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RE: ok... here's the thing - 8/13/2007 2:11:10 AM

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I've never been called psychotic. Though someone told me today I was uglier than his dick. What's that sayin'?

I dunno, but his dick must be the penile equivalent of the Mona Lisa. You are beautiful.

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RE: ok... here's the thing - 8/13/2007 2:14:04 AM

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its not officially psychosis if you don't believe you can lead others into believing a nutty situation.

but, sure, I believe you.

hehehehe

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RE: ok... here's the thing - 8/13/2007 2:16:54 AM

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i'm so glad theres like this... scientific reason...

thats pretty neat...

now i can rest easy knowing its not me... its THEM!!! haha

:: giggles ::

so... yeah... i'm psychotic... but no... i dont fucking love you... and you can't fuck me... so there...
(thats my new message to all men... admit to the psychotic thing in advance...so that they can't hurl it at me as an insult)

gosh darn

some people...

and its not like...
well i dont need to justify it...

thanks to everyone whos posted so far for being so informative except for that blue collar guy... he needs to loosen up a bit...

this night just keeps getting better and better...

oh shit...
its morning now...

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RE: ok... here's the thing - 8/13/2007 2:21:44 AM

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Get some rest, lack of sleep can cause psychosis ya know

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RE: ok... here's the thing - 8/13/2007 2:22:31 AM

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those boots are soooo hawwt. I am becoming neurotic and psychotic just lookin' at em.

if you reject me. I am due for a bout of self-pity and wallowing in though of what filthy words to call you.

LOL

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RE: ok... here's the thing - 8/13/2007 2:24:33 AM

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haha

go for it
i already rejected one boy tonite

he called me psychotic and immature...

and needy...

damn boys...

i can take it... give me what you've got...

goodness knows i deal with it enough... can't find a good man yet...

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RE: ok... here's the thing - 8/13/2007 2:28:14 AM

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he called you psycho and immature because he believes he is justified in his realization that he...

oh fuk it..

he dropped his blue crayon behind his computer desk and his angry red crayon just happened to be on hand.

scribble doodle scribble.. pftt

lol

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RE: ok... here's the thing - 8/13/2007 2:28:43 AM

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I often see this, as well. Not all men, but there have been quite a few with that sort of response. When told, "Your loss." I also see it on profiles at least daily. These are the people who say things like this on their profiles:
"There are so many wannabees on this site. They say they want to be a submissive or a slave, & yet, when it seems we start on this path, they disappear or decide this isn't for them."

First off, nobody likes rejection. I am sure many, including the men we are speaking of, do not like to be rejected anymore than anyone else does. Rather than face rejection, it is much easier to assume the woman is psychotic, or whatever else would put the blame on the woman. I am sure the reverse has to be true as well. I just don't see it so much with women.

As too the wannabees, or people who aren't committed to this lifestyle because they disappear when things start heating up, I feel sure that may be true with some. However, if someone is constantly running into people like this, it is easier to blame the people who don't work out. Otherwise, the person would have to look at what about them, is causing them to go after people who turn out to be unavailable. They might have to look at what about them, might be causing these women to run from them, as they get to know him or her, which could be what they are doing,

I have seen this with both submissives & dominant profiles, & in discussions, as well as from both men & women. The profiles just pop up here, when I go to the home page on this site. I generally just pass these by. I see these & my first thought is about what they are doing to attract the wrong people, or what they might be doing to repel the people they interact with. Very often, those profiles, at least to me, come across as whining, which drives me absolutely nuts.

I had a husband at one time. I felt like the life was being sucked from me, the longer we were together. We split up, & while we were having one of our famous arguments at that time, he told me, I would never find anyone to love me like he did. I blurted out my only thought, "I hope the hell I don't." I meant it then, & to this day, I still do.

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RE: ok... here's the thing - 8/13/2007 2:33:03 AM

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BTW - Massive props to MasterMagnus for getting the reference I was making to the original 12-step literature...

That's what I'm saying: they're sick individuals who need help that most of us aren't equipped to provide them.

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RE: ok... here's the thing - 8/13/2007 2:59:35 AM

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I've never been called psychotic. Though someone told me today I was uglier than his dick. What's that sayin'?

I dunno, but his dick must be the penile equivalent of the Mona Lisa. You are beautiful.

thank you *S*

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RE: ok... here's the thing - 8/13/2007 7:48:43 AM

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they moved my post... boo...

i love the response its getting though...

i think... that we should all just take their insults as a term of endearment...

like... if they like us enough to care what we think

then we must have done something right

personally, if i don't like someone..
their opinion wouldn't matter enough to me for me to call them psychotic...

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RE: ok... here's the thing - 8/13/2007 7:54:30 AM

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You are normal and they are not.

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RE: ok... here's the thing - 8/13/2007 7:55:55 AM

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haha way to tell me EXACTLY what i want to hear...

thanks :)

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RE: ok... here's the thing - 8/13/2007 8:02:35 AM

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Some males just can't take being rejected by a female.

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RE: ok... here's the thing - 8/13/2007 9:34:39 AM

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She DID start a real dialogue. Rant or no rant, it is meaningful to some. Who made you the dialogue-police?

The mayor of Dialogue City.

See, MissMagnolia, I CAN lighten up.

That said, I still stand by my words.

