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Online Mistress? - 8/13/2007 6:52:09 PM   
fender2398


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Status: offline 		Do mistresses really enjoy online training?  I have been looking all over for RL Mistress but haven't been able to find anything yet.  So I tried to find a Mistress up for online training/chat/webcam etc but I haven't found anything yet.  I was wondering if it is something they enjoy or not.


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RE: Online Mistress? - 8/13/2007 6:56:11 PM   
RuheMaus


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Status: offline 		Before any arguements begin, let me send out a note.  Tere are those who love OL play, and those that hate it.  Those that can truely get into it mentally, and those that claim it's all just for getting off. (Though, is getting off online any different than getting off in person with someone?  But that's another query for another day...)  My sugeestion would be to look for a Domme who does enjoy online play, and start from there.  Who knows/  I've seen many OL D/s relationships that flowed happily into RL, so you never know what could happen!

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RE: Online Mistress? - 8/13/2007 6:57:35 PM   
DiurnalVampire


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Status: offline 		Personally, I like it when I know it is leading somewhere.  I started all my boys online. If it is ALL tat we are going to have, though, I cant stay interested.
Just my take, though

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RE: Online Mistress? - 8/13/2007 7:05:09 PM   
RumpusParable


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Status: offline 		Much similar to Diurnal here. 

If it's leading to more or if I already know the person in real life then I can sometimes enjoy it, but normally no.  It just gets stale and dull if that's the relationship as a whole so I normally don't bother starting at all... the only exception tends to be when a whim to do so strikes from time to time.  Even then there are only certain things I'll do as watching someone do something sexual or hurt themselves on cam does zip for me.

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RE: Online Mistress? - 8/13/2007 7:15:52 PM   
earthycouple


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Status: offline 		I don't.  I think it is silly and non beneficial to me

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RE: Online Mistress? - 8/13/2007 7:18:37 PM   
DianeB269


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Status: offline 		Agreed, it make no sence and it's very boring.



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RE: Online Mistress? - 8/14/2007 11:30:01 AM   
hereyesruponyou


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Status: offline 		It's alot of work for little benefit. On the other hand if that is all she is able to do herself then it is better than nothing i suppose....

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RE: Online Mistress? - 8/14/2007 11:31:59 AM   
MistressCara


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Status: offline 		Its a safe non confrontational way to take your subs to a new level - mental
easier to tap into the often unused resources up there
I thought I was an online only domme now due to circumstances in My life but I do have slaves who I would welcome in r/t sessions. however there are subs for whom this is not possible either. everyone is different - isnt that the point?

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RE: Online Mistress? - 8/14/2007 11:37:33 AM   
submissiveguy69


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Status: offline 		I agree completely. In my opinion, this lifestyle & the activities associated with it are meant to be enjoyed in person. Online is a cheap substitute......it's acting with way too much room for insincerity on both sides.

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RE: Online Mistress? - 8/14/2007 11:40:27 AM   
MistressCara


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Status: offline 		so nice to hear everyones such open minded views on what is meant to be an open minded subject

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RE: Online Mistress? - 8/14/2007 11:42:16 AM   
earthycouple


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Status: offline 		you are the non open minded one, Cara.  Not one of us who said we would't do it, complained that you (or anyone) do it.  Yet you are telling us how dare we say it is not right for us.

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RE: Online Mistress? - 8/14/2007 11:43:23 AM   
submissiveguy69


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Status: offline 		I didn't mean to offend you MistressCara............hey, if you enjoy it more power to you. I was just giving my opinion that it does nothing for me.

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RE: Online Mistress? - 8/14/2007 11:47:02 AM   
FelinePersuasion


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Status: offline 		They're intittled to what they feel. MistressCara, If they feel there's no point to it, that's their right to feel that.

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RE: Online Mistress? - 8/14/2007 11:50:06 AM   
MySweetSubmssive


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From: Lehigh Valley, PA
Status: offline 		Trying to articulate the reasons I don't care for online ...

You don't really have to risk anything.  You can walk away anytime.  There's little investment.  Feh.

It might be fun for "control," but in terms of service or being able to inflict discomfort on someone, it's not useful. There's no way to be served tea online or to have my feet licked.  There's limited utility with the medium.

