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curious - 8/16/2007 9:04:17 AM   
tornadoo69


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Status: offline 		I am seeking a masters advice on what a slave really wants and expects from him. I know some of what she wants and what she likes from what she has told me and just need a litle help on how to really please her.
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RE: curious - 8/16/2007 9:13:53 AM   
instynctive


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Status: offline 		Look through this forum.. you'll find the answer.

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RE: curious - 8/16/2007 11:01:14 AM   
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Status: offline 		Unfortunately there's no universal answer, as so many people want different things for themselves and from their relationships. For example, if my Master were always trying to please me, I'd be really disappointed.  The best (boring) advice I can offer is to talk to her...to know and understand her and what makes her tick. 


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RE: curious - 8/16/2007 11:08:08 AM   
Celeste43


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Status: offline 		Depends on the two of you. Kudos for trying to learn what she needs. Best way to do that is pay attention. Try something and observe her response, does her body stiffen and she go silent? Not a positive response. Does she rub against you and look adoringly up at you? Very positive.

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RE: curious - 8/16/2007 11:53:55 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: tornadoo69
I am seeking a masters advice on what a slave really wants and expects from him.


quote:

ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie
Unfortunately there's no universal answer, as so many people want different things for themselves and from their relationships.



What? Different slaves want different things?

That chapter was not included my Master's Handbook for Dummies that I got when I was taught the secret handshake!

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RE: curious - 8/16/2007 4:29:44 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: tornadoo69

I am seeking a masters advice on what a slave really wants and expects from him. I know some of what she wants and what she likes from what she has told me and just need a litle help on how to really please her.


Greetings Tornado,

I am just going to be blunt here.

Write down what YOU want in a relationship of the BDSM area, and get her to write down what she wants from the BDSM area.  If you match up with your lists, then its ok.  If you do not, then stop the relationship there and find someone that has your likes and dislikes, and do not find this out in 5 years time, or 1 months time. 

Saves time and energy.  Some people find there ying and yang quickly in life, some take years and decades, that is how the cookie crumbles.

Have fun and take care.

Frank Ar.


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RE: curious - 8/17/2007 3:17:50 AM   
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Status: offline 		I am going to have to agree with FrankAr on this ......... I got my sub to complete some lists of likes and dislikes and from that we saw that we were very compatable in the BDSM scene ....... although we were already strong as a couple before we ventured into the scene, now because of the lists i know what she wants and the limits she will accept and we can journey thro this together with that knowledge....... we are pehaps lucky but take the time first to find out and not find out as FrankAr says further down the line. HTH 

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RE: curious - 8/17/2007 5:53:33 AM   
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Status: offline 		If you are truly in a M/s relationship you should be open enough with one another to discuss these things and come to an overall understanding. Ultimately it's up to the two individuals, there is no preset list of things, even knowing you and the submissive and your tendencies, backgrounds, etc. etc. You can only ascertain what she wants by well...

Asking her.

If you want more specific advice on handling certain things she likes and or dislikes, then go ahead and post it if you feel it prudent. But with such a generalized statement there is little advice to be given.

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ORIGINAL: Dom87110

What? Different slaves want different things?

That chapter was not included my Master's Handbook for Dummies that I got when I was taught the secret handshake!


I prefer the Complete Idiot's Guide To: D/s

And can you teach me that handshake sometime?

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RE: curious - 8/17/2007 6:05:06 AM   
MasterGremlin


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Status: offline 		It doesn't matter what book you use because all of us subs meet regularly in secret to discuss how to change things so Dom/mes never know exactly what we want. 

We had a problem deciding what to change at first with no one being "in charge" but after lots of rounds of "eenie meenie miny moe" and "rock paper scissors" we usually come up with something.

Cordially,
minxy

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RE: curious - 8/17/2007 6:20:21 AM   
jaymckenas


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Status: offline 		Aha! That explains it!

Lol.

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RE: curious - 8/17/2007 8:10:49 AM   
Dom87110


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ORIGINAL: MasterGremlin
We had a problem deciding what to change at first with no one being "in charge" but after lots of rounds of "rock paper scissors" we usually come up with something.


I usually do not allow my subs to arm themselves with sharp utensils. Which limits them to the slightly more dull version of "Rock and Paper".

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RE: curious - 8/17/2007 9:38:07 AM   
leadinghand


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Status: offline 		Some great funny answers here, but seriously communications is the key. And don't overlook the sub/slave's commitment to you. Trust should already be there so communications should be easy. Just ask. That works in the sexual area and as for the rest of their lives, just do what you truly feel is best for them, even when it might lessen what they do for you. You (pardon the intended pun) come out on top in the long run.

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