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MidnightMaster33 -> I have a question? (7/5/2005 12:01:33 AM)
ok i got a ? for you and i would like to know.... If it is normal to have many vanilla friends besides having submissive friends as well and would the vanilla side understand me being a dom ....

imtempting -> RE: I have a question? (7/5/2005 12:11:45 AM)
This comes down to your friends and how open they are to Bdsm.

MidnightMaster33 -> RE: I have a question? (7/5/2005 12:20:44 AM)
Well i think most of my friends relize it now as time went by but still some can`t get used to this part me yet....

Lordandmaster -> RE: I have a question? (7/5/2005 12:48:20 AM)
No. Now and then you find a vanilla who really understands, but it's rare. It's up to you to decide how good these friends are. If they're REALLY your friends, you should be able to tell them. If they're just people you hang out with and shit, they're not going to understand and it's not worth the hassle of trying to explain it to them. Lam quote: ORIGINAL: MidnightMaster33 would the vanilla side understand me being a dom ....

MidnightMaster33 -> RE: I have a question? (7/5/2005 12:55:06 AM)
Hard to explain to them so i just gave up on a few telling them on this but this one i hang out get along good so i told her she gets the point....So that is the only 1 i told....

imtempting -> RE: I have a question? (7/5/2005 12:59:33 AM)
One thing I dont understand. You say your been in the lifestyle for 13 years. Would you not off come by this problem before now?

MidnightMaster33 -> RE: I have a question? (7/5/2005 1:08:39 AM)
yes the problem has come down the line befor and tryed to explain it back then as well as now it gets harder to explain as life gose on is what my point is,,, though and new friends come along everyday as im very talkative person when it comes right down the line onece i get to know people better...

EmeraldSlave2 -> RE: I have a question? (7/5/2005 5:47:33 AM)
I personally wouldn't have a friend I didn't feel I could be fully myself with and who wouldn't love me no matter who I was.

Kinkypupper -> RE: I have a question? (7/5/2005 9:06:36 AM)
Nothing at all wrong with it.. Why should you or anyone stay only in one "direction. We all have many different sides to each of us.

sub4hire -> RE: I have a question? (7/5/2005 9:40:21 AM)
A good chunk of my vanilla friends are lifestyle friends and vice versa. Everyone knows who I am and they accept us for who we are. Whether they are into kink or not. If you're ok inside and out with yourself others will be accepting of you as well.

MidnightMaster33 -> RE: I have a question? (7/5/2005 1:35:28 PM)
Well for my self it is easy for both sides as im comfortable on who i am and know lot`s about this lifestyle and the other....As it was a big part of me way back then as i do have a friend that understands that about this lifestyle that she is quite cool about it but of course all the good ones are taken or what ever all ready..So i just keep on looking around that is why i joined collarme last mouth to make friends and hope one day to find her out there if it ever comes my way......

perverseangelic -> RE: I have a question? (7/5/2005 2:38:34 PM)
I know who I am, and I can't be friends with someone who isn't ok with who I am. I'm basically out to everyone, excluding a few family memebers. If they aren't ok with it, they aren't my friend.

MidnightMaster33 -> RE: I have a question? (7/5/2005 2:56:00 PM)
Yes i know what you are all saying if they are frineds they should understand it and most do that i hang out with now and know and chat online with anyways

MidnightMaster33 -> RE: I have a question? (7/5/2005 9:54:38 PM)
Now it is very clear on this lifestyle and the other so is what you all are saying is to keep the friends that you do have in both worlds that understand...Sorry if i am slow to pick up on things right away my typing is not the greatest either but then who`s is ..lol... I knew it was silly to write it in but i had to know the differince and stuff between the vanilla and this lifestyle that was mixed in me for my 13 years....Of both worlds

FangsNfeet -> RE: I have a question? (7/6/2005 7:50:18 AM)
First of all, how open are you to talk to your friends about your sex life and what goes on at home? Some of my co workers talk about how they need to get home and have dinner ready before there spouses arrive or they'll be in trouble. It may not indicate how kinky the couple is but I get the jest that is some sort of a D/s relationship. When ppl ask me how I like my women, I reply with a general not to picky discription along with "she has to know or learn that I make the decissions." There's no reason for me to go on and on about whips, chains, and spankings. At most, all everyone else needs to know is that I'm a take charge kinda guy that's not going to put up with bull shit. Vanilla or not, just about everyone will understand that.

MidnightMaster33 -> RE: I have a question? (7/6/2005 9:29:28 PM)
ok im Understanding quite a bit now about the differince between the 2 worlds but it`s just not all about the sex and that you have to treat female sub/slaves with respect which i got as i have talked to alot in the past and met one as well but nothing came of it just yet.....AS that is why im trying collarme out.....

MidnightMaster33 -> RE: I have a question? (7/6/2005 11:32:35 PM)
ok im understanding quite a bit now about the differince between the 2 worlds but it is just not about the sex and that you have to treat the sub/slave females with respect which i got as i have talked to quite a lot in the past and met one but nothing just came out of it.....as that is why im trying out collarme out....And why are there so many rude ones in here and i think fakes can`t believe it...As i said befor i was in here for a mounth now......

slatyb -> RE: I have a question? (7/7/2005 12:36:24 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: EmeraldSlave2 I personally wouldn't have a friend I didn't feel I could be fully myself with and who wouldn't love me no matter who I was. There are degrees of friendship. You can be friendly with someone without sharing your entire life. There are friends who will drive you to the airport, and friends who will help you move across the country.

Akinta -> RE: I have a question? (7/7/2005 1:04:28 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: slatyb There are degrees of friendship. You can be friendly with someone without sharing your entire life. There are friends who will drive you to the airport, and friends who will help you move across the country. I'm in agreement here. Friends come in different shades. Some know me, and what I do. Some know me, and prolly suspect what I do. It also depends on social status and such. For women, it's much harder to walk around being a submissive. People start to look down on you, etc. We men are fairly used to having feminist groups attacking us, so to say we go home and beat women just helps play into their stereotypes they like =D I think the real question is.. how much does someone need to know about you before they're inside that safety zone you call "friendship"? For me, I have a lot of acquantinces.. but very few friends.

MidnightMaster33 -> RE: I have a question? (7/7/2005 1:49:43 PM)
Yes well it is very intresting to see about the both sides and how they played out together....That is why i had to ask the question just to make sure that if the other side dose not interfear with this side of me but like i say most of my friends now understand so there should be no problem don`t you think...

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