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FelinePersuasion -> RE: Online Mistress? (8/14/2007 9:47:01 PM)
that is why I said for me, I have had long distance where he disapered a few times no explination in the beginning of our talks and he was quite easy to forget about lol cause I have no patience for people who disapere for 3 weeks on end with no heads up. quote: ORIGINAL: MySweetSubmssive There are often exceptions to the rule. In my experience that is what I have found. I wasn't talking about you or judging you. I was talking about me. MSS

Ysabol -> RE: Online Mistress? (8/14/2007 10:34:04 PM)
I have a suggestion for those here who are interested in having an online Mistress, but don't know how to go about it. There is a free online 3D world called Second Life. I know a few people here on CM play it, as there was a thread about it last week. There is a very large BDSM population there - both "regular" BDSM, and also Gorean. Many people who play have online only slaves, submissives, Mistresses or Masters. I have had various slaves in game only as well. You can check it out at http://www.secondlife.com My name there is Stymied Ennui. I'm not currently on much, but when i am on, I'd be willing to help anyone out find their way around, etc.

InnocentYoungSub -> RE: Online Mistress? (8/14/2007 10:39:00 PM)
Thank you, Ysabol. [:)]

Ysabol -> RE: Online Mistress? (8/14/2007 10:48:48 PM)
You're quite welcome - also, if you'd like, feel free to message me, I'm always up for new friends :)

MaleSubToSpoilMe -> RE: Online Mistress? (8/14/2007 10:49:04 PM)
I agree wholeheartedly D. It is not beneficial to me either. If you are going to be on your knees to me, I want to feel your breath on my leg. If you are going to be spanked, I want it to be my hand on that bottom...feeling your skin heat up under it. If I want you looking in my eyes, I don't want some distorted webcam pic of your eyes...I want to clearly see into them. Online does nothing at all for me, but that is my opinion. *Personally, I think the internet has taken a beautiful way of living and turned it into a joke for most. Again, only my opinion.*

michaelOfGeorgia -> RE: Online Mistress? (8/14/2007 10:51:53 PM)
i find online to be nothing more than wishful fantasy and it does nothing for me.

MaleSubToSpoilMe -> RE: Online Mistress? (8/14/2007 10:55:35 PM)
*Roflmao...you are too funny. [sm=applause.gif]*

MISTRESSKUMA -> RE: Online stuff (8/15/2007 1:29:41 AM)
:: BUMP :: tra, dont pay Lord and Master (what a name) attention (and your nipples are to hot for his idiotic mouth) , online is good and I actually do spend close to 20 hours a week talking to a subby as it is, but I want to keep a line drawn between our regular relationship chat, and his BDSM training. I dont want, or feel the need to work towards a 24/7 type deal, so keeping the 2 worlds separate is something of a must. Which is why the whole talking all the time thing, doesnt always work to keep focused on the task at hand. I tell him what clothes to wear, when to jerk off and what to eat. Also, I have started an online journal with him (as well as him having his rl journal at home) so I have easier and more frequent access to it. I also have gotten him to use his digital camera quite often, but it still seems that no matter how far I push my mind...there's only so much u can do when the distance is a factor. I will continue to conjure up more creative things I can do with what I know is available. Be Safe and Well.

solvr70 -> RE: Online Mistress? (8/15/2007 12:14:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressCara Its a safe non confrontational way to take your subs to a new level - mental easier to tap into the often unused resources up there I thought I was an online only domme now due to circumstances in My life but I do have slaves who I would welcome in r/t sessions. however there are subs for whom this is not possible either. everyone is different - isnt that the point? i have to admit, when i saw the topic, i expected all the responses to be no-way, no-how. very good to see that is not the case 100% of the time. although i do have to admit, being sub to One online and them being close enough that if the spark is there, rt could happen does kick things up a notch....[;)]

all4yourplsr -> RE: Online Mistress? (8/15/2007 12:49:07 PM)
i served a Mistress online for a while last summer and basically loved it. She was more into the d/s side of things and gave me tasks to complete daily via e-mail. At first, i thought it was boring but remember feeling a deep submission to Her take me over one night as i was completing an assignment. She enhanced this feeling of submission in me by often calling me "pet." Just thinking of it now brings back that wonderful feeling. Having said all that, there is the problem of feedback or lack thereof. For example, if She gave me an assignment and i completed it but then didn't hear from Her for a few days i felt forgotten. Maybe that would be OK for some subs but since i was new to the whole thing and willing to do anything for Her, i needed her attention. When i didn't get what i wanted, i decided to move on. We had started the relationship with the idea that if either of us were unhappy, we could say so. As She said when i told her i wanted out, Her first inclination as a Dominat was to try to keep me. Funny this is that i have stopped by her profile a few times since last summer and She recently stopped by mine. All in all, I am in favor of online training but there has to be some definitive ground rules regarding feedback. ed

MistressSassy66 -> RE: Online Mistress? (8/16/2007 2:55:03 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: fender2398 Do mistresses really enjoy online training? I have been looking all over for RL Mistress but haven't been able to find anything yet. So I tried to find a Mistress up for online training/chat/webcam etc but I haven't found anything yet. I was wondering if it is something they enjoy or not. I have tried it...more than once.I dont like it under any circumstances. After doing sessions/scenes in My lil room I call the Dungeon online just doesnt measure up in anyway. The hands on experience is difficult to explain...but it ROCKS. Not saying its wrong...just it isnt My cup of tea.

