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SmokingGun82 -> RE: Lacking Interest (8/14/2007 3:13:09 PM)

You must go to a different Wal-Mart than I do... it's a rare 2 AM trip that doesn't result in at least temporary infatuation. ;)




pagankinktress -> RE: Lacking Interest (8/14/2007 3:21:57 PM)

Even though the greeters don't have to wear those vests anymore, Walmart still frightens me....




ExSteelAgain -> RE: Lacking Interest (8/14/2007 3:55:44 PM)

From my journal last Feb.

There is something about going to Walmart on a cold, dark night that makes me feel better with the teeming people in search of companionship under the bright lights. It shocks me when I enter from the parking lot and the weather to see all of that activity in the controlled environment. I’m in another world where darkness doesn’t matter. There is nothing bad here.
  
The old lady dressed in that blue thing gives me a shopping cart with a noisy wheel. I hold the handle of my cart tightly for security as I enter past the arcade carnival like games with toys in the glass asking for 50 cents a try to take one home. Ronald McDonald sits on a bench. All the color and cartoon like characters dressed in blue make things swirl for awhile. I'm in an Alice in Wonderland experience I tell myself. Where is Scarecrow?

 
Inside I try to focus on why I came. I push the cart to the right like I do when I walk on the track and hope things will come to me. Remember it is Saturday night and the big event of the week for many. I notice a beautiful young woman in a wheel chair approaching. Her hair and make-up is perfect and she smiles at me as we pass on that aisle where the clothes and food sections come together. Of course, this is her way out, too. Her Saturday night date whispering and touching her…the bright lights and warmth of Walmart. I push my noisy cart faster until the sound of the bad wheel blends into something bearable, not seeing the items on the shelves for awhile.
  
By the time I check out, exchange pleasantries with the clerk and pick my bags off the spinning carousel, I’m one of the experienced, one of the characters in the surreal setting, as I watch the newbies entering. I’ve got things and they have nothing. Out into the dark again, but feeling as if I’ve done something as I drive into the darkness, glancing in the mirror at the huge island of light behind me.




feastie -> RE: Lacking Interest (8/14/2007 4:12:26 PM)

To the OP ...

Yes, I have times when I feel like I don't know why I am involved or want to be involved with WIIWD.  This site has made me feel that way.  I have felt very different from most of the people I've read.  But in my heart, I know that there is someone out there for me, and being the person I am, the nature that I have, that relationship will be a D/s relationship.  It's just going to be with a person whose beliefs match my own.




slaveish -> RE: Lacking Interest (8/14/2007 4:16:41 PM)

Mmm. Yes. I've had that exact same feeling, ExSteel. It's somehow comforting to go in there in the middle of the night, into the bright lights, and to be with people. It's like a microcosmic Twilight Zone, in that it's the only place we exist together for a time, in the freezing rain and darkness of February. Very surreal.




Mystique567 -> RE: Lacking Interest (8/14/2007 4:20:26 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: ExSteelAgain

From my journal last Feb.

There is something about going to Walmart on a cold, dark night that makes me feel better with the teeming people in search of companionship under the bright lights. It shocks me when I enter from the parking lot and the weather to see all of that activity in the controlled environment. I’m in another world where darkness doesn’t matter. There is nothing bad here.
  
The old lady dressed in that blue thing gives me a shopping cart with a noisy wheel. I hold the handle of my cart tightly for security as I enter past the arcade carnival like games with toys in the glass asking for 50 cents a try to take one home. Ronald McDonald sits on a bench. All the color and cartoon like characters dressed in blue make things swirl for awhile. I'm in an Alice in Wonderland experience I tell myself. Where is Scarecrow?

 
Inside I try to focus on why I came. I push the cart to the right like I do when I walk on the track and hope things will come to me. Remember it is Saturday night and the big event of the week for many. I notice a beautiful young woman in a wheel chair approaching. Her hair and make-up is perfect and she smiles at me as we pass on that aisle where the clothes and food sections come together. Of course, this is her way out, too. Her Saturday night date whispering and touching her…the bright lights and warmth of Walmart. I push my noisy cart faster until the sound of the bad wheel blends into something bearable, not seeing the items on the shelves for awhile.
  
