to BDSM and who learned about B&D and S&M by living it, rather than by reading about it, i feel very sorry for anyone new to BDSM who is looking to learn about it on the CM forums. Other than getting links for finding local groups and information about upcoming events or recommendations about toys and books, etc. (which are all good things), the main thing, (from what i have seen), that a newbie (and anyone else) is going to be exposed to by reading these boards, is that a lot of people here are very narrow-minded and highly judgmental of anyone with viewpoints and styles that are different from their own. It seems to me that a newbie could easily become bewildered and dismayed about BDSM, if they relied solely on what they read here. Even the definitions of the terms used within BDSM (including the term BDSM, itself) often causes such controversy and debate that a thread can quickly become sidetracked away from the original topic, not to mention the back-and-forth bickering that usually pops-up somewhere within most of the threads here. It seems to me, there is often more bickering over individual style or personality than there is actual discussion of the topic. It's really a shame, too. It would be nice if there were more sticking to the topic and less nitpicking over such things as "proper" grammar and spelling, and what amounts to individual style, in terms of expressive writing, as well as in terms of living a D/s or M/s lifestyle, for instance. Everyone has a right to express themself in their own individual style, both in how they speak and write, as well as in how they choose to live. BDSM is open to all. And, that includes people from different countries, different cultural backgrounds, different walks of life, different education levels, and different tastes and styles. It's my sincere hope that anyone who either stumbles onto this site, with little, if any, prior knowledge of BDSM or comes here by way of hearing about it in a chat room somewhere, will remember that there's no "BDSM experts" or "BDSM gurus" here or anywhere else, for that matter, and that what you read posted on here is opinion, based on the individual experience and ideas of the person posting, and that's all it is. These are opinions only and, hopefully, anyone who is new to BDSM will realize that and not take these opinions as some sort of carved-in-stone facts that must be followed by all. Hopefully, anyone new to BDSM will learn more from living it than by reading about it. Everyone has their own opinion.......this happens to be mine. slave joyOwned property of Master David "Commitment transforms a promise into a reality."

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RE: Apology to ALL! - 8/6/2007 6:28:17 PM

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fast reply

i concur with what everyone posted before ...and as i posted on another thread of yours, it's rather difficult having a one-sided discussion if the OP doesn't join in as well.

good luck.

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RE: Apology to ALL! - 8/6/2007 6:39:41 PM

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Bill and Lady Huggs are an inspiration to us all.....I don't understand why people feel the need to tear down the very pillars that CM was established upon.

I would kind of like to watch those two fuck....Is that sick?

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RE: Apology to ALL! - 8/6/2007 6:44:09 PM

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To the OP..first off apology accepted. Secondly, I hope many realize that not all people are proficient in conveying thoughts or ideas well in the written form, and thus can be greatly misunderstood. And thirdly..I have a great admiration for Lady Hugs and find the somewhat consistent decrying of her by person(s) in various threads to be a bit childish, and carries with it a bit of infantile playground behavior..Tempting

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RE: Apology to ALL! - 8/6/2007 10:10:19 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: domiguy

Bill and Lady Huggs are an inspiration to us all.....I don't understand why people feel the need to tear down the very pillars that CM was established upon.

I would kind of like to watch those two fuck....Is that sick?

ew.

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RE: Apology to ALL!/ MIssPandora - 8/7/2007 12:34:29 AM

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quote:

But the truth is I am asking the questions so newbies and others who have no knowledge or experience in D/s or BDSM can find the answers thats number one. Number two to get people to interact with each other in all ways possible is why I posted them.

so you are the substitute teacher this week?

and the hall monitor?

So, you didn't really want the answers for yourself? it was to help newbies? oook. gottcha.

laffs.

I enjoy reading questions because people often (unlike yours) really ask for help or advice genuinely as others have said. I like answering, the best I can, whether it is similar to other's responses and it gives another response in aiding the person with a decision or maybe a different viewpoint to give them another option. My experience is LIFE. If I don't know it, I don't guess, I back off and I don't reply. But, I hope to God no newby reads mine and learns anything BDSM from me. I tend to stay clear of commenting on acts I have yet to commit. (should you do the same?)

But for someone to ask questions to later say they were merely fartin' around and doing it as a 'public service'??

Then later, after people have told you why your questions were offensive you continue on disregarding the origional apology to discuss wands, cuffs, whips etc etc??? where out of thin air did that come from? Are you not reading the responses? Are you in charge of teaching use of those impliments also?

I know where to come if I had questions, I would come here and get my answers/ advice., others are right, your questions are belittling and insulting.

I did warn you days ago to stop f*kn around, and you obviously thought I was joking. I wasn't. Wasn't sure of your game, but never suspected it was this sort of reasoning. uhhg.

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RE: Apology to ALL! - 8/7/2007 12:48:57 AM

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Hi all!

Been a member of collarme for some time, but have only been observing from afar. Decided to venture into the chat forums today and check them out.. and must say, I never realised that fetish/lifestyle forums could be so political! After reading many of the posts in here, im afraid im going to inadvertantly say something wrong! lol Only kidding! Just really introducing myself and giving everyone a wave to say hi!