I like being able to see and hear someone's responses.  Online -- even with cam -- is a pale, pale second.  I like kissing and touching.  No chance with online for that.

Years ago, a vegan friend of mine made a quiche (not sure if that's spelled right).  I looked at what he made and back to his face.  I ticked off on my fingers, "No eggs, no butter, no milk, no cheese.  This might be yummy, but is surely is not a quiche!"  I feel the same about online -- without the yumminess.  It's a weird substitute, and I don't want to eat it.

He made vegan cheesecake, too.

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RE: Online Mistress? - 8/14/2007 11:53:27 AM   
AAkasha


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quote:

ORIGINAL: fender2398

Do mistresses really enjoy online training?  I have been looking all over for RL Mistress but haven't been able to find anything yet.  So I tried to find a Mistress up for online training/chat/webcam etc but I haven't found anything yet.  I was wondering if it is something they enjoy or not.





I don't really do online only, at the very least, there should be phone.  The problem with online submissives is they are a dime a dozen, all offering the same thing, but all really just wanting to be used in ways to turn them on. They want to get commands and obey them. It's boring.  I want a man who really understands why I am into what I am into, and makes a very solid effort to arouse me -- and most men won't put the time and effort into figuring that out. Or, it makes it too much work for them, and really, they want a quick fix.

Unless a man is willing to invest a lot of time into reading and writing to me, and asking good questions, and listening carefully, he will never get to the stage of "commands" -- and most subs want the commands first, and think that their ability to carry out orders makes them somehow special.

The only exception to this rule, I will admit, is if a guy is really "cute" to me in his picture, and I am the one pursuing him, and I'm feeling "restless and randy" -- and I want to see him in a variety of compromising situations for my self indulgence. But even then, his replies need to be thoughtful and smart, and his efforts, if he is interested, should show some degree of desire to understand why I like what I like.

When I think of "online subs" what comes to mind is this saying:  Water water everywhere, but not a drop to drink.

There are dozens there at the ready, willing and happy to do all kinds of things for an "online" Mistress.  But really, nothing they offer will satisfy *my* desires, because if it's not in real life, it's a lot HARDER to scratch the itch.  So I need a sub who is really, really, REALLY good at it.  That's rare.

Sticking to real life, then, is a lot easier.

Akasha


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RE: Online Mistress? - 8/14/2007 2:18:03 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		I have absolutely no interest in those who offer submission by cyber.  While I admit online can be a great tool for those who can not be together, I certainly don't see it as a replacement for r/t.  Come to think of it, I don't remember many posts on the subject from those who do have cyber BDSM on their plate saying, "Gosh, this is so much better than what could be done in person, if that possibility existed". 
 
Give Me a willing boy at My feet, a flogger in My hand, and all of the r/t nuances over cyberland anyday!

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RE: Online Mistress? - 8/14/2007 2:22:32 PM   
domiguy


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressCara

so nice to hear everyones such open minded views on what is meant to be an open minded subject


You have some very nice online titties.....When I blow on the computer screen...Your nipples actually get hard!....You are good at this online shit!!!!

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RE: Online Mistress? - 8/14/2007 5:14:01 PM   
FelinePersuasion


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Status: offline 		When I had an online dom  your statement was the farthest thing from the truth for me. I was emotionally invested in him after a year of daily calls and talks and well yeah I loved him and I don't care if any one things you can't love someone you've never met.  I couldn't any more just quit and walk away than if he was right here and not 500 miles away.

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ORIGINAL: MySweetSubmssive

Trying to articulate the reasons I don't care for online ...

You don't really have to risk anything.  You can walk away anytime.  There's little investment.  Feh.

MSS 


< Message edited by FelinePersuasion -- 8/14/2007 5:22:44 PM >

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RE: Online Mistress? - 8/14/2007 7:30:24 PM   
MySweetSubmssive


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Status: offline 		There are often exceptions to the rule.  In my experience that is what I have found.  I wasn't talking about you or judging you.  I was talking about me.

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RE: Online Mistress? - 8/14/2007 8:15:29 PM   
InnocentYoungSub


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Status: offline 		I don't know anyone IRL who is into BDSM so I too am interested in maybe having an online mistress...

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