By the time I check out, exchange pleasantries with the clerk and pick my bags off the spinning carousel, I’m one of the experienced, one of the characters in the surreal setting, as I watch the newbies entering. I’ve got things and they have nothing. Out into the dark again, but feeling as if I’ve done something as I drive into the darkness, glancing in the mirror at the huge island of light behind me.



That is some amazing writing thank you for sharing it




leatherette -> RE: Lacking Interest (8/14/2007 4:24:48 PM)

ExSteel: very seriously
- what a haunting, eery, poignant, and yes surrealist story. 
I love it and think it is brilliant. Thank you so much!

why I keep coming back - this place - amazes me. I am in awe of the talent, intelligence, hilarity, the sublime and the muck.

wow, leatherette




ownedgirlie -> RE: Lacking Interest (8/14/2007 4:25:46 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: satyrsnymph28
apparently thats not BDSM enough for some...
but its what i want



You know what you want and that's a huge head start you have on most people.  And there's not a damn thing wrong with reflecting on who you are and what you want and what floats your boat or sinks it.  You'd be surprised how many people want something really obscure and stick to their commitment to be true to themselves and find it.

As for me, I spent a lot of time, energy, tears and laughter figuring out who I am and what brings me happiness.  Until I became certain of it, I'd waver from various "lifestyles" in search of myself . And doing so was all a part of what made me who and what I am today.

Life is such a journey, isn't it?  Embrace where you are, enjoy the space you occupy, and keep seeking what brings you joy.  You will find it!




domiguy -> RE: Lacking Interest (8/14/2007 4:55:06 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: ExSteelAgain

From my journal last Feb.

There is something about going to Walmart on a cold, dark night that makes me feel better with the teeming people in search of companionship under the bright lights. It shocks me when I enter from the parking lot and the weather to see all of that activity in the controlled environment. I’m in another world where darkness doesn’t matter. There is nothing bad here.
  
The old lady dressed in that blue thing gives me a shopping cart with a noisy wheel. I hold the handle of my cart tightly for security as I enter past the arcade carnival like games with toys in the glass asking for 50 cents a try to take one home. Ronald McDonald sits on a bench. All the color and cartoon like characters dressed in blue make things swirl for awhile. I'm in an Alice in Wonderland experience I tell myself. Where is Scarecrow?

 
Inside I try to focus on why I came. I push the cart to the right like I do when I walk on the track and hope things will come to me. Remember it is Saturday night and the big event of the week for many. I notice a beautiful young woman in a wheel chair approaching. Her hair and make-up is perfect and she smiles at me as we pass on that aisle where the clothes and food sections come together. Of course, this is her way out, too. Her Saturday night date whispering and touching her…the bright lights and warmth of Walmart. I push my noisy cart faster until the sound of the bad wheel blends into something bearable, not seeing the items on the shelves for awhile.
  
By the time I check out, exchange pleasantries with the clerk and pick my bags off the spinning carousel, I’m one of the experienced, one of the characters in the surreal setting, as I watch the newbies entering. I’ve got things and they have nothing. Out into the dark again, but feeling as if I’ve done something as I drive into the darkness, glancing in the mirror at the huge island of light behind me.



Outstanding!!!!......When visiting Walmart, or as the snooty like to say "The Walmart"....It is as if time stands still...Though I haven't attended an event since last Spring...You always feel welcome.  It's like family.....Sadly, it has become a place where the beautiful people meet....I will always consider Walmart, in my heart of hearts, the hub where Ellis Island met Capitalism...A love story...

Extremely well done!!!!




domiguy -> RE: Lacking Interest (8/14/2007 5:03:34 PM)

Exsteel....Not to go over the top on this, but that fucking Rocked!!!  It truly was a pleasure to read!!




