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mnottertail -> RE: Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. (8/9/2007 6:15:39 AM)
I wish we had a little counter we could look up to see how many people have blocked us....that would rather twink me some; I think, to see how big my number was. Ron

earthycouple -> RE: Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. (8/9/2007 6:16:25 AM)
Add me to the list of blocked because blocking, announcing you are blocking and then announcing how at least half of us piss you off enough to be blocked only shows very little growth and adulthood on your part. I feel: Submissive or dominant....everyone deserves to be given some credit til they discredit themselves. Having an opinion on something does not discredit someone. How they approach said opinion...that's another story. Most people here approach their opinions with respect and clarity. LA always does (that I've seen). Those with whom we approach as if they are jackasses, is because they approach us like a jackass. Call a spade a spade.

slaveish -> RE: Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. (8/9/2007 6:18:30 AM)
Egad. You blocked LA for stating something realistic? She wasn't being sarcastic or rude to you which makes your pronouncement seem to be the very lack of respect you were so ranting against. Block away, sweet. No one's going to care.

Aileen68 -> RE: Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. (8/9/2007 6:20:35 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MissSCD LA, I don't know who you are or what your problem is, but you are now blocked. Pretty soon, half of this site will be blocked on my list. Regards, MissSCD My oh my...but that was rude. Is your slave taking notes?

Viridana -> RE: Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. (8/9/2007 6:23:15 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MissSCD I think MzMia is close to right on this one. The entire issue is cursing at another person. LA, I don't know who you are or what your problem is, but you are now blocked. Pretty soon, half of this site will be blocked on my list. My slave was trained in NYC 30 years ago, and I can assure you that he can distingush between geniune and idiots. It is my rule for him to treat all Dom/mes with respect. Which simply means Yes Ma'am or Yes Sir. I say Yes Ma'am and Yes Sir. Regards, MissSCD I'm wondering.... where do switches fit in all of this?

Cyntilating -> RE: Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. (8/9/2007 6:25:00 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: feastie No one should ever curse anyone else out, online, in public, dominant or submissive. However, no one should ever feel a sense of entitlement due to his/her orientation, except with regard to a perosn who has agreed to submit to him/her. feastie, all I could think about when I read your words >" no one should ever curse anyone out in public" was that >>> You have obviously never driven on the highway in Atlanta....LOL groan... ...it brings out the worst in me at times : (

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. (8/9/2007 6:27:00 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MissSCD You do not have to submit to another Dom/me, but you should show respect for them as we do their sub/slaves. i have a problem with your "should" part at the end here. how about the titled dom/mes population start by setting the example of showing resepect first to us submissives/slaves or is that too beneath your titled selves? i don't appreciate being appraoched with "can't wait to fuck your black cunt while your Daddy watches" type of private messages - is that showing respect to me when that person knows i'm a chained and collared submissive ...so do i in turn show this person respect in my reply back to him ...thanking him for such a lovely suggestion? HELL NO ...he'll get the flaming of his life before i delete the message and block him.

felicitousdove -> RE: Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. (8/9/2007 6:33:19 AM)
People are people regardless of role or sexual orientation. I too was taught to be respectful to other Dominants, as well as other submisives. Good manners are not exclusive only to the lifestyle. As someone else said here: 'Good manners are lacking in general in todays society.' I do think there is a difference between good manners and differential treatment of Dominants. I apply common curtousy, good manners and all of the other social graces when in the comapny of other Dominants... However, when it comes to differential treatment; That is reserved for the one who holds the key to my collar, as well as those whose trust and respect have been earned over time.

camille65 -> RE: Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. (8/9/2007 6:33:33 AM)
Add in the fact that when in a chat room you really have no idea if they are actually a dom or master. Yes indeedy respect IS a two-way street. It is exhausting and irritating to recieve PMs like sambama mentioned while the person is in main demanding respect from the awful subbie. Yes I used the word subbie on purpose because that is often how we are seen. It is all up to the mods in a chat room, if it is okay by them then you just have to put up with it or change rooms or.. begin your own where you can monitor it as you wish to.

MistressCass -> RE: Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. (8/9/2007 6:35:59 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MissSCD My slave was trained in NYC 30 years ago, and I can assure you that he can distingush between geniune and idiots. It is my rule for him to treat all Dom/mes with respect. Which simply means Yes Ma'am or Yes Sir. I say Yes Ma'am and Yes Sir. Regards, MissSCD Let me see if I have this right. Your sub, who has been in the lifestyle 30 years can instantly tell that the jerk in the corner of a munch talking trash about their choice of activites is Dom or sub? And if that jerk comes over and starts telling your sub to kneel and lick his boots , your sub will reply with "yes Sir/Ma'am"??? Do I have it right? Cuz that's not how I train my sub. I might tell him to always use "sir" or "ma'am" when talking to someone they know is Dom, but if they are talking to someone who is a jerk, they can call them by their earned name....."asshole"....Sir, if you insist.... (sitting here chuckling over one sub who did exactly that and got quiet applause from the people who heard the conversation...he was very polite.....said "I'm sorry I am having a hard time remembering your name, Sir. It was "Sir Asshole??" Then he stood there almost at attention waiting for an answer. Never got one, the insulting Dom turned and left the event) My point is Respect is earned.....if you act like a jerk you're gonna get treated like one, no matter what self proclaimed So and So your online name says you are.

