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Is a slave supposed to be ashamed of being Cucked? - 8/8/2007 11:26:34 PM

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Or is he supposed to relish it knowing that his Mistress is getting pleasure?

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RE: Is a slave supposed to be ashamed of being Cucked? - 8/8/2007 11:27:37 PM

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never could get into this, it's like watching porn...which i also don't get into

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RE: Is a slave supposed to be ashamed of being Cucked? - 8/8/2007 11:27:39 PM

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You're supposed to do what makes you happy. If it doesn't make you happy, find something else to try instead.

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RE: Is a slave supposed to be ashamed of being Cucked? - 8/8/2007 11:40:42 PM

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Or is he supposed to relish it knowing that his Mistress is getting pleasure?

There is no rule as to what you are supposed to feel. Some men hate it and would never stand for it; some men are very turned on by the idea/act, and therefore relish in it... As to whether they relish it because she's enjoying it, he (the slave) is enjoying it, or he's humiliated by it, but enjoys humiliation, is just among the possibilities of what happens when a relationship entails cuckoldry. M

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RE: Is a slave supposed to be ashamed of being Cucked? - 8/9/2007 6:22:25 AM

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You have to figure out what your limits and needs are then find someone who matches up, essentially and go from there. If you hate it, don't do it. If you get off on the humiliation aspect, great. If it's the hottest damn thing you've ever encountered be a cuck!

Only you can decide what is "ok" for you. If your partner insists on it and you consider it a hard limit; sounds like you have the wrong partner.

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RE: Is a slave supposed to be ashamed of being Cucked? - 8/9/2007 9:20:03 AM

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I've seen at least two threads of yours on the board asking "What is the right way to do ___________." I'm going to guess that you are new to BDSM. There is no one right answer to these questions. Everyone does thing differently (sometimes maddeningly so!). What is important to uncover is what motivates *you,* what pushes your buttons, and to then find the dominant who is the complement to this image.

I want a primary partner and also want to date outside that relationship. I like men who are motivated to accept this out of a desire to give pleasure. I imagine there would be some frission of humiliation or belittlement for the submissive in this situation. Shame, though, seems to strike deeper and implies emotional damage. I would not want to create that kind of dynamic.

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RE: Is a slave supposed to be ashamed of being Cucked? - 8/9/2007 8:38:00 PM

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From what I gather, some (or many for all I know) submissive men find it HOT that their partner would want to either engage in BDSM activity, or have sex, (or both) with another man - in front of them. In my experience, most of the time, these subs are into Humiliation as a kink (which I am also "into"). They like the feeling of being used or ignored, or their rights as a (conventional) person or partner not being adhered to - in favor of their Dommes wishes - to this "extreme" (or whatever).

I haven't tried Cuckolding as a "kink"- but I am not opposed to it.

However - I'll say that I've read it can get quite "messy" emotionally between 3 people IF everyone involved isn't "on board" and in much the same place emotionally. So it isn't anything I'd ever "just do" - without putting a lot of thought into how, and who I was dealing with, etc. - and making sure everyone sat down and discussed it first.

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RE: Is a slave supposed to be ashamed of being Cucked? - 8/9/2007 9:04:41 PM

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Depends on the relationship in question.

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RE: Is a slave supposed to be ashamed of being Cucked? - 8/9/2007 9:07:52 PM

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Great answer, RumpusParable. (really). - Susan

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RE: Is a slave supposed to be ashamed of being Cucked? - 8/10/2007 12:33:51 PM

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Yes, you should be happy for your Mistress. If you have a tight (maybe 24/7 and/or married) relationship, you should be happy for the pleasure your Misstress has, in the other case, you should be happy your present anyway.

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RE: Is a slave supposed to be ashamed of being Cucked? - 8/10/2007 4:09:06 PM

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I think I would be, it would never be anything i asked for that's for sure. But at the same time it's something i need to accept, I'm into small penis humiliation and cucking would be the next logical step with or with my knowledge...in most cases. I am generalizing with that last statement, I realize with the right partner that wouldn't be the case nor would size alone be the reason a partner would want to step out for a "real man", but at the same time I don't think i could blame her...

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RE: Is a slave supposed to be ashamed of being Cucked? - 8/10/2007 4:24:43 PM

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I think cuckold fetishism is somewhat about humiliation, typically, yes.

But if you're monogamous to a polyamorous person, you don't have to feel ashamed about it, and feeling happy that your partner is getting pleasure elsewhere is a lovely thing. I tend not to call this cuckoldry, though--cuckoldry, for me, designates the one where feeling shame and inequal authority is part of the point, part of what makes it worth doing.

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RE: Is a slave supposed to be ashamed of being Cucked? - 8/10/2007 9:21:16 PM

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Or is he supposed to relish it knowing that his Mistress is getting pleasure?

It's dependant upon the person. There are some who put their Mistresses/Masters happiness above their own and tolerate uncomfortable or painful situations.

There are some who step outside themselves and actually share in the happiness of their Owner even while a part of them is hurt or uncomfortable.

And, conversely, there are some who simply can not reach that level of unconditional love and selflessness and for them there is no relishing.

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RE: Is a slave supposed to be ashamed of being Cucked? - 8/10/2007 11:04:24 PM

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It's quite simple really i think.....

If he gives her on occasion something i can't give her and that makes her happy......

She is the centre of my universe, if she's happy i'm happy...........

Why would you be ashamed of seeing your Ma'am/wife/soulmate/best friend happy...

Different for each individual i guess but thats how i see it

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RE: Is a slave supposed to be ashamed of being Cucked? - 8/11/2007 3:09:55 AM

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Well put Mistress Dolly and 'onthenosetone' !! It should always be about the happiness of the Mistress!!!

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RE: Is a slave supposed to be ashamed of being Cucked? - 8/11/2007 3:29:19 AM

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Hmm Let me try commenting on this subject since its a serious interest of mine. Keep in mind i am speaking ONLY for myself but perhaps others can relate? For humiliation , yes a key factor. Try this, i wish to see IF it can happen to me and IF that special One Who chooses to do this is capable of making me do it. i do promise i am going to buck hard against it happening and that is a given. HOWEVER to pull such a feat off will be so defining in my own humiliation as well as fulfilling completion on who i will become. I seek it but i also am horrified by it. It will be THE total power exchange and a total conquering of my so called manhood. Not about tiny cocks or hot wife/girlfriend or about having a selfish kink. It is about that TAKING my essense as a free man and enslaving me in a certain way. Understand that i question myself, can it be done? Will it be done? Those thoughts rule my mind alot. If it does happen, i will consider myself completely enslaved and vow my own loyalty to Such Lady.

Others i think desire a fetish like the "hot wife" scene. Not my cup of tea but to each their own. Bottom line, is a slave supposed to be ashamed? IF done right, yes i do think so but this is my opinion.

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RE: Is a slave supposed to be ashamed of being Cucked? - 8/11/2007 8:17:58 AM

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If shame makes your cock drip then I'd say go for it. I like to play with my own shame. And with that of others. There are many ways to enjoy a thing. Directly and indirectly. I like someone who can get off on doing what he doesn't like/want to do. Now if you get off on it directly, more power to you.

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