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Humiliation Play - 8/9/2007 12:42:08 PM

ControlPlease

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So I'm curious as to what type of activities constitute humiliation play? If you have any stories please feel free to share.

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RE: Humiliation Play - 8/9/2007 12:44:40 PM

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Anything that makes someone feel humiliated in a non harmful way. Well, it can be harmful unintentionally also, but that's generally to be avoided.

http://www.collarchat.com/m_557686/mpage_1/key_humiliation/tm.htm#557707
Embarassment vs humiliation

http://www.collarchat.com/m_354018/mpage_1/key_humiliation/tm.htm#354196
humiliation???

http://www.collarchat.com/m_412944/mpage_1/key_humiliation/tm.htm#413037
what is good humiliation to you?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_426015/mpage_1/key_humiliation/tm.htm#426025
humiliation vs degradation

http://www.collarchat.com/m_489256/mpage_1/key_humiliation/tm.htm#489324
humiliation and vulnerability

http://www.collarchat.com/m_310209/mpage_1/key_humiliation/tm.htm#310223
Humiliation- verbal and physical

http://www.collarchat.com/m_266448/mpage_1/key_humiliation/tm.htm#266532
humiliation ideas

Slaves on display via webcam?

Fat Cow? Verbal humiliation (rehashed)

Humiliation and Degradation

Erotic Humiliation

Female Humiliation- in the scene

Asking for humiliation

Favorite Forms of humiliation

Humiliation

Humliation Play

Favorite forms of humiliation

Erotic Humiliation and Objectification

Why such problems with humiliation?

Fun ideas for humiliation

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Verbal Humiliation

Help with humiliation please!

Your thoughts on humiliation please

Questions about humiliation

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RE: Humiliation Play - 8/9/2007 12:46:06 PM

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No stories from moi because thats personal and not aiding anyones wanking material.

Humiliation is whatever a person finds humiliating. Being called names, face slapping, no underwear, ignoring, only taken out when used, having to cook, having to work in a particular way, made to be barefoot, being used as *insert humiliating object here*. Anything can be humiliating depending on the person so just communicate with the person you are interested in and find out if it is for them.

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RE: Humiliation Play - 8/9/2007 12:47:20 PM

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Bammit Em that was fast...

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RE: Humiliation Play - 8/9/2007 12:47:42 PM

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Aww I love when people call me Em :)

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RE: Humiliation Play - 8/9/2007 1:28:00 PM

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dark,
Just perved your profile - i love your new pictures!! You guys are a beautiful couple
end of hijack,
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RE: Humiliation Play - 8/9/2007 1:30:17 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Anything that makes someone feel humiliated in a non harmful way. Well, it can be harmful unintentionally also, but that's generally to be avoided.

http://www.collarchat.com/m_557686/mpage_1/key_humiliation/tm.htm#557707
Embarassment vs humiliation

http://www.collarchat.com/m_354018/mpage_1/key_humiliation/tm.htm#354196
humiliation???

http://www.collarchat.com/m_412944/mpage_1/key_humiliation/tm.htm#413037
what is good humiliation to you?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_426015/mpage_1/key_humiliation/tm.htm#426025
humiliation vs degradation

http://www.collarchat.com/m_489256/mpage_1/key_humiliation/tm.htm#489324
humiliation and vulnerability

http://www.collarchat.com/m_310209/mpage_1/key_humiliation/tm.htm#310223
Humiliation- verbal and physical

http://www.collarchat.com/m_266448/mpage_1/key_humiliation/tm.htm#266532
humiliation ideas

Slaves on display via webcam?

Fat Cow? Verbal humiliation (rehashed)

Humiliation and Degradation

Erotic Humiliation

Female Humiliation- in the scene

Asking for humiliation

Favorite Forms of humiliation

Humiliation

Humliation Play

Favorite forms of humiliation

Erotic Humiliation and Objectification

Why such problems with humiliation?

Fun ideas for humiliation

Humiliation (2)

Verbal Humiliation

Help with humiliation please!

Your thoughts on humiliation please

Questions about humiliation

um do you leave anything to the imagenation

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RE: Humiliation Play - 8/9/2007 1:35:02 PM

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You think I should let people imagine a bunch of links to prior discussions on the topic?

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RE: Humiliation Play - 8/9/2007 1:36:16 PM

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i guess some people can't appreciate the value of the archives here~

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RE: Humiliation Play - 8/9/2007 1:44:33 PM

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Thanks hunni - am glad ya perved...

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RE: Humiliation Play - 8/9/2007 2:31:42 PM

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To the OP: I'll be watching this thread for some information myself, thank you for starting it. I have a hard time fathoming the feeling of humiliation. To humiliate is to debase, degrade someone, to make them feel shame.

In a personal sense, if someone tried that with me I wouldn't be with them in the first place. Also, I have control of my own feelings so someone can't really "make" me feel whatever, I can only allow myself to feel it.

