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RE: Submissive men - 8/11/2007 12:28:05 PM

lonlyrossInNeed

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I agree to a percentage with this
but i have seen so many women also that do the same thing with switcing from Domme to Sub the next day
I am here for a Mistress to Domme Owner RT
I do have a Mistress who i play with and she knows that i am seeking a Domme To collarme
she also knows that i am holding out and hoping she will collarme one day
i dont jump for the first to come along like so many out there do
and this is both men and women that do this not just men

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ORIGINAL: RaynaSub

Many of the submissive men online want whomever they can get.
Half of my email has always been from submissive men.
Also, many men online are submissive one month and Dominant the next month.

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RE: Submissive men - 8/11/2007 1:21:13 PM

iammachine

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I seriously doubt that everyone who claims to be a male sub really is a male sub. It never ceases to amaze me how many guys I've met claim to be real subs, knowing full well they're lying, just for the sake of getting kinky sex.

I think a lot of times, people just don't know any better. A person might have a fetish, where they are in the passive role, so they assume that they must be a submissive, when in reality they just have a particular fantasy they want to engage. Hell, when I was first starting to come to terms with my kinky inclinations, I recognized that having my partner be very aggressive made me melty. I thought, given my enjoying that kind of dynamic (on occasion), that I might be a submissive. After some interaction with an Alpha friend (which didn't work for me at all), and a lot of introspection, I realized that was just one fantasy amongst many, and I've grown to identify as more of a versatile Top. It takes time to learn your "place", and I don't think that roles are necessarily static, people grow, interests evolve, and people relate to eachother in different ways.

I hate it when people go into the what is a "real" _insert label here_, because it's all so relative. Sure, there are manipulative bastards out there, and some people might purposely misrepresent themselves, but this isn't unique to submissive men. And as I've stated, in some cases, it may not have much to do with subterfuge at all. Some people haven't developed a strong identify for themselves, and some people are just very eager for whatever they can get, and will do anything to "fill the void". As much as these types make me twitch, I recognize them for what they are, and that's usually just pretty damn lonely. I can sympathize with that, though in my book, one and one make two, and I'm perfectly whole on my own.

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RE: Submissive men - 8/11/2007 2:16:35 PM

petdave

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ORIGINAL: Einzelganger

I seriously doubt that everyone who claims to be a male sub really is a male sub. It never ceases to amaze me how many guys I've met claim to be real subs, knowing full well they're lying, just for the sake of getting kinky sex. I

Donno, maybe i'm just old and bitter, but i find it hard to imagine claiming to be a submissive hetero male if you don't have that need... if i wanted to come up with a fake online life to get action, that would come a little ways after "homeless guy logging on from the library" and waaaaay below "guy on probation after doing five years for sexual assault".

However, it seems quite logical to me that a submissive male would look for a Dominant female (or male)... what exactly is your counter-argument, cuddle?

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RE: Submissive men - 8/11/2007 2:25:33 PM

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ORIGINAL: petdave

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ORIGINAL: Einzelganger

I seriously doubt that everyone who claims to be a male sub really is a male sub. It never ceases to amaze me how many guys I've met claim to be real subs, knowing full well they're lying, just for the sake of getting kinky sex. I

Donno, maybe i'm just old and bitter, but i find it hard to imagine claiming to be a submissive hetero male if you don't have that need... if i wanted to come up with a fake online life to get action, that would come a little ways after "homeless guy logging on from the library" and waaaaay below "guy on probation after doing five years for sexual assault".

However, it seems quite logical to me that a submissive male would look for a Dominant female (or male)... what exactly is your counter-argument, cuddle?

HAHA -- So true.

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RE: Submissive men - 8/11/2007 4:15:54 PM

leatherpet32

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Well, i for one am submissive in personality and temperment. I'd make a terriable switch!I will say however that my submission is not gender dependant. If Your interesting, are Dominant, have a good sense of humour, have a comfortable way about You, engender trust and respect, then You will have my submission, or at the very least my friendship. For freinds i certainly wouldn't want to limit myself, because i would love to learn as much as i can in the lifestyle, be around like minded people, etc etc. I don't however submit to the first person calling Her/Himself Dominant, i probably won't call You Mistress/Master on a first meet, altho You will get a very polite guy, addressing Sir/Ma'am, at the least.

But as for submitting to Male or Female Dominants, i think Both offer something different, bring different perspectives and ideas to the table, i'd probably get along with a Male Dom outside of D/s better then a Female, although that is never a given, you just never know.

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RE: Submissive men - 8/11/2007 6:40:01 PM

Lashra

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Each submissive male is a unique individual with their own wants, needs and desires. You can't put them all into one neat category it simply does not work. My sub male is submissive to ME but not to anyone else. In fact he used to be a Master until I brought out his subsmissive nature.

Like all people some are in it for the submission, the sex, some for the service and some for whatever they can get.

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RE: Submissive men - 8/11/2007 6:42:24 PM

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very well put, Ma'am

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RE: Submissive men - 8/11/2007 8:59:30 PM

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ORIGINAL: Lashra

Each submissive male is a unique individual with their own wants, needs and desires. You can't put them all into one neat category it simply does not work. My sub male is submissive to ME but not to anyone else. In fact he used to be a Master until I brought out his subsmissive nature.

Like all people some are in it for the submission, the sex, some for the service and some for whatever they can get.

~Lashra

*smiles* I couldn't have said it better myself...but in my humble opinion, someone who's only in it for himself isn't a submissive. Maybe 'bottom' would apply here. I suppose that's what I was really trying to say earlier. As always, just my $0.02...

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RE: Submissive men - 8/11/2007 10:59:45 PM

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I know of a long term marriage between two subs. They will service top each other and the fact that they both want to make the other happy has helped them have a supportive, strong, strive and stress free relationship.

They have an open marriage however and will play with others with the caveat that the spouse can ask at any time for a closed relationship for any reason. The marriage comes first and that means the spouse's wishes come first.

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RE: Submissive men - 8/11/2007 11:30:31 PM

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

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Rosalind Russell said,

"Life is a banquet and most poor suckers are starving to death"

It should be clarified that the incomparably fabulous Rosalind said that line while playing the divine Auntie Mame, and not as a personal statement.

Thanks for clarifying that LA, you can unclench those butt cheeks now.

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