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what would you do? - 8/9/2007 11:58:05 PM   
TheDarkAngel26


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Status: offline 		i have know'en this sub for 3 years now.....she go's throw Masters like undys....she is with this new one....and is with me ( only at time's of wax play ooo and sex) I dont know what to do about this? she say's one thing but douse an other. she talking about moving to be with him and she dous not know what she is geting...any thing you can say to hellp would be grate
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RE: what would you do? - 8/10/2007 12:02:03 AM   
MissMagnolia


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RE: what would you do? - 8/10/2007 12:02:52 AM   
slave4umastr


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Status: offline 		Um...

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RE: what would you do? - 8/10/2007 12:19:34 AM   
BeachMystress


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Status: offline 		Since you already know this sub's MO and personality, why are you with her at all? Even if she has the hottest body you've ever seen and really turns you on, why would you subject yourself to a situation that puts you so out of control? This is a lifestyle about trust, power/control and respect. You can't trust her and she doesn't respect anyone to whom she is lying. Plus, her lies put her in control of the relationships, None of this is conducive to healthy BDSM.

If you're worried because she is your friend... well, you can not fix this. The girl has issues that cause her to have the high turn over in Dominants. They are HER issues. If she is unhappy with the situation, you can encourage her to get some help. But there is nothing we can say and nothing that you can do that will change things. It can be hard to watch our friends be self destructive. Give her your opinion, but unless she asks for help or wants things to be different, you can't live her life for her.

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RE: what would you do? - 8/10/2007 6:21:35 AM   
came4U


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Status: offline 		May I suggest you decide.  Do you really want to rock the boat with any sort of sudden morality?

If so, you might lose your place in line for the booty call.

lol

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RE: what would you do? - 8/10/2007 6:31:32 AM   
dawntreader


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Status: offline 		That's what i was thinking from the OP and the limited profile - booty call~

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RE: what would you do? - 8/10/2007 6:33:22 AM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		I can only wonder at the statement that you are looking for nothing from this site.

This is then in actual fact a rhetorical question, n'est ce pas?

Ron

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RE: what would you do? - 8/10/2007 6:44:03 AM   
Padriag


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Status: offline 		What would I do?  Someone else.

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RE: what would you do? - 8/10/2007 6:52:11 AM   
MasterMike04103


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Status: offline 		I agree with everyone thus far... The person in question wants one thing, and got it from you and every other tom dick and harry out there as well, I hate to say this but you were just another knotch on their bedpost

Mike

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RE: what would you do? - 8/10/2007 6:56:21 AM   
Carrianna


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Status: offline 		So you have known this person for 3 years, she is being honest with you saying she wants to be close to a/her master, you know her, is this a cry for help? 

Does she want to go?  Does she look for advice from you?  Only you can answer, good luck!

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RE: what would you do? - 8/10/2007 7:10:21 AM   
came4U


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What would I do?  Someone else.


 too funny.

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RE: what would you do? - 8/10/2007 7:13:19 AM   
Mercnbeth


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Status: offline 		You are encountering a person who has a dominant personality who enjoys the sensations associated with the submissive side of the flogger. I don't think she is unique or rare; although she may be delusional. No matter - enjoy! Serve her dominance if you desire, but don't expect submission outside those physical encounters or a mental/emotional dynamic consistent with the physical encounter. Its your decision to facilitate or not.

This question is more about you than of her. What is your goal? Encountering a person who has complimentary physical desires can lead to many enjoyable experiences if neither party has any other agenda. If you want a relationship were the D/s dynamic extends beyond the encounters led by you as the dominant decision maker, it won't happen with this person based upon your description. However, if you enjoy the wax play and/or the sex - there is no reason why you shouldn't take advantage of the opportunity similar to her taking advantage of those "masters" agreeing to her concept of 'submission'. 

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RE: what would you do? - 8/10/2007 7:39:39 AM   
fungasm


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Status: offline 		What to do:  realize that this you have a human you play with on her terms. As long as you find pleasure and are getting what you need from the relationship- enjoy it.

If you need/want more from this person or you are starting to get emotionally attached, than you're fucked and not in the fun way. 

Alison

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RE: what would you do? - 8/10/2007 7:47:24 AM   
Jeffff


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Status: offline 		Personaly. I would mock her.....but...thats just Me..........

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RE: what would you do? - 8/10/2007 7:48:49 PM   
TheDarkAngel26


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Status: offline 		all of you are right...i it was time to let her go.

thank you to all.

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RE: what would you do? - 8/10/2007 7:54:48 PM   
LATEXBABY64


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Status: offline 		scarry sounds like that scifi show them  only i get this feeling swingers on the loose yep

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