In a bdsm, D/s sense, if the Master told me to do something to please him that others may find humiliating, I find it to be part and parcel of the role of the submissive. If my doing something pleases him, why should I feel humiliated to do it? I feel proud that my actions, performances are what he wants.

So I can't help you out in any ideas for humiliation play but will watch to see what others come up with. Interesting.

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RE: Humiliation Play - 8/9/2007 2:33:18 PM

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Some people find it easier to understand by seeing humiliation as a scale of intensity- from embarassment, to humiliation, to degradation.

And also to realize that you can be humiliated and proud simultaneously.

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RE: Humiliation Play - 8/9/2007 2:38:28 PM

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dark,
Just perved your profile - i love your new pictures!! You guys are a beautiful couple
end of hijack,
dawn

So did I! LOL!
Dawn said it beautifully so I'll just say "ditto"

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RE: Humiliation Play - 8/9/2007 2:44:23 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

You think I should let people imagine a bunch of links to prior discussions on the topic?

thats not the twist i ment. it is like this everyone has something different and creative to them they feel is humiliating. by posting all those links it is like saying well someone has already did this kinda of stalls the creative thinking process

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RE: Humiliation Play - 8/9/2007 3:37:05 PM

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Making someone (or being made to) do something like: Crawl across the floor and lick and kiss someone's (or my) feet might be a good example of Humiliation. I am a Switch with a foot fetish (I honestly am)- what can I say? This activity just "does things" to (and for) me....I really enjoy it!

I am not ashamed of it (liking this) in any way. I don't feel it's "degrading" - nor do I feel the folks I might ask to do this for me are being "degraded". For one thing, it's consensual - if somebody really hates the idea, I don't want to do it with them anyway. If they feel that way (or I do) then maybe I am simply with the wrong partner (or they are). Because it's supposed to feel good, not horrible.

- Susan

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RE: Humiliation Play - 8/9/2007 3:51:21 PM

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I like doing strange creative things with my partner.
I hope they enjoy my enjoyment.
I don't see it as humiliation but they might do.
Of course they could be seen by an outsider as humiliating to both of us.
Who cares what they would think.
That's why I am in the 'lifestyle' because I like doing different things than the norm.

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RE: Humiliation Play - 8/9/2007 4:27:42 PM

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As far as I can tell, the idea behind Humiliation play is that the activity involved is supposed to make the person being humiliated anywhere from mildly to very uncomfortable - but the operative idea is that they and I both appreciate the feeling that it brings. At least for me that is the "bottom line" as far as judging whether it "works for me".

Otherwise, if it seriously compromises my self-esteeem, etc - it borders or veers into what I thuink of as "degrading" (vs. humiliating). It can sometimes be a fine line between the two - and my guess is that it is probably different for everyone, as far as where it's actually drawn.

For me - as a submissive (I am a Switch)- Humiliation makes me feel "Ultra controlled and cared for" - beyond almost any other type of BDSM activity.

I realize there are Dominants making their submissives do humiliating things, perhaps, that the submissive or slave isn't particularly "into" - but I am ot one of those Domiants. But - if that's what they appreciate, I am not judging it, either. Maybe folks who do this are into Sadism, etc. - not for me to judge, really.

- Susan

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RE: Humiliation Play - 8/9/2007 4:39:34 PM

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quote:

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by posting all those links it is like saying well someone has already did this kinda of stalls the creative thinking process

Greetings Latex,
i admit, the first time LA put those links up on one of the few threads i started, i felt like that. But really there is not a question that has not been asked before and as someone who has been here for a little while, there are some valuable threads here just full of gems. So, this thread will still get new ideas but by LA posting all those links, the OP and the rest of us get the benefit of past postings as well. Think of it as abundance and your perception might change~

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RE: Humiliation Play - 8/9/2007 5:54:05 PM

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Humiliation play is delightfully and painfully broad: it's defined by the emotional reaction of humiliation in the "bottom". Unlike, say, impact play, which is still impact play regardless of the sensations the bottom feels (but can certainly be more fun with particular reactions, and even done with the goal of inspiring certain reactions), humiliation is defined by the bottom's reactions.

It sort of needs to be intentional, if it's being called a systematic form of play. And ideally, it's emotionally satisfying for everyone involved (whether that means hurtful or happy varies person to person).

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RE: Humiliation Play - 8/9/2007 7:15:40 PM

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Midori's book has the best info about humiliation play I have ever read. She talks of pillars supporting a persons self image, some are more vital than others, some are hot to fuck with and others would be damaging.

Which is why saying "you cum hungry slut" to many woman is hot AND humiliation because they feel shame around feelings of lust you are pointing out they are lusting which triggers shame BUT it is clear that the person uttering it wants/desires that slut so everything is okay.

Most women would go to a bad place if you said they were a fat slob who nobody could love and it would be destructive humiliation but if you grabbed their breasts and said "look at these huge tits" it MIGHT take them to place of good humilation.

Humiliation is VERY subjective and varies widely between people as to what is and isn't hot and what is and isn't safe to play with. Most people know some of their good and bad triggers, start there.

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