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is this sub worth a look? - 7/3/2005 5:08:35 PM

ISObossChick

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just curious..have doubts about how good a sub I'm presenting myself to be...if I were local..woud you talk to me? silly question I know but does my profile look remotely interesting to a dominant?

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RE: is this sub worth a look? - 7/3/2005 5:09:28 PM

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lol. kinda sounds a little desperate man.

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RE: is this sub worth a look? - 7/3/2005 5:13:20 PM

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RE: is this sub worth a look? - 7/3/2005 5:45:34 PM

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it is not a bad profile as far as profile goes, it would be nice if you expanded a bit on yours abilities, and your interests. I for one don't care for the terms "princess" or "chick".. but that is solely me. If you read the thread 10 steps for impressing a mistress it gives great detail about what we like to see.

Hope that helps. I didn't see any "desperation" in your profile, more just " easy going & laid back".. which is a good thing.

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RE: is this sub worth a look? - 7/3/2005 5:48:55 PM

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yeah I get a lot of comments on the word chick...but I thought about that before implementing that into a screenname. The girl I'm looking for would hopefully be laid back enough and not too sensitive about it and at the same time I tried to convey a sense of "sammy" in it :)

I do appreciate your response and I will definitely try and expand on my abilities and interests. I will also read the thread.

Thanks again

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RE: is this sub worth a look? - 7/3/2005 5:52:18 PM

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Honestly, your profile comes across arrogant. I'm not saying *you are arrogant*... you might be, you might not be. In any case, the only thing that is important is that you attract the type of woman you are looking for.

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RE: is this sub worth a look? - 7/3/2005 5:53:38 PM

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I was going for Sammy but I know any Dominant worth her salt can put me in my place.

Thank you for your honesty Lady Angelika

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RE: is this sub worth a look? - 7/3/2005 6:07:57 PM

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...what's " a Sammy"? I mean, aside from a hated shortening of my given name, that is.

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RE: is this sub worth a look? - 7/3/2005 6:10:03 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ISObossChick
I was going for Sammy but I know any Dominant worth her salt can put me in my place.

Thank you for your honesty Lady Angelika

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Sammy, as in smart assed submissive? There are a few Dommes out there into that. I think a bit of smart ass is fun to be honest but I like to discover it slowly, not blatantly like in your add. Of course, I'm speaking from my perspective here. See your add seems pretty much all smart ass and very little submissive, hence my use of the word arrogant.

I have to agree with Eden also that the words Princess and Chic are off-putting. I'd probably be laid back enough to have my sub play partner call me chic once we were in a comfortable exchange. If a submissive approached me as *chic* from the get-go, I wouldn't be very impressed.

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RE: is this sub worth a look? - 7/3/2005 6:10:54 PM

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RE: is this sub worth a look? - 7/3/2005 6:21:13 PM

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Lady Angelika

what do you think would be a good alternative?

ISOBossGirl
ISOBossLady (sounds like a name that tvguide collector that stalked Ellen on Seinfeld would use)
ISOBossGirly

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RE: is this sub worth a look? - 7/3/2005 6:25:28 PM

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I guess I will have to wait for the revised version to be approved... so no comment on profile.

Yet as far as the thread has commented... & by your own words of being sammy, that isn't going to gain you any points even with the most laid back of female dominants. I consider myself to be extremely laid back. A real Florida beach bum/surfer when my schedule permits. Sammy doesn't fly with me. I am sure most of the female dominants you will encounter will not like to be challenged to "put you in your place" as you put say.

I have absolutely no problem with my sub being sassy at times. This is between us, playful & not done in a disrespectful manner. We also have over a year of being with each other full time now & we have a great understanding about each other & it grows deeper every day. For someone to immediately be sassy day one or in the case as which the OP asked about, reviewing his profile... this doesn't make a good impression.

I will look back & see what your profile says once approved.

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RE: is this sub worth a look? - 7/3/2005 6:29:23 PM

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Mistress Passion,

Thank you for your reply and honesty. I believe that amongst all these suggestions, It also might be a good idea to change the name. I will have to delete and recreate the profile altogether..but if that will bring me closer to finding a Mistress who'll have me then it's worth it.

Thanks again for your advice Mistress

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RE: is this sub worth a look? - 7/3/2005 8:33:09 PM

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Agreeing with LA. Also noting you stated "...a bit subservient" to ...
I would pretty much read it as someone who likes the idea of D/s to spice up the life once in a while, but no real dedication.
Good luck with the new profile!

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RE: is this sub worth a look? - 7/3/2005 9:06:28 PM

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Hey Joe,
I like your profile overall, and don't think it sounds desperate.
The statements "has his shit together" and "because I don't like to be stupid" are unnecessary and possibly a touch arrogant to have mentioned.
The word Chick will possibly turn off some ladies who may get a first impression of a disrespectful man, but what would really deter me from contacting you would be the challenge of putting you in your place...

