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ORIGINAL: Focus50
As always, you can try talking to him about it but I get the feeling he won't be listening because this relationship seems all about his needs only.

Now this is more familiar territory Focus, we did too much of that uncomfortable agreeing thang last time *g*

There is nothing here to suggest that "The relationship seems to be about His needs only". There are more Dynamics out there than the 24/7 one. There are many reasons why people enter into a regular sub/playpartner arrangement and they are usualy for mutual benifit. Both get something from it, else one side or the other would not enter into such..... unless they are being deceptive and thinking once they have their 'foot in the door' they can manipulate a change in the agreed terms.

Here it looks like a simple case of feelings developing and needs growing past the confines of the agreed situation. A risk it is always worth considering BEFORE entering into such. her needs  have changed and either the relationship needs to change OR she needs a new relationship end of story. There is no wrong doing on the others part if all they have done was stick to what the origional terms where.

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Well it is just a gut feeling on my part, given the obvious lack of input from the OP's partner.  But until I see further detail, I'm comfortable with what I've said.
 
I'm also comfortable with the Universe back in symmetry when we don't agree.  lol  Of course that puts you in the questionable position of my bracketing you alongside my incumbent shadow, SimplyMike.  Not a team I'd wanna be stuck in....  lmao
 
Take care until next we try it with the gloves off again.... *wink*
 
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Given there is nothing in the OP on which to base the opinion that her Dom taken no notice of the girls needs... because she doesn't even indicate she has broached the matter with Him, also it is about needs developing that have outgrown the limits of the relationship as it was origionaly agreed.... she gives no indication that the needs she had that drew her to that origional arrangement where not met... in fact quite the opposite, things obviously work well, maybe TOO well because she wants more of Him, more than He had offered and she accepted those limits in accepting the initial arrangement.

So it isn't coming from the OP, if anything as I just pointed out, the indications there are quite the opposite, but it is Your 'gut feeling'.... so where is that coming from?

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Possibly a little bit of "I am Dom hear Me roar" from  You? A bit of "If they are not Me then they are obviously doing it wrong"? Oh uberDommly gruntfuttock and grand high poohbah of the Domlyverse 

How about it's just *my* personal opinion; we all still have that right, no?  All these colourful cliched exaggerations you fire at me - they betray just how threatened you feel around me, don'tcha know.... 

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Ahhhhh Y'know, it feels GOOD to have the universe back in balance, there is something quite wrong when We end up on the same side of things