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RE: Owned - 8/9/2007 5:54:39 AM

beargonewild

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At the risk of sounding snarky and being critical, what is the reasoning behind not allowing your slave to have any other human interaction? I refuse to believe you are perfect and have the capability to provide for her every need, including the broad spectrum of human contact for her psychological and mental wellbeing. No Master is an island. Sounds like what you need is a robot.
From seeing all the women on this site who are collared, you can safely deduct that their owners are secure in themselves to grant their slaves the flexibility to make friends, interact with orhers etc. Take note of this and maybe this example will assist you in becoming a more concientuious Master with the ability to provide for a slave's needs mentally, physically emtionally and spiritually.

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RE: Owned - 8/9/2007 5:55:42 AM

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Thankfully I didn't have my flat iron in hand when I read that.

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RE: Owned - 8/9/2007 6:34:50 AM

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This is Darcy

As .dark. has mentioned already, we have a profile which clearly states that we are not looking, but that doesn't mean that we shouldn't have a profile because we are both sociable people and love interaction. We complement and interact very well indeed with each other, but I would never even contemplate not allowing .dark. to have friendships and interactions outside of our relationship. Yes, of course I'm wonderful and smart and intelligent and all of that

but if you cut off all external stimulii then how will you ever learn about anything? Many times I have been enlightened and educated by .dark., and due to her posting far more often than I on CM she often regales me with tales of what is happening in the threads and with whom she has been sparring, interacting or just chatting with.

To believe that a sub/slave/pet needs no other human stimulus and input that your own is breathtakingly arrogant, and more than a little self-deluding. There's nothing wrong with arrogance of course, I thrive on it myself from time to time, but I would never be so blinkered as to believe that .dark. needs no other input that that which I give her.

In my eyes, the real strength of being a Master or a Dominant to somebody is not having to blatantly display it. Those who crow and preen about their positions are in my eyes the ones who seem to be the most uncertain as to whether they really feel that way. The most impressive Masters/Doms that I have met are those who have need to introduce themselves as such, I certainly never do, but instead merely exude an aura of dominance, which is clearly visible in the respect and reverence that their subs/slaves/pets quietly show them. The .dark. shows me this respect and reverence, but I do not forbid her interaction with others at all. In fact I actively encourage it because it is obvious to those that meet us, and to those that read our posts, that she belongs to/with me, and I have no fear whatsoever that another can give her what I can (and vice versa as it happens), and so I allow her to fly freely, so that she may learn and digest information that we can then both learn from.

(As for Masters/Dominants not reading profiles properly, if I were a sub/slave/pet I would feel very nervous putting my faith in someone who apparently hasn't mastered even the most basic of reading and comprehension skills

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RE: Owned - 8/9/2007 6:40:59 AM

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ORIGINAL: womanowner

I'm new to this site, and while looking for female slaves, I have noticed that there are many that are collared, but still with a profile. When I have a slavegirl, there is no need for her to communicate as uncollared. She doesn't need to make friends or branch out. She has a master, that's it.

wow - how boring her world must be since she cannot interact with others. are your conversations really that stimulating to the mind with all the vast knowledge of life you possess?

i'm a collared submissive with an active profile and Daddy enjoys it that i'm meeting interesting people from all walks of life on and off the forums from CM. it's nice having friends that i come to for advice and/or friendly chatting.

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RE: Owned - 8/9/2007 7:08:53 AM

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ORIGINAL: womanowner

I'm new to this site, and while looking for female slaves, I have noticed that there are many that are collared, but still with a profile. When I have a slavegirl, there is no need for her to communicate as uncollared. She doesn't need to make friends or branch out. She has a master, that's it.

Hmmmm.......so your slave will have no outside interaction within the lifestyle? So there will be no ideas coming from her that she talked to someone who said it was "fun"? She will have no one to tell her satisfaction with your relationship to? She will have no one to whine to, you will have to hear it all, all the time? She will not be allowed, no, encouraged, to seek out information for herself and bring that information back to the relatoinship for the two of you to evaluate together and see if it fixes something that hasn't been working "exactly right" between the two of you?

