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RCdc -> RE: Collaring the Collarers (8/12/2007 5:40:19 AM)
I think it rocks that you have that... shows just how secure you are in what you want and what you are. As I congratulated before to acheyouhav, I will do so again to you. Peace the.dark.

Sinergy -> RE: Collaring the Collarers (8/12/2007 6:46:26 AM)
I once gave a submissive a gold waist chain, and wore an etched (with her name) ring on one finger signifying she was Mine. I love the gold waist chain, I told her to think of it as if I had her safely and happily in my arms. Sinergy

thetammyjo -> RE: Collaring the Collarers (8/12/2007 7:11:32 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LordKen OK, Imthatacheyouhav has accepted my collar (thank-you baby). As of the 9th of August, I have accepted her collar - which I have accepted as a declaration of our unity and love to each other (matching necklaces). I'm curious how many Doms / Masters have accepted or implemented such an arrangement with their collared sub / slave? Fox has given me gifts -- they are not equivalent to either this collar or his pierced ears. My corresponding items to his collar are the keys that are on a separate key ring. Actually it has the keys to his collar, his boots, and his locking cat suit.

masterdstar -> RE: Collaring the Collarers (8/12/2007 10:04:02 AM)
Frankly I can’t’ even imagine doing that, seems very vanilla to Me. But to each His Own---whaevrwrksferu. My “connections” have nothing to do with a collar being a substitute for a wedding ring. Enjoy your wonder-filled day

ThudBaby -> RE: Collaring the Collarers (8/12/2007 10:15:56 AM)
The idea of my Master making that kind of commitment to me, brings a smile to my face as I'm sure it did for your sub/slave. Respectfully, I don't see that as a collar however because to me a collar has connotations of ownership. But that's me. If it works for y'all, run with it.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Collaring the Collarers (8/12/2007 4:23:05 PM)
Use whatever symbol you want for whatever purpose you want.

MadRabbit -> RE: Collaring the Collarers (8/12/2007 4:53:03 PM)
Personally, I take to wearing clown hair with a multitude of bright colors to match my slaves brightly colored collar with a rubber horn attached to the ring that I can honk when I want her to kneel. Now...if we are both happy...what does it matter what personal set of symbols we both use in our relationship?

arayofsunshine55 -> RE: Collaring the Collarers (8/12/2007 4:57:23 PM)
He collared me last year. On our collarversary I gave him a cuff he never takes off. SOmething he wanted from me. Means the world to the both of us.

LadyPact -> RE: Collaring the Collarers (8/12/2007 6:03:14 PM)
First off, congratulations to the both of you. May you find every happiness. I've mentioned this before on other threads. While I do not wear a 'collar' for My submissive (when I have one), I do have a habit of wearing a ring on the third finger of My right hand which symobolizes My dynamic with My boy. Not on the same level as a collar, but it is signifigant to Me.

LordKen -> RE: Collaring the Collarers (8/12/2007 6:04:05 PM)
I thank each of you for your input. candy & I have enjoyed this, and all the meaning that goes with it. The symbolism behind the giving & recieving of our "collars" was the meaning that we wanted captured in our exchanging necklaces. candy & I have both gravitated to the "original" meaning of a union, in that we both belong to each other. I have long believed that offering my sub (slave) a collar was binding me to her, as well as her to me. If she was to be "owned" by me, I also submit myself to her ownership (after all, we're still dealing with humans, not automobiles). I have always believed that being a dedicated Dom / Master meant that I had a responsibility to my sub / slave, and I feel honored that it can be symbolized through the wearing of her gift to me, a matching necklace, which we denote as a "collar" (and yes, I also saw the "Story of 'O'" and thought the ending was great). Peace to all, and don't be hatin (smiles).

LordKen -> RE: Collaring the Collarers (8/12/2007 6:14:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KatyLied I've never heard of a dominant being collared to a submissive. Is this a real time relationship? Yes it is.

imthatacheyouhav -> RE: Collaring the Collarers (8/12/2007 6:38:22 PM)
Master....nice thread, and i love You.

