MaDomAura
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I lean toward the thinking that BBW is a generic descriptive term much the same as using "Xerox®" is for a photocopy. Terms like Q-Tip®, Kleenex® become part of the lexicon in the stead of the actual nouns which in this case are cotton swap and facial tissue respectively. I doubt anyone thinks that asking for a Q-Tip would result in someone with a case of cotton swabs saying they don't have a Q-Tip in the most literal sense.
Now as to meatcleavers comment. "It's a case of being cruel to be kind. Fat is fat and if someone doesn't want to be fat, they should eat less and exercise more. Big is not beautiful and never has been, neither has being a skeleton with skin. Euphemisms are always used to prevent the truth being discussed.
OK. I'm feeling cruel tonight. A fat woman nearly sat on me in the bar tonight which could have proved fatal (for me). What was worse, she knocked over my beer!"
Anthropologically speaking your opinion fails the acid test. In contemporary society the "heroin chic" rail thin (male or female) models created a backlash. Clearly Rubin painted. theoretically honoring, larger women. In fact I know the therm Reuben's is used in much the way as the BBW acronym. In recent history, again the Renascence period, a larger woman was perceived as wealthy, (food costs money) in good health (illness can cause wasting) , fertile (mirroring a pregnant woman's build), and strong.
Your perception was implanted by your societal experience. Had you been raised in certain African tribal communities you would find perky breasts unattractive. In this example small firm breasts mean a immature, precocious female or nullipara (childless) possibly infertile and thereby undesirable mate! Girls from this community fashion bindings with weights that pull on the breasts to elongate and drop the breasts. Shocking to our repressed puritanical clime.
In present day I find many cultures favour robust women. The Samoans are typically large and those who are "petite" often feel that they are not as desirable and hope to gain weight to become beautiful. Trust me the average "fat" ,as you call it, Samoan is not unhealthy when they live on a similar diet that they've adapted to.
As a professional belly dancer I found the Greeks preferred me over the "underweight" dancers. During the years as I studied and trained as a dancer I found many old texts describing the most desirable woman as having large thighs, thick and heavy like pillars. It was a goal for dancers to be able to eat enough to have "3 rolls" at the waist over hip that could be seen during the hip work! In short, the belly should not only exist but jiggle and roll, to be the pinnacle of beauty.
I do take issue with your comment about eating less and exercising more to remedy obesity. Are you a nutritionist, or endocrinologist? Have you studied the research into all causes of obesity? What qualifies you to make such a ridiculous gross exaggeration? As stated in this thread that personal experience indicates that nature/nurture doesn't explain obesity. Nor does your "solution" address how these 3 women all had 100 pound weight gains without dietary changes, and with increased activity.
It's common knowledge that medical conditions are linked to obesity. If science and medicine knew the actual cause then there would be a race to market the treatment. The drug companies spend billions to find a solution, and surgical treatments don't cure obesity.
I have to wonder if you have been HWT (couldn't resist!) all your life, and know no one who is obese personally. If you don't it could be you reject relationships based on your attitudes toward fat.
Attacking the fat is still somewhat socially acceptable. Yes there have been groups promoting Fat Acceptance, but you won't find any civil rights the like which exist for age, race and religion. It's NOT okay to use racial slurs, but I can't count how many times I have been called a fat bitch. My response initially was feeling hurt, and humiliated. Now I look at the person calling me fat, and then act shocked and say "Wow, I AM fat...when did that happen" and add that they might try insulting me by yelling that I am tall, or have brown eyes. The fact that "fat" can be used as a pejorative barb rather than a neutral descriptive term speaks to the bias.
And would you be as upset if a woman you didn't find overweight and unattractive spilled your precious beer? Or what if it was a "fat" male? Seems prejdaced to me.
Whew.
MaDom Aura
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or maybe too much high protein drinks
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