Seems a little short sighted to me. Not to meantion the waste of a good slave brain. But do as you wish. I would like to point out that if you alienate her from all outside contacts in a vanilla relationship it is called "Abuse".....and one of the top 10 signs you are in an abusive relationship, according to Dear Abby.

Myself? I like that my sub has lifestyle friends on both sides of the slash....cuz he brings ideas, thoughts and discussion topics to the relationship that may have not entered my mind recently. (and gives him someone to tell the same story to a third and fourth time, cuz I am tired of hearing it and he still needs to repeat it til he is done dealing with the issue)

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RE: Owned - 8/9/2007 7:10:54 AM

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ORIGINAL: womanowner

I'm new to this site, and while looking for female slaves, I have noticed that there are many that are collared, but still with a profile. When I have a slavegirl, there is no need for her to communicate as uncollared. She doesn't need to make friends or branch out. She has a master, that's it.

Why?

Why do you feel this way?

Please don't give me BS about how the master is all knowing, blah blah blah. The real world should quickly show you how much BS that truly is.

Dig deep and try to really figure out why you feel this way.

Think of some fantasies of what you believe owning a slave is like. Then start observing actual couples and talking to them both. Take note of where your fantasies start to break down. Then look at your mundane life, try to make a list of all the things that can happen in the mundane world. How many of those can you really control? How much time and energy will you need to control everything you can? How much stress do you want to create for yourself?

Now think about women. How much do you know about them physically, emotionally, and psychologically? Do some research. Compare that to your fantasies and see where they break down. Do you really want all that responsibility to be everything a woman could possible need? It's a much bigger job than you may fantasize about, you may soon discover that your work load increases far more than you imagined.

I think this will be a good learning experience for you. It can only help you grow as a dominant.

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RE: Owned - 8/9/2007 7:10:58 AM

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You will probably find a submissive who will actually think that is very masterful of you - isolating her like that. She will bask in this idyllic little world you set up and probably bring you a lot of joy in the interum. Eventually though she will have this nagging little voice inside of her that begins to wonder what the outside world looks and feels like, what others are doing and how they do it differently than you both do, etc. Maybe an article will catch her attention and she will have questions about how other subs structure their relationships. In essence, she will begin to grow and get too big for that little cage you keep her in. You will not be able to stop the progression, it's natural for people to want to expand and grow and experience life. She will escape her cage, fly to coop and you will have to start the process all over again with someone new. In doing this you are limiting yourself and never allowing yourself the ability and chance to grow and experience what's out there. Why limit yourself in such a fashion?

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RE: Owned - 8/9/2007 7:49:05 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: womanowner

I'm new to this site, and while looking for female slaves, I have noticed that there are many that are collared, but still with a profile. When I have a slavegirl, there is no need for her to communicate as uncollared. She doesn't need to make friends or branch out. She has a master, that's it.

So, basically what you're telling us is that you're very insecure in your relationships, OR, you're an abusive man whose first thought is to isolate the poor woman he's with from any outside contact at all.

Interesting.

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RE: Owned - 8/9/2007 7:52:53 AM

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ORIGINAL: womanowner
When I have a slavegirl, there is no need for her to communicate as uncollared. She doesn't need to make friends or branch out. She has a master, that's it.

Well aren't you special, sunshine?

OMG, doesn't that sound like a special kind of hell? The only human being you have contact with is....womanowner. It's like that Star Trek episode "The Alternative Factor" where the good, rational guy gets locked in dimensional corridor with the crazy, evil one for all eternity.

Now that is funny!

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RE: Owned - 8/9/2007 8:09:44 AM

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this can be understood counting on Your wishes and Your rules....and should not be questioned if this is Your style. she has to wonder how some can be so bold in their thoughts if this is Your desires or how they can judge another of their decisions how to operate within His slaves..... sometimes it shows well their vanilla-ness and lack of education and respect....
girl is allowed to write here within this House because she enjoys the journal and Master enjoys her words. she will advise other subs/slaves of proper protocal, rituals and service but does not mislead any that seek a placement within her profile...it is stated and approved by He what is written and how girl returns emails....

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