Yeah, I get it. All men are scum, yadda-yadda. I know it's not being said, but it certainly feels like it's being implied. I don't believe I'm the only person noticing this generalisation. Maybe the only one willing to point it out, though.

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RE: ok... here's the thing - 8/13/2007 10:01:50 AM

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no no no...

all men are not scum...

but the men who seem to appear in our lives (judging by the response i've gotten in this thread) seem to be scum...

i've met a couple good men...

my father is a wonderful man...

it was more of a question of "why do they do that" than a statement of "all men are scum"

i can't ever say all men are anything anymore.
i met an awesome one...

he wasn't for me, so i let him go... but he's a wonderful man as well.

its the difference between being real and being fake, i think. the fake subbies (or the stupid ones, or the insecure ones) are the ones that make statements like that...

lately it comes at me from the guy who obviously thinks he's all that and a happy front page story in the local paper...

and physically... he usually is pretty good looking... but when i shoot him down for being stupider than a stone, intelectually, he gets all upset at me...(goodness knows he is more than knowledgable at how to lift weights and wear a shirt thats two sizes too small so you can see his muscles underneath it).

in short... all men aren't bad... but they sure do say stupid things sometimes.

all in all, this thread has given me substantially more self confidence. here i was believing that i really am stupid and fat and ugly and psychotic... just because HE (whoever he is) says so...

its good to know i'm not those things...

i'll have to try to keep that in mind so i can laugh, instead of cry, next time some random boy throws insults at me.

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RE: ok... here's the thing - 8/13/2007 10:12:36 AM

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no no no...

all men are not scum...

but the men who seem to appear in our lives (judging by the response i've gotten in this thread) seem to be scum...

i've met a couple good men...

my father is a wonderful man...

it was more of a question of "why do they do that" than a statement of "all men are scum"

i can't ever say all men are anything anymore.
i met an awesome one...

he wasn't for me, so i let him go... but he's a wonderful man as well.

its the difference between being real and being fake, i think. the fake subbies (or the stupid ones, or the insecure ones) are the ones that make statements like that...

lately it comes at me from the guy who obviously thinks he's all that and a happy front page story in the local paper...

and physically... he usually is pretty good looking... but when i shoot him down for being stupider than a stone, intelectually, he gets all upset at me...(goodness knows he is more than knowledgable at how to lift weights and wear a shirt thats two sizes too small so you can see his muscles underneath it).

in short... all men aren't bad... but they sure do say stupid things sometimes.

all in all, this thread has given me substantially more self confidence. here i was believing that i really am stupid and fat and ugly and psychotic... just because HE (whoever he is) says so...

its good to know i'm not those things...

i'll have to try to keep that in mind so i can laugh, instead of cry, next time some random boy throws insults at me.

Okay, well it's good to get some clarification. For the record, you're always going to meet a few bad apples here and there and you should never let the negatives get you down. Some people just can't appreciate something good when they see it.

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RE: ok... here's the thing - 8/13/2007 10:16:30 AM

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for some reason whenever i don't express intense interest in wanting to sleep with/play with someone... i get called psychotic... its like if i'm not madly in love with them and wanting to let them fuck me or beat me... i'm some weird strange creature from an unknown universe...

is that the male insecurity?

something MUST be wrong with me because they're perfect???

i'm not psychotic... i swear

well, i guess that depends on who you ask

but really, what the hell is up with that

I was walking through the grocery store yesterday and this black chik was stocking the dairy counter and doing this kewt little ass-shake thing and she saw I was watching her and smiled and said that it she meant it for him. Him was a stock boy named Rigo. Then she said she has been trying to get him but he shows no interest in her, or her friend, and she's starting to wonder what is wrong with him.

Ok... Here's the thing

I also get approached by chix from time to time that I have no interest in whatsoever, and yet I'm not interested in making anyone feel bad or rejected either. And yet some people can't seem to grasp the idea that EVERYONE is free to choose or to NOT choose. I think it's weird when people act like this.

Make your approach and if they're not interested it doesn't mean they're psychotic, but if you keep bothering them it might mean you're a psycho.

go figure.

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RE: ok... here's the thing - 8/13/2007 10:20:56 AM

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I have always wonder why in a community that speaks of openness and tolerance there are so many that put down those people who play for play's own sake or enjoy sex without commitments or emotional attachments. And while I see men who let their egos get crushed because a woman decides that it was fun while it lasted but moved on, it is other women who tend to be the ones that are the ones who get really vicious and mean. I think there is a solid core of women in BDSM who because of there own hang ups and insecurities with themselves to out of their way to deny to others fun, fantasy and frolic.

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RE: ok... here's the thing - 8/13/2007 10:21:05 AM

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but i don't call boys psychotic when they don't love me just the way i want them to..

i call them.. uhm... non-committal...

or uhm... male...

but every time... EVERY TIME i let a male know i'm not interested, its their first response "you're psychotic"

like its programed or something...

Hey, maybe it's the same guy with numerous names.
If I ask a woman out and she says "no" I just walk away.
And I don't ask again. If she doesn't want to be with you the first time you ask then the "second" or "third" time's not going to be a "charm" either.
Why try to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you?
That just doesn't make sense.
Sounds like the guys who contacted you are just immature.
You have to be able to let rejection roll off of you.
About 7-8 years ago I must have asked a dozen women out over a 6 month period and all of them said "no" for whatever reason.
Now at 56 I've said "no" a few times.
So, it all comes out in the wash.

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