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sambamanslilgirl -> RE: Chose or be Chosen (8/13/2007 7:01:02 AM)
i wouldn't say Daddy chose my per se - we mutually chose each other. He was searching for a woman like me - naturally submissive yet like a little child lost in the woods (that's how He described me when we first met) needing guidance and nurturing hand to guide her. on the other hand, i wasn't really looking for another dominant at all after leaving my former ...just someone to meet and hang out as friends. that's how Daddy and i met - we started off as friends before moving into our current D/s dynamic.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Chose or be Chosen (8/13/2007 7:24:52 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Satyr6406 I believe this is the "standard" practice as it makes the most sense. I don't know many dominants that TAKE a submissive who's just walking down the street, minding their own business, bop them on the head and say: "You're going to serve me." Yeah but I don't know any subs who walk up to a dom who's just walking down the street, minding their own business and say "I'm going to serve you." either. IME it happens just as often that the dom approaches the sub to start getting to know you/courting as it is the sub approaching the dom.

Satyr6406 -> RE: Chose or be Chosen (8/13/2007 8:03:56 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross Yeah but I don't know any subs who walk up to a dom who's just walking down the street, minding their own business and say "I'm going to serve you." either. quote: ORIGINAL: Satyr6406 *puts on his flame retardant suit* The way I understand/practice D/s relationships is that the submissive notices certain qualities in a dominant that they appreciate/admire. At some point, the submissive feels driven to serve that dominant in some way and offers their service to the dominant. I believe this is the "standard" practice as it makes the most sense. I don't know many dominants that TAKE a submissive who's just walking down the street, minding their own business, bop them on the head and say: "You're going to serve me." To be clear: There are certainly conversations that take place that let both parties feel secure enough so that they believe they won't be rejected (That's human nature) but, ultimately, I believe it's the submissive that chooses the dominant. That's the way it's always been for me. Peace and comfort, Michael LA, had you read/grabbed the whole quote, you would have seen the part that I highlighted in red. Peace and comfort, Michael

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Chose or be Chosen (8/13/2007 8:18:46 AM)
Oh no, I read that part. I responded to the part I felt needed responding.

BitaTruble -> RE: Chose or be Chosen (8/13/2007 11:00:02 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie Now he can't get me to shut up...[8D] Maybe I should have sent him a gag instead of one of the Ugly Sisters. [8D] Celeste

ownedgirlie -> RE: Chose or be Chosen (8/13/2007 11:51:21 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BitaTruble quote: ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie Now he can't get me to shut up...[8D] Maybe I should have sent him a gag instead of one of the Ugly Sisters. [8D] Celeste Knock it off!! [sm=tongue.gif]

daddysprop247 -> RE: Chose or be Chosen (8/13/2007 11:55:06 AM)
we chose each other, first as friends, then as Mentor and mentee, then as Master and slave. but i never "offered" myself to him.

aplayfulsub -> RE: Chose or be Chosen (8/13/2007 12:20:38 PM)
He wrote me first. And I had several who wrote me. So I had to "choose" him. So we chose each other. I am not collared yet but but everything is going well. In the past in a long term relationship, we both fell into it. I guess we chose each other in that. But the first 5 years or so was "vanilla" Then we started getting into BDSM. We were pretty isolated in our practices. Definately the relationship came first then BDSM became our lifestyle.

Celeste43 -> RE: Chose or be Chosen (8/13/2007 12:36:09 PM)
He sent the first email. I'm pretty gunshy about risking rejection and preferred a dominant who was secure enough to handle it. However although he chose to write to me, it was my choice to write back. We both choose to be in this relationship.

denika -> RE: Chose or be Chosen (8/13/2007 1:40:49 PM)
Thank you all so much for your thoughtful answers, I've enjoyed reading them and learning how many met. It helped me come to my own answers to questions I had been pondering. Thank you denika

teamnoir -> RE: Chose or be Chosen (8/13/2007 6:57:32 PM)
Combinations. And at some level in the dance of approach, it becomes impossible to tell who picked whom.

KiandPhoenix -> RE: Chose or be Chosen (8/13/2007 10:13:48 PM)
Before Phoenix and I got together, we had a couple weeks where we were (for lack of a better term) fuck buddies. I was still not in the BDSM scene, but the first time wee finally hooked up for an evening she told me that she never wanted to submit to someone so badly in her life. So I think she chose me. After we were officially together for a few weeks I made a comment about wanting to see a collar on her that said "Property of Ki", and she went nuts. I started learning right away. Negotiations started that evening. So I think she chose me, but we might just have chosen each other. ~Ki

ta2dqt -> RE: Chose or be Chosen (8/18/2007 1:27:28 PM)
[sm=confused.gif] Im still looking................... :(

LadyIce -> RE: Chose or be Chosen (8/18/2007 1:43:26 PM)
For me, we usually select each other. Normally, the submissive approachs me first, but after that I set the pace and make the rules. If the submissive is to anxious, eager, desperate or aggressive, than he is not chosen. I chose the good puppies that wait for me to decide if I want them.

adoracat -> RE: Chose or be Chosen (8/18/2007 3:58:36 PM)
i set a profile here, Sir pursued me and wouldnt take "i'm not sure" for an answer. he kept pursuing me till i turned around and let him catch me. kitten...."that's my story and i'm stickin to it!"

arayofsunshine55 -> RE: Chose or be Chosen (8/18/2007 5:08:13 PM)
He emailed me first. But given his penchant for net fishing I did not feel chosen. We both liked each other and decided to meet. And by then end of the meal I was soaking wet and his Cock was hard. So for playing our parts chose each other.

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