MissIsis -> RE: Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. (8/9/2007 6:41:10 AM)
I am curious as to what you consider rude & disrespectful? Generally, I try to be respectful to everyone, unless given a reason not to be. Even then, I will usually just start ignoring them. Unless, someone becomes my submissive, I don't expect any different treatment from a submissive, slave, or dominant. Of course, online chat rooms have their own set of rules, which is fine, & I would think it proper to follow their outlined protocols. Good manners to me, means being polite, & treating others as I would like to be treated, no matter what their title. I will never forget, years ago, when I was much younger, I was on the phone with someone who had a doctorate. I was not talking to this person about anything to do with their profession. I even called him, Mister. I had the audacity & the nerve to not call him Dr. so & so. He informed me that he had a doctorate & I was supposed to call him dr. I have never bought much into titles, so the next piece of the conversation, I said you know, Mr. so & so...... I am sure I frustrated the guy, but in my line of thinking, we are all equal unless, there is a special relationship to which it applies to us. If I go to my physician for a physical ailment, of course, I will call him dr. If I meet a different doctor in public, they are just another Mr. or Ms. in my eyes, regardless of their privileged title. I think the maid at a hotel I stay at, is just as entitled to be called Miss, as is a fellow Mistress I may meet at a lifestyle event, maybe moreso. Maybe I am wrong, but my point for telling that story is this, our perceptions of good manners may just be different to each of us. What one's mentor may have considered good manners & proper etiquette, may not apply in every situation or in another mentor or dominants eyes. For the most part, the people I come into contact with, or that contact me, as submissives have always been polite & considerate to me, as have most of the dominants I have been in contact with. I just don't find it to be a problem for me.

GhitaAmati -> RE: Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. (8/9/2007 6:44:51 AM)
I say Sir and Maam to everyone, dom or sub alike....kinda always raised that its the polite way to address any person, and last time I checked we were all people. Always thought to treat everyone with the same amount of common courtesy, and if a person feels you should use something less formal they will tell you....now...let me add next that only goes for others who are at least making an effort to act civilised, i am not gonna say sir or maam to some idiot who walks up to me at a munch and says "kneel, bitch" of course, ive never had that happen at a munch..seems to only happen online...so I wonder, all those Doms who feel thats the perfect opening line for an email, would you use it at a play party when introducing yourself to a sub? And what are we supposed to call switches? OH yea...MISS Bitch, Ma'am.......hehe

favesclava -> RE: Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. (8/9/2007 6:50:33 AM)
i was never submissive till Master found me. i am submissive only to Him. i am to address people who join us at events or at His place by Sir or Ma'm til i know if they're subs or Dom's because its a direct order.. i will not allow anyone to disrespect me ever. the forums here sometimes give me a reason to act up. if you put up something i disagree or is just plain stupid i will treat it as such and join the sharks. i will not get riled up when it happens to my posts. am i blocked yet?

windchymes -> RE: Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. (8/9/2007 6:51:10 AM)
Wow, somebody needs to open up a can of "Get Over Yourself" [:D] (Block me too!!!!)

mnottertail -> RE: Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. (8/9/2007 6:51:44 AM)
If you don't whip them fuckin' panties off right now so I can see that ass, I am gonna block you. Ron

favesclava -> RE: Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. (8/9/2007 6:54:32 AM)
sorry Ron. you may see a bit more on my profile pics but not much. i have one where i'm wearing a thong and black leather chaps. ps. it was virgin when that pic was taken.

mnottertail -> RE: Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. (8/9/2007 6:56:17 AM)
that is a pretty decent pooper, you are now unblocked. Ron

favesclava -> RE: Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. (8/9/2007 7:02:17 AM)
off topic here. the sprinklers came on i'm going outside with a white tshirt no bra and run around getting wet....later

GhitaAmati -> RE: Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. (8/9/2007 7:05:53 AM)
SEE...now THAT is an example of a sub being very frikkin rude....telling us stuff like that when we cant do anything about it

BRNaughtyAngel -> RE: Proper Manners from a sub to a Dom/me. (8/9/2007 7:07:14 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: GhitaAmati SEE...now THAT is an example of a sub being very frikkin rude....telling us stuff like that when we cant do anything about it I think you should block her. [;)] [sm=lol.gif] Hell I just wish I had her ass. [&:]

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