slaveluci -> RE: Collaring the Collarers (8/12/2007 7:14:34 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: thetammyjo My corresponding items to his collar are the keys that are on a separate key ring. Actually it has the keys to his collar, his boots, and his locking cat suit. Congrats to you and your master, candy[:)]. Glad you are both very happy. Much like tammyjo said, my own Master's corresponding items are keys. He wears a long, thin strand of black suede as a necklace and He never removes it. On it are the keys to my collar, ankle/wrist cuffs, chastity belt, and the masterlock for the chain that is locked onto my ankle every night. It's not a collar but it's a tangible symbol to Him of His ownership of me. It was His idea to do it and it means alot to Him. That's all that matters, right?[;)]. My best to you both..............luci

ownedgirlie -> RE: Collaring the Collarers (8/12/2007 7:19:24 PM)
~ FR ~ He doesn't really have any symbols of his ownership of me, but knowing he uses a money clip, I gave him one which I had engraved with the insignia he created and tattoo'd me with as his brand of ownership. This way he can carry me around with him in his pocket. [;)] He also bought himself a matching bracelet to the collar he bought me, which surprised me. He doesn't wear it often, but he likes having it. I don't consider either of these items a reverse collaring or anything, but I do enjoy that he has them. As others have said, to each their own :)

catize -> RE: Collaring the Collarers (8/12/2007 7:24:08 PM)
You are both happy. It's your rules, your relationship, your decision. Congrats to both of you!

MasterFireMaam -> RE: Collaring the Collarers (8/12/2007 9:59:14 PM)
I'm not collared to my girl, per sae, I'm collared to the Universe and my calling to be a Master. This incorporates my calling to be her Master, as well as for others who come into my life. I also acknowledge that I serve in other ways...as a friend, mentor, guide, lover, etc. as I'm called and am capable. So, when you see me and my girl, you will see that our collars are very similar: a silver fire pendant on a chain. I have also given that symbol to people who mean something to me...and I've kept that symbol from people to aide them on their journey as well. I don't use it for manipulation; I give or don't give it as I feel will do the most good. Kinda wandered off the point...sorry... Master Fire

Owned1 -> RE: Collaring the Collarers (8/12/2007 10:15:47 PM)
Master and i have almost identical necklaces, slight variations with different inscriptions Owned

MaamJay -> RE: Collaring the Collarers (8/12/2007 11:34:14 PM)
Congrats to LordKen and to candy, happy for both of you! With My previous sub, as we were already married, he didn't really go for the concept of ownership, so W/we settled on matching anklets, his on the left ankle, Mine on the right so when W/we stood together, it was as if he was shackled to Me. The anklets were set with opals dug out of the room in the underground hotel W/we'd stayed in in Coober Pedy, so were pretty special, and that symbolised that O/our new relationship had come up from the depths and had now seen the light. Worked for Me! Unfortunately, not for him, he's a CD fetishist and not a sub, so that ended well over a year ago. In a sense though, it seems you two have gone for this concept of union ... I just hope it has a much happier ending! (I admit to being pissed that Mine didn't give his anklet back!) When Master and my sub side violet had lived together 5 months, W/we bought matching silver rings for the little fingers of O/our right hands, and had a little commitment ceremony. When He subsequently collared me some 20 months later (He doesn't rush and the complication of my other relationship slowed Him down a bit too), i designed a silver identity-styled bracelet to match the rings, but with a gold v[A] in the middle and W/we had a jeweller friend make it for U/us. That is my collar, Master doesn't have any equivalent to that. However, He also treasures a jade ring i brought back from New Zealand for Him early in O/our relationship and although it doesn't fit well enough now on any finger to wear it, He wears it daily on a silver chain around His neck. But i wouldn't call it a collar LOL! With the new fem sub who is so promising, I found (through Avon no less, definite perks to being an Avon lady!), a gorgeous medallion that symbolises so well what the 3 of U/us are committed to working towards. It has 3 diamante hearts in a gold circle ... one on the bottom and 2 side by side on top ... perfect for a poly where she is the bottom rung and sees both of Us as Dominant to her, bound together in a circle of growing love. I was going to wait but couldn't bear not to give it to her just before she went home, especially as I knew she had a tough month ahead with major surgery looming. she will be back here at least all of next month to recuperate, and I wanted her to have something tangible of O/our feelings. In the future, I could see all 3 of U/us perhaps having something with that symbol to show connection. Given she likes tattoos ... grin ... W/we'll see! Congrats again to both of you! Maam Jay aka violet[A]

becca333 -> RE: Collaring the Collarers (8/13/2007 12:39:10 AM)
Congratulations to you both! We don't have any symbols like that - it's just not something we've ever thought about. We have our own little rituals and shared memories that symbolise our relationship. Every relationship is different; whatever works, works.

Transdance -> RE: Collaring the Collarers (8/13/2007 1:08:06 AM)
Cograts to the both of you!! I like the idea of both parties showing their commitment with some outward sign, be that a collar or necklace for the sub and something like a ring for the Dom. I think it's a lovely gesture [:D] In a past relationship I was given a bracelet to wear by my mistress, a silver charm bracelet that would have charms added to it the further our relationship progressed. Once again congratulations [:)]

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