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GoddessDustyGold -> RE: Gold Diggers Looking for a Quick Buck, Or Lazy Mistress's? (7/5/2005 11:31:30 AM)
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Laughing...Ladies, ladies! I know this is a hot button for many of Us!
The reason I posted is because of the attitude emanating from the OP, not only in his post, but strongly supported by his profile.
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ORIGINAL: maddog86
<snipped>Now I may be wrong, but I highly doubt it. I think alot of these "Mistress's" are looking for free money... Well Im not paying! I allow you to dominate and use my body and mind, not pay your bills! I thought this was suppose to be fun for both partys, and since it is fun for both partys, why do we need to put money into the equation? Are the ones asking for a tribute "Gold diggers looking for a quick buck, or Mistress's who just dont wanna work? " Just something to think about!
This attitude of *allowing* (permitting) a Lady to use his body is alot of the attitude that would make Me pass him by. And this attiude is rampant. So maybe this boy needs to get some more information regarding why Ladies who are not looking for tribute would pass him by.
Or from the profile:
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Not really looking for something in 24/7 but if I really like you it could turn into that if you want it also.
So he is not looking for anything 24/7 but if he *really likes* the lady, it could turn into that.
Lots of people aren't looking for 24/7, so that is moot. But the impression I have is that he doesn't even have to really like someone for the person they are. He probably would prefer a "hot chick" but that would be for his personal, visual gratification only. It is a matter of getting his fantasy fulfilled. Only now he is angry that he can't seem to find anyone who doesn't expect some sort of tribute.
That is why I picked out the attitude, more than the complaint itself, in My initial post. We get this whine all the time. And most of Us on these boards are not looking for tributes. But We would appreciate a little respect, and common courtesy. And maybe somebody who views Us as a whole person, and not a body who will "service him". I don't see any respect or submissive sincerity in this boy's post or profile. I see a boy who, as sudja said, wants to get his rocks off. And now, he is just making it harder on himself by swaggering in and making sweeping judgements.
I don't define Myself by My clothing, either. I am more jeans and a tank top, but I love to wear My heels. I wear them for Me, though, not for any boy. But I have a very strong impression that this boy would define Me by what I was wearing. That is part of the package he might need.
Since these discussions and debates, hopefully, result in some education and growth, even if this boy doesn't see the light, maybe another boy reading will have a little light bulb go off. Would We not be doing someone a disservice to simply say not *all* Dominas are looking for tribute, without tempering that with some advice regarding his own attitude towards Dominas (maybe all ladies)?
For Me, this debate should not be strictly about whether or not tributes or Pro Domination is *fair*, or *right*, or *too rampant*. It is about the typical "do me" attitude that too many boys continue to display because nobody points out how that is not going to get them anywhere. Yes, I know it has been pointed out in many ways, ad nauseum. But that doesn't seem to stop another thread about the same old subject a week or two later. So the old class has graduated, and the new class has walked through the door.
Casey is being very honest in his profile about what he wants. But now he complains about how he cannot find it. Some boys need to learn that it is not their *right* to have someone dominate them according to their fantasy. Have you noticed that almost every time this subject comes up, it is a new poster who has usually been on site for a very short time and is not happy with the profiles he is finding?
He came here with a complaint. I am trying to address that, for him and for the rest of the new class.
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