- Miss J

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RE: Apology to ALL! - 8/7/2007 2:55:29 AM

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hi rubbercouplemelb:

The unspoken rules:
1. Thou shalt not treat others as if they were dumber than the knot on a log
2. Thou shalt not make ridiculous excuses for foot in mouth disease - we all get it from time to time - just acknowledge and move on
3. Thou shalt develop skin tougher than a shoe to protect one's self from the foot and mouth disease of others
4. Thou shalt avail theyself of the search function - or ask LA... she's one FIIINE searcher
5. Thou shalt recognize that thou does not know everything about everything and that sometimes, more is learned through reading than speaking
6. Thou shalt understand that there are lots of people here from many parts of the world and that their cultures often color the tone and style of their posts
7. Thou shalt not send money to whereever it is people are soliciting funds for these days
8. Thou shalt avail thyself of the spell check function or risk the wrath of the spelling obsessed
9. Thou shalt read what thy wrote before hitting "ok"
10. Thou shalt do thy best to avail thyself of the practice of using paragraphs, periods, commas and so on, so as to avoid one large run-on sentence. (This is NOT the Guinness World Book of Records and no points are scored for one sentence paragraphs.
10a. Thou shalt recognize that an elipses (...) is no substitute for a good old fashioned period (.)
11. Thou shalt be aware that the little vanilla cone under thy name is simply an icon for newer posters and has no bearing on anyone's view of thou as being somehow <gasp> vanilla.
12. Thou shalt recognize that a) people don't always respond to solicitations from others, b) people are not always kind c) people are the same as thou would find anywhere outside of bdsm d) Castle Realm isn't the be-all-end-all of bdsm.
13. THOU SHALT NOT WHINE

I'm sure others have more, but those are my rules. Welcome.

juliet

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RE: Apology to ALL! - 8/7/2007 2:58:23 AM

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ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark

After a week or two, your posts will have disappeared from the Radar unless you bump them, which is against TOS and will get you on moderation from the Mods.

Your questions don't really 'help' new people, because they are slightly pointless and badly phrased. They are confusing. And they are myth builders.

Your not upsetting anyone, just taking up bandwidth with annoying and slightly, seemingly desperate, questions and moving the more thoughtful and personal questions to the bottom of the pile. It is causing more harm to the genuine questions and is thoughtless to others.

Peace
the.dark.

Not to hijack intentionally, but I was a bit curious about this. Often, when a thread I have started has hit the end of it's shelf life, I will go back and thank those who participated before it dies it's natural death. Is this also considered "bumping" the thread? Thanks in advance.

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RE: Apology to ALL! - 8/7/2007 3:08:43 AM

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Hello LadyPact

As far as I have seen and read from the mods, a bump is when someone posts *bump* and nothing else and moves the post to the top of a forum (it used to happen quite a bit when I first started visiting here a few years back) and sometimes people would post that they were just adding to the end of a thread that was months old because they thought it should be back at the top of the forum. I don't believe that thanking people for contributing to a thread is considered 'bumping'.
But I may be mistaken - a mod would be able to tell us if I am wrong hey...

Peace
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RE: Apology to ALL! - 8/7/2007 4:19:11 AM

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Not a mod, but I have the (mis?)fortune of having been here since the days before this forum existed. The oldies might recall that there was a brief run with a different message board system that was scrapped after a few weeks.

Bumping, means pushing the thread back up, for no other reason than to get it on top. Saying thank you, is not only acceptable, but downright polite; it means whoever started the thread gets a kudo, and is likely to post again. Which, of course, is the point of having this board (and, incidentally, help drive traffic to the site, which helps pay the bills.)

Stephan

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RE: Apology to ALL!/ MIssPandora - 8/7/2007 5:27:13 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyLynx

Hmm I'm curious now. I've always liked what Lady Hugs has to say.

LadyLynx,
Just because Michael doesnt find her authentic or credible, should not persaude any one to change their mind about how one should or would feel about another member.

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RE: Apology to ALL!/ MIssPandora - 8/7/2007 7:22:50 AM

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The other post from the other poster was just plain english, you are getting close to trashing a member at will every chance you get....stirring the pot is not attractive, but that is just my $.02

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RE: Apology to ALL! - 8/7/2007 8:25:27 AM

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ORIGINAL: MzMia

Ahhh, thank you dark, for the clarification.
I am guility of often answering and responding on my own threads.

oh so i am i.... opps

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RE: Apology to ALL! - 8/7/2007 12:43:40 PM

came4U

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In that case, I accidentally bumped three (?) old dang threads this week. I will try not to do that again, although the subjects were interesting. Some threads are but very few responded, curious to what happened to the poster and what they were discussing, the outcome.

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RE: Apology to ALL! - 8/7/2007 12:48:54 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: came4U
In that case, I accidentally bumped three (?) old dang threads this week. I will try not to do that again, although the subjects were interesting. Some threads are but very few responded, curious to what happened to the poster and what they were discussing, the outcome.

And yet people still get pissed when I post links to old threads.

The great tragedy of all forums is that most people throw up very good issues in their relationship, and then disappear so we never see the resolution.

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RE: Apology to ALL! - 8/7/2007 1:31:18 PM

came4U

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yesss, Ms. Albatross,

it makes it even harder for the advice-givers to know if they were even accurate or if posting was real by not knowing the eventual outcome. I tend to learn more from the outcome than the actual question and answers. I want to seeeee results *cries.

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RE: Apology to ALL! - 8/7/2007 1:44:05 PM

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she admits that she has never seemed to have read one of your posts either here....
it is with understanding about the education of newbies that truly are interested in learning and growing within this Way, at one time....all of us were of this status....
being able to share with others of experience is also very satisfying...
but there seems to be too many on this site and others that offer advise and has NO experience, NO idea what they are talking about...NO idea what the Lifestyle is.....

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