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RE: Does Submissive/Slave=Domme/Top - 7/5/2005 8:24:12 PM

ChainedAngel

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To even think you'd get these things before walking in the shoes of the submissive your Master wants you to be is just plain stupid.

It really depends on what demands are being made.

If the sub is demanding a photo with the email, a live meeting within a certain time frame, and refraining from calling her by anything other than her name, then I see absolutely nothing wrong with it.

If she is demanding relocation to your home, total financial support, and that you change your relationship preferences before emailing her, then yeah, that is fucked up.

This goes the same way when the positions are reversed. If you don't like what is said in someone's profile, then the solution is simple.

Pass it up for the next one.

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RE: Does Submissive/Slave=Domme/Top - 7/5/2005 8:27:07 PM

ChainedAngel

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If a sub believes they retain some kind of power in a power xchange relationship then they are only cheating themselves.

Tell that to the court when you go to jail for raping someone against their will because they are submissive.

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RE: Does Submissive/Slave=Domme/Top - 7/6/2005 8:17:32 AM

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cor, get you with your green coloured fonts! lol your showing off now arent ya!

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RE: Does Submissive/Slave=Domme/Top - 7/6/2005 1:35:46 PM

ElektraUkM

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What kinds of things are they that you don't think subs should be 'demanding'? And are they 'demanding' them... (and how can you 'demand' anything of someone in a profile..?) or simply stating what they are and are not interested in with a view to a potential relationship?

I see absolutely nothing wrong with a submissive having preferences AND limits in the type of person she will submit to, and the types of things she will do. How does that make her not submissive? It only makes her not submissive to ANYone or ANYthing.

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RE: Does Submissive/Slave=Domme/Top - 7/6/2005 9:27:28 PM

Hell0Kitty

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It should be put out there what one is looking for but there are better ways to put rather than as a demand. I know that my profile is not the greatest but as is everything in my life it is a work in progress to make it as good as is possible.

A Dom's needs always come first when I am with one, but in return a good Dom would also make sure that my needs (not necessairily wants and desires, but needs) are met as long as His are.

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RE: Does Submissive/Slave=Domme/Top - 7/8/2005 8:52:43 PM

Jasmyn

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ORIGINAL: ChainedAngel

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If a sub believes they retain some kind of power in a power xchange relationship then they are only cheating themselves.

Tell that to the court when you go to jail for raping someone against their will because they are submissive.

'Power' is not the same thing as 'consent'... don't go confusing the two.

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RE: Does Submissive/Slave=Domme/Top - 7/11/2005 10:21:28 AM

ricanmami678

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to me its not demanding what we want its everyone has diffrent levels of what they will allow in my point of view even with my Sir being in controll of me i still have controll of what i will do or allow to be done to me i am not a infant and cant have some kind of controll i am not saying sub/slaves should be like oh i want this and only this we need to voice that we may not like this or we dont like it because a relationship will never work if you dont copmmunicate what eachother want then make sure everyone is happyi dont not demand what i want i go to my Sir and ask if i can speak freely and i explain why ia m not liking soemthing or would like him to do soemthing he has a right to not do or not take notice tro what i said but i like that he listens and takes me in to consideration not just Him self now i will serve him completely and a Dom to me would want his sub/salve to be happy so he has to consider her feeling as she has to consider His

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