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RE: No Profile on Ads - Annoying or Not? - 7/3/2005 2:46:10 PM

Oumae

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ORIGINAL: Oumae

I use the term "subbie" sometimes and it is in no way intended as an insult...It is a term of endearment. If a sub of mine disliked the term I would take their feelings into consideration but then again they hear the tone of my voice on saying it and none have complained.

Perhaps not intended as such, but I find it inherently belittling (other than as between two people, a term of endearment).

I suspect that most of the Dominants here would take umbrage, and rightly so, if I constantly used the term "Dommie" in reference to them globally. No?

sudja

I can understand that and I don't use the term generally. As for "Dommie" ... I'd probably laugh.

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RE: No Profile on Ads - Annoying or Not? - 7/3/2005 3:05:31 PM

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If they cannot post a picture and a description then they are also probably not "real"

Or else they aren't here for the purpose of meeting someone else

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RE: No Profile on Ads - Annoying or Not? - 7/3/2005 4:35:36 PM

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If they cannot post a picture and a description then they are also probably not "real"

I have a lengthy description but only a pic of my legs... as I really can't afford being recognised here.

Nah, scratch that. You are right. I'm a total fake!

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RE: No Profile on Ads - Annoying or Not? - 7/3/2005 5:00:26 PM

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I think each person here is for different personal reasons, someone who deosnt post an extended profile or much of one doesn't make them dimwitted, nor does having a PHD give someone wisdon or common sense.

My profile is sparse for my own reasons, a couple of which is ONE: i'm shy when I have to talk about myself. TWO: I'm just not looking for anyone but I am here to learn and THREE: I dont want just anyone to know lots about me untill I've gotten to message a person once or twice, let's not forget too that some Masters maynot allow their partner to post much about thempseves in their profiles..

Personally I dont talk to anyone based on their profiles, I DO however send someone a little note if I've liked a post or two that they've written, letting them know maybe I found them whitty or funny or sincer, granted I'm shy so Ive only done it a few times

As for 'subbie'....gosh I dunno it doesnt really bother me, I think sometimes we take ourselvs a little to seriously and maybe lighten up a little...no offense meant to anyone :)

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RE: No Profile on Ads - Annoying or Not? - 7/3/2005 5:06:26 PM

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*feels herself*

yes indeed I am real.......

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RE: No Profile on Ads - Annoying or Not? - 7/3/2005 6:12:57 PM

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Well I thank all of you for your opinion. Let me first start by saying I was in no way trying to insult anyone by using the word subbie, I have always used it as an endearing term. For those I may have insulted, please accept my apologies.

2ndly, maybe I should have been a little clearer. When I refered to no info type profiles, I meant those that do reply to an ad you may have placed such as myself and there is nothing there but a list. The type of one line emails that come over with the "do you want to own me" and yet there is nothing there to even give you an opportunity to even form an opinion.

And last but not least, the main intent for the profiles was designed for those searching for others whether they be dominant or submissive, friends or just other like minded people to talk to. I mean come on people, it doesn't take much to write not looking at this time, or just looking to make friends. Plenty of the profiles have them.

As for one line compliments, I don't know anyone that has ever been insulted by them.

I thank you all for your thoughts and opinions, sometimes it takes someone elses views on a subject to see things in a different light. You have all certainly given me some things to take into consideration. Your efforts are appreciated. Wishing you all a safe and Happy 4th of July....Lady Dezire

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RE: No Profile on Ads - Annoying or Not? - 7/3/2005 6:14:36 PM

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ORIGINAL: Gauge

e relevent information......your thoughts??

As far as the one line emails go, if it offends you, don't respond to them. I have written one line emails before to submissives just to tell them that I found their picture attractive or that I liked something in their profile. I am in no way lazy or is it indicative that I am a dimwit. I have spent time on another site writing elaborate emails entailing information about myself and what I found about their ads to be attractive only to have them not responded to. Not even a "thanks but I am not interested."

I agree with you totally. After awhile it gets to a point of why bother? Every Dominant says I want blah blah this in the opening email.

I say this to them... Why dont the Dominant write what they can offer me?

I don't have a full profile. Only enough. If someone wants to know more then chat with me.

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RE: No Profile on Ads - Annoying or Not? - 7/3/2005 7:54:25 PM

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I'm one of those annoying people with nothing in their profile.

Somehow, listing all that information just seems so clinical ... like going to the doctor and discussing symptoms, until you find the illness that perfectly suits you.

And what about the romance and mystery involved in getting to know someone? I can't be the only one that actually wants that in a relationship.

There are also trust issues. It is already bad enough having people tell you what you want to hear ... but now you're supposed to make a handy-dandy little list?

Most important of all, my "interests" are entirely dictated by whom I'm "getting interested" with.

Thanks ... caitlyn

P.S. If you think my profile is annoying, wait until you actually get to know me.

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RE: No Profile on Ads - Annoying or Not? - 7/3/2005 8:11:04 PM

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ORIGINAL: dark~angel

It's why I haven't replied to the OPs actual question. Not that it would be the greatest loss in the world not to hear my view...

Peace and Love

I know we have done the battle of the boards on a thread or two, dark~angel, but I, for one, do feel a loss if I don't get to read your view! *W*
Hope the moving went well and you are all re-settled.

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RE: No Profile on Ads - Annoying or Not? - 7/4/2005 4:13:25 AM

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dommykins.

dommykins ??.....*bursts out laughing*....cute one

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RE: No Profile on Ads - Annoying or Not? - 7/4/2005 8:13:06 AM

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ORIGINAL: imtempting

I say this to them... Why dont the Dominant write what they can offer me?

Well some do on their profiles...but basically its because Dommes get so much mail they don't have to make the initial approach.

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RE: No Profile on Ads - Annoying or Not? - 7/4/2005 8:14:48 AM

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When i receive a "note" from someone without a profile i figure it's their decision, just like it's my decision not to reply. It saves me a lot of time and trouble, and it's one of the few times i don't feel obligated to remember my manners and write back..lol.

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RE: No Profile on Ads - Annoying or Not? - 7/4/2005 4:16:29 PM

LadyAngelika

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Every Dominant says I want blah blah this in the opening email.

I say this to them... Why dont the Dominant write what they can offer me?

Watch your generalisations imtempting...

I don't go around emailing saying I want [... insert demands here ...]. Someone emailing me with demands do not get very far neither.

If and when I see a profile that I like, I tend to send a note to introduce myself. Simple as that. Then I'll see if there is reciprocated interest and I'll take it from there.

People are so desperate to know everything about the person right away and get all their demands in... I prefer a more relaxed approach.

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RE: No Profile on Ads - Annoying or Not? - 7/4/2005 8:18:27 PM

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

Watch your generalisations imtempting...

- LA

Ok Lady Angelika point taken.

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RE: No Profile on Ads - Annoying or Not? - 7/4/2005 10:49:23 PM

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Actually, I kind of like the term "subbie" - I find it kind of endearing. But just as I know some homosexual ladies that hate the term "lesbian" and go by "queer," I can understand that some might not like it :).

In general, I have to agree. If I were actually looking for someone on this site, I would have put a lot more effort into my own little paragraph- but I've found some potentials and I'm sick of grilling people.

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