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Going to a BDSM club for the first time - 8/17/2007 2:58:54 PM

Constanza

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As my Master wants to take me to a BDSM club for the first time, i want to know what other slaves/subs have for experience with it. i realy would like to hear some first time experiences as i am totaly new to it and i don't know what to expect.

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RE: Going to a BDSM club for the first time - 8/17/2007 3:15:46 PM

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Act like you would at any party- as long as you act like a gracious and happy guest at any party.

Be a bit more sensitive about touching others and don't touch other peoples things without express permission (asking to touch is fine). Don't talk to people IN scenes and don't get too close physically or talk too loud near them.

Otherwise, it's just like any party.

What to wear? If you want to look like everyone else- something black, sexy, kinky, gothic type is great. But asking the host is fine and anything from shorts and tshirt to ballgowns to full nudity CAN be fine at parties.

http://www.collarchat.com/m_1193237/mpage_1/key_first/tm.htm#1193413
party etiquette

http://www.collarchat.com/m_576521/mpage_1/key_party/tm.htm#576524
first time party?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_323269/mpage_1/key_first/tm.htm#323597
First Lifestyle Meeting

http://www.collarchat.com/m_311113/mpage_1/key_first%252Cparty/tm.htm#311125
Your First Experience

http://www.collarchat.com/m_291346/mpage_1/key_first%252Ctime%252Cclub%252Cplay/tm.htm#291346
1st Time at the Wet Spot

http://www.collarchat.com/m_195507/mpage_1/key_first%252Ctime%252Cclub%252Cplay/tm.htm#195507
Behaviors and Reactions During Play

http://www.collarchat.com/m_78610/mpage_1/key_first%252Ctime%252Cclub%252Cplay/tm.htm#78610
Question about First Time Scenes

http://www.collarchat.com/m_249091/mpage_1/key_first%252Cscene/tm.htm#249091
My first real scene!

http://www.collarchat.com/m_221923/mpage_1/key_first%252Cscene/tm.htm#221923
First Play party

http://www.collarchat.com/m_202913/mpage_1/key_first%252Cscene/tm.htm#202913
Novice Reactions

http://www.collarchat.com/m_95381/mpage_1/key_first%252Cscene/tm.htm#95381
"playing" on the first meet?

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RE: Going to a BDSM club for the first time - 8/17/2007 4:07:15 PM

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Here's a novel idea...

Ask your Master what He expects from you.

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RE: Going to a BDSM club for the first time - 8/17/2007 4:18:21 PM

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He expects me to have fun and experience what ever happens.
I know that already, i just wanne hear about more experiences from other Subs/slaves.

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RE: Going to a BDSM club for the first time - 8/17/2007 5:28:08 PM

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The first time Sir and I went to the club, I was excited, but when I got there... I felt very shy and self conscious (I was shocked at that myself). Sir sat with me for a bit while I've gotten used to the surroundings and were able to watch people around. He was very patient. When he thought I was ready he directed all my attention to him and made me forget all that's around me and just enjoy the experience with him... (My first time on a St. Andrew's Cross *big grin*. ) Though I don't think I was able to fully block the fact that there were other people there... but it only added to the adrenalin rush for me.
Now I am fine going to a club, having fun and enjoying serving Sir. People there are all nice (at least where we go).

All best on your first experience with a party-scene and just try to relax and tell your Master how you feel. :) You'll be fine!

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