MizzElle -> RE: Lacking Interest (8/14/2007 5:12:54 PM)

I think that part of losing interest comes from most fetishes requiring a lot of energy from the Dominant which takes it toll eventually. I got burnt out over a year ago and here I am, back again. I am slowly getting back into things, but if I feel it taking it's toll on me once again I will withdraw again. Your health and happiness is more important than anything else, so if you find yourself uninterested take a break, and when you're refreshed, you may find your interest renewed.




ExSteelAgain -> RE: Lacking Interest (8/14/2007 5:13:56 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: domiguy

Outstanding!!!!......When visiting Walmart, or as the snooty like to say "The Walmart"....It is as if time stands still...Though I haven't attended an event since last Spring...You always feel welcome.  It's like family.....Sadly, it has become a place where the beautiful people meet....I will always consider Walmart, in my heart of hearts, the hub where Ellis Island met Capitalism...A love story...

Extremely well done!!!!


Ah, I love that review....where Ellis Island met Capitalism.




Cyntilating -> RE: Lacking Interest (8/14/2007 5:15:01 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: ExSteelAgain

From my journal last Feb.

There is something about going to Walmart on a cold, dark night that makes me feel better with the teeming people in search of companionship under the bright lights. It shocks me when I enter from the parking lot and the weather to see all of that activity in the controlled environment. I’m in another world where darkness doesn’t matter. There is nothing bad here.
  
The old lady dressed in that blue thing gives me a shopping cart with a noisy wheel. I hold the handle of my cart tightly for security as I enter past the arcade carnival like games with toys in the glass asking for 50 cents a try to take one home. Ronald McDonald sits on a bench. All the color and cartoon like characters dressed in blue make things swirl for awhile. I'm in an Alice in Wonderland experience I tell myself. Where is Scarecrow?

 
Inside I try to focus on why I came. I push the cart to the right like I do when I walk on the track and hope things will come to me. Remember it is Saturday night and the big event of the week for many. I notice a beautiful young woman in a wheel chair approaching. Her hair and make-up is perfect and she smiles at me as we pass on that aisle where the clothes and food sections come together. Of course, this is her way out, too. Her Saturday night date whispering and touching her…the bright lights and warmth of Walmart. I push my noisy cart faster until the sound of the bad wheel blends into something bearable, not seeing the items on the shelves for awhile.
  
By the time I check out, exchange pleasantries with the clerk and pick my bags off the spinning carousel, I’m one of the experienced, one of the characters in the surreal setting, as I watch the newbies entering. I’ve got things and they have nothing. Out into the dark again, but feeling as if I’ve done something as I drive into the darkness, glancing in the mirror at the huge island of light behind me.



why come to a forum like this? because of the above....finding genuine caring and sharing is rare, but worth the wait (and some wading through others ) when it happens..
Most of the time I feel like a sponge...love information and sharing of thoughts and experiences....whether its WIIWD ( who ever thought of that first,,,THANKS lol )  or other interests in my life> just loving sharing thoughts and feelings...Like to do it over coffee with friends, I also have several ladies groups I attend on a weekly basis and like to do it on the internet when available..
so thanks to those of you who do also and continue to come here and share of yourselves so openly...
and
Thank you again, Steel, for sharing that.
 
not lacking in interest yet!  LOL




Padriag -> RE: Lacking Interest (8/14/2007 5:22:38 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: satyrsnymph28

what causes you to love the lifestyle?

The sweet, succulent, tender, juicy.... snacks

quote:

what do you hate about it?

The LordMasterGrandPoobah's... the Princess Brats... the Evil Ninja SAMs... the newbies... no wait... I like the newbies... with ketchup. [;)]

quote:

do you come and go from the mindset of being interested in BDSM?

BDSM... yes.  My interest in various fetishes comes and goes and changes.  One day you want blueberry muffins, the next day you want whips and chains (or is that just me?). 