BossyLadyPamela -> RE: Online Mistress? (8/18/2007 10:18:23 AM)
at this point in my life-- no longer doing official sessions...., I am too busy to plan to get to know someone for the purpose of meeting... so I get to know them just as my profile says....... I open the door to them for a casual entry to my moods..my attention as it is available.. and then if they can offer me a certain thing... that thing that touches me or interests me........(very complex and broad).. they I give them more attention with my sincere curiosity of them... it is a gamble that upfront they choose to take. They may or may not be the type of person I enjoy going further with. This is not any different then meeting people in vanilla world. .. sometimes it just dies on the first hello.. and I know I would rather lick dirt then listen to them another moment... then I entertain them only. when they take the gamble.. I am friendly and it is a pleasant interaction of us getting to know each other via email and phone... when and IF they cross over from being general to getting to me.. huge variety of reasons this could be... then I will plan on taking them on a more stricter path for target of meeting them......... few can handle my pace-- they want want want.....few can handle my attitude this is all about me and they will be paitent and we will do things my way......... but some can............. oh those some.. that is enough for me at this time.. Online is a huge pleasure for me now as an introductory to entry to get to know me as I want........ They find I am a woman that gives them this unbelievable new energy to carry with them each day after they get my attention....... it is the energy that is full of life and much the variety of what we all like individually in bdsm.... the planning for the meeting as I have mentioned many times is very expensive and time consuming....only few men even get on the door step to make me want to consider them.

cumulus -> RE: Online Mistress? (8/18/2007 2:26:56 PM)
Of course you'd want an online Mistress. Paypal is alot easier than bank transfer for delivering your tribute.

BitaTruble -> RE: Online Mistress? (8/19/2007 12:08:07 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: fender2398 Do mistresses really enjoy online training? I have been looking all over for RL Mistress but haven't been able to find anything yet. So I tried to find a Mistress up for online training/chat/webcam etc but I haven't found anything yet. I was wondering if it is something they enjoy or not. Some do, most don't and of the some who do, some of those will want some form of tribute. Take care and guard both your heart and your wallet if you go online only as a venue for your submission. Actually, that's probably good advice off-line as well. [;)] When you are ready to give, give freely and from the heart so that it has meaning for you and don't give out of a fear because you think that's the only way to keep what you've found. Such means you never had it at all. Celeste

fungasm -> RE: Online Mistress? (8/19/2007 8:12:25 AM)
Here's some data on my online construct. About 85% of the people who reply to me (despite my being really specific about this being a virtual construct) actually want a Real Time Mistress. I send them here or to Max Fisch. Of those who begin the challenge, about 1 out of 3 will really get into it. These are the ones who do the challenge everyday, and really look into where it takes them in their head. For some it enhances what they do in the real world. 1 out of three will want to keep getting the challenges as "interesting/fascinating/etc" reading material, but they won't actually be doing them everyday. The last third will either find that the challenges are not what they expected, or that their personal/home life is suffering because they are paying too much attention to The Challenge and not doing anything else., or they met someone in their life to play with and want to focus there. Online doesn't work for those who need real touch and commitment. It also doesn't work for those whose triggers are delicate/personal- if the brush or breath on your back, or a look is what takes you to subspace, online will never be a substitute. Also if you need risk, than online really won't satisfy that for you. And if you want a real relationship with more to it than just sexual exploring, you have to find a real time partner. It does work for those who have the imagination, dedication and the intelligence to to push their buttons. There are some of us- and I'm definitely in this crew, where we spend a lot of time in our own head. Having someone else direct our thoughts and actions in one part of your life can be fun- without risk or harm. Two things I didn't expect when I went from real time to online in my professional life: a deeper emotional commitment and that it would help people find more of what they really wanted. It makes sense though. On average, my toys and I write back and forth about 6 times a day. We share a lot more together than any hour/three hours I ever spent with someone. As for helping people, I find myself being a virtual wing woman a lot. I'm not the relationship they really want, but I'm there with advice and wicked ideas while they search for their own happily ever after. The fabulous thing is, once they have their brain distracted and they have an emotional backup (so they aren't so bloody desperate), it's easier to find what they want. A number of folks have only lasted a week or two and then they find something promising... I'm crossing my fingers that they stay happy. Alison

ObedientYYC -> RE: Online Mistress? (8/19/2007 11:19:56 AM)
Online is fine so long as you realize it is fantasy play, and mostly all in your head. If you start thinking that he/she is "the one", and you have never met in person, you are setting yourself up to get burned. No amount of emails or phone calls can substitute for meeting in real life.

fungasm -> RE: Online Mistress? (8/19/2007 8:24:52 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ObedientYYC Online is fine so long as you realize it is fantasy play, and mostly all in your head. If you start thinking that he/she is "the one", and you have never met in person, you are setting yourself up to get burned. No amount of emails or phone calls can substitute for meeting in real life. That we will never meet in real life is part of the appeal for many of those who form my core group. It is compartimentalization at it's finest.

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