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Padriag -> RE: Dom/Domme Romance (8/7/2007 2:39:53 PM)
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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael
I agree with much of what Padriag said (as usual)
Does this mean I'm habit forming? [;)]
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but disagree on one aspect, I don't think it HAS to be as equals, it has to be as partners, meaning you work together not against each other.
I think the difference is a matter of perspective. Reading your remarks about your relationship, you aren't equals, but then she's also submissive with you. Ava seems to be in a situation where neither is nor is going to be submissive to the other, and in that case I think they have to learn to view and respect each other as equals to avoid the constant power struggles. Taggard said something that I think demonstrates this very well.
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ORIGINAL: TallDarkAndWitty
When Elle and I first got together, I think she was really worried about that. She had never met a dominant man who wouldn't get his back up if she asked him to do something. Personally, I don't find dominance in refusing to do simple things for the lady I love (nor do I find submission in doing them either).
Sounds very much like what I was trying to get at. Neither is submitting or dominating (or attemting to) the other, they simply respect the other for who they are and work together... very much, as you said, a partnership.
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Communication isn't talking or moving your lips, it is openly and deeply sharing which means making yourself vulnerable to your partner and trusting them with that vulnerability. Talking about the Mets isn't communicating, talking about your fear of losing power or appearing weak or whatever your issues are with him and the relationship, THAT is what real communication is all about.
Nicely put.
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'course having a fuck buddy isn't bad either but having a partner, one who knows you deeply and intimately and whom you can trust with that, that is pricelss.
I agree, which is why I'm quite picky about those companions.
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