But the D/s aspect, that's always there.  Sometimes right there raw and pulsing like Moreau's half and half man or the thunder that comes with the storm.  Sometimes its under the surface, barely making a ripple, a half glimpsed shadow creeping up on you.  But it is always there, whether hot and seething or cool and calm, it's definitely.... the nature of this beast.





Jeffff -> RE: Lacking Interest (8/14/2007 6:00:53 PM)

lol.........The odds have to be better at Target.......and even better at Nordstroms............till they ask me to leave..:)




LadyIce -> RE: Lacking Interest (8/14/2007 6:03:12 PM)

I never lack interest in this lifestyle, but I often lack interest in those that approach me
and the attitudes displayed by many in this lifestyle.
I agree a good partner is worth waiting for and a mediocre partner is usually not worth my
time or effort.




Jeffff -> RE: Lacking Interest (8/14/2007 6:04:23 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: ExSteelAgain

From my journal last Feb.

There is something about going to Walmart on a cold, dark night that makes me feel better with the teeming people in search of companionship under the bright lights. It shocks me when I enter from the parking lot and the weather to see all of that activity in the controlled environment. I’m in another world where darkness doesn’t matter. There is nothing bad here.
  
The old lady dressed in that blue thing gives me a shopping cart with a noisy wheel. I hold the handle of my cart tightly for security as I enter past the arcade carnival like games with toys in the glass asking for 50 cents a try to take one home. Ronald McDonald sits on a bench. All the color and cartoon like characters dressed in blue make things swirl for awhile. I'm in an Alice in Wonderland experience I tell myself. Where is Scarecrow?

 
Inside I try to focus on why I came. I push the cart to the right like I do when I walk on the track and hope things will come to me. Remember it is Saturday night and the big event of the week for many. I notice a beautiful young woman in a wheel chair approaching. Her hair and make-up is perfect and she smiles at me as we pass on that aisle where the clothes and food sections come together. Of course, this is her way out, too. Her Saturday night date whispering and touching her…the bright lights and warmth of Walmart. I push my noisy cart faster until the sound of the bad wheel blends into something bearable, not seeing the items on the shelves for awhile.
  
By the time I check out, exchange pleasantries with the clerk and pick my bags off the spinning carousel, I’m one of the experienced, one of the characters in the surreal setting, as I watch the newbies entering. I’ve got things and they have nothing. Out into the dark again, but feeling as if I’ve done something as I drive into the darkness, glancing in the mirror at the huge island of light behind me.




Dude?...thats,beautiful




PAcpllooking -> RE: Lacking Interest (8/15/2007 1:06:26 PM)

What I love about it is that it is who I am. I like to be in control, the responsiblity of owning a person. I feel that there are leaders and followers in this world and each need the other to be whole and happy. Now we in the life may take it to levels that vanilla people dont but that is who we are.
What I hate about it is that many people are judgemental and try to lable everything today. It seems that few live and let live. If I dont agree with how someone lives then so be it if it works for them cool and I will accept it for them just dont force it on me.
There is a lot of bullshit out there and its hard not to feel like you do but since you seem to keep comming back to it then it may be that it is just who you are.
Try to ignore those you dont agree with and find those who you do. Its a task there is no doubt about that but it is rewarding when you do find it.

William




littlesarbonn -> RE: Lacking Interest (8/15/2007 1:43:57 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: BeachMystress

Lots of people cycle. I've not had it happen yet, but who knows about the future. The biggest bit of advice I have is.. DO NOT THROW OR GIVE AWAY YOUR TOYS. Pack em up and put them on a top shelf somewhere. While you may feel you'll not want this ever again most of my friends who have lost interest have come back after six to eight months.


Yeah, I'm on my "I'm done with this lifestyle" cycle right now. I got really tired of not being able to find what I was seeking and then lectured for indicating that I couldn't find what I was seeking.




MistressHolly71 -> RE: Lacking Interest (8/15/2007 2:33:46 PM)

There have been times when I've had to take a break from everything, but it wasn't because of lack of interest. I agree with what several others said KEEP YOUR TOYS.




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