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I was going for Sammy but I know any Dominant worth her salt can put me in my place.

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RE: is this sub worth a look? - 7/4/2005 12:34:31 AM

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Just to offer a humble opinion, presentation is everything. Surf and turf loses its appeal if it is served up on a garbage pail lid. On the other hand, a grilled cheese sandwich can be offered with respect, admiration and a bit of jealousy for its intrinsic ability to meet Mistress's needs of the moment.
Not everyone will be impressed with the same things, but that is what makes life interesting.

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RE: is this sub worth a look? - 7/4/2005 4:33:26 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ISObossChick
smart ass masochist

Errr... that's what I meant to write. Otherwise it would be Sassy, right? ;)

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ORIGINAL: ISObossChick

Lady Angelika

what do you think would be a good alternative?

ISOBossGirl
ISOBossLady (sounds like a name that tvguide collector that stalked Ellen on Seinfeld would use)
ISOBossGirly

sub joe

I think you need to take a nick that is right for you, though I would suggest against Girl, and ever more against Girly.

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RE: is this sub worth a look? - 7/4/2005 4:54:07 PM

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I think you may wish to scrap the entire name.

If you have a profile up on the other side and you've expressed an interest in meeting and connecting with someone you really don't need for people to know that you're "ISO".

Why don't you pick a title that describes you as a person, first and foremost. Are you fun to be around? Are you charismatic? Are you a damn fine chef?

On top of what everyone else has said I'll ante up my two cents. Girl... Girly... Chick... Babe... Doll... Dame... You're probably not conveying the right sort of image. For the record I don't enjoy when friends use this either. I allow one male friend to refer to me as Dame, because he's amusing and I know he means no disrespect. A very close female friend of mine and I will refer to each other as "girl" (such as going out on the town for a 'girl's night') but both of us find it very off putting when someone we don't know uses the term. As for all of my other friends - well - they know better than to refer to me by anything other than my name.

Suppose you were a Dominant male and a potential submissive woman approached you using the term "boy" or "doll face". I don't think you'd be terribly impressed. While you may be able to use some of those terms after developing a relationship with a woman (not girl!) you should probably start off on a more respectful note so that potential women will know that it isn't just a fun bedroom game you play from time to time (unless that is what you are seeking - in which case that needs to go into your profile as well.)

What you've written in the first paragraph gives me very little insight into your demeanor. You haven't spell checked your profile nor have you used proper sentence structure, which to me would indicate an insincerity or laziness. While that may not be true you only get one shot to impress a person reading your profile.

"Subserviant" ought to be "subservient". Jeapordize is not a word. Jeopardize is. A lot (or in your profile "alot") should not be one word.

Subjects require both a subject or implied subject (such as the unspoken "you") and a verb. Otherwise you're left with fragments. If I were you I would write as though I were writing a formal essay.

However these are just my thoughts. Whatever you do decide to do I wish you the best and all the luck with your search.

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RE: is this sub worth a look? - 7/11/2005 4:43:06 PM

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Madame Dahlia

Thank you so much for the intricate reply. I know you have better things to do with your time than spend it on me so you have my appreciation.

I can certainly agree with what you're saying. I mean no disrespect but you're right..I should have a screenname that exhibits who I am.

As far as grammar and spelling, I assure you I am educated but you're right..it can easily be interpreted as laziness and I have nothing but humility for your pointing it out.

I may not revise it immediately but believe me you've made an impact on my profile development.

Thanks again Madame Dahlia

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RE: is this sub worth a look? - 7/11/2005 8:18:27 PM

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Just for the record, I do not find Princess to be at all insulting. :) Girl, chick, chica, broad, honey, sweetie, are NOT acceptable from someone that I have never met. BossLady is rather amusing, but you do have to work your way up to that kind of casualness with Me.

The other ladies have said much of what I would say already, so I'll try not to be redundant. Thank you , Mme Dahlia for being a fellow Grammar Snob!

It takes balls to serve Me, so I do admire self confidence and self esteem in a potential submissive. I am into power EXCHANGE, though, not power struggle, and the notion that I have to endlessly alpha someone to make him bow down is unappealing. Am I an ineffective dominant if I don't break you?

I have a life outside the scene. Certainly I look at shared kinks when I look at a profile, but I am also looking to find out what that person has to offer ME. Amazingly enough, ready ass to beat is not enough. Massage and food are nice, but I can get those fairly readily. Try to get away from the scene oriented things and talk about what else you are interested in, or what other qualities you have that are useful. What makes you stand out from all those other guys?

Good luck,

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