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musikman1 -> RE: Help im Desperate because I want instant gratification from a 20 year old Domme babe! (10/10/2007 6:36:10 AM)
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I REALLY should heed my mama's words about sarcasm. :)
You said: and i have searched the munches online and i dont want to be around middle aged people who have done all sorts of stuff
Hmmm, possibly you are looking more for a kinky date than a Domme? I have ALWAYS preferred the older, more experienced Dom or Domme because they've "been there, done that," and were GREAT at taking newbies and making us feel comfy while "kinking us up." (so to speak)
You said: i would be out of place and really uncomfortable
I guess my theatre upbringing doesn't all me to empathize. In the theatre world, age is meaningless. If you are 16 years old lad and appearing in The Music Man, and you run into a 75 year old lady who appeared in The Music Man 20 years ago, you both have common experiences to relate: the dancer that fell off the stage during a Saturday Matinee, the time that the guy playing Harold Hill forgot the words to Trouble, the lighting board that blew out right in the middle of Shipoopi..
Experiences like this sort of molded me away from the "age" issue. One of my fondest dating experiences was when I was a 19 year old kid, conducting his first full orchestra, and I was "picked up" by the 32 year old flight attendant that was playing 2nd Violin.. Oh MY, did that "middle aged" lady teach me a few tricks.. It's funny now that I think back, the age difference wasn't even on anyone's mind..
Of course, that's ME, not you, and just because I'm uninhibited with folks of "other" ages, doesn't mean that you are wrong because you feel uncomfortable. It just seems odd to me, as true Dom/me "play" isn't (shouldn't be) predominantly about sex, but rather the interesting road that we subs take getting TO sex..
But that's just me..
You said: i think the best answer is visiting a young experienced professional who knows what she is doing.
I have to admit that in this "American Idol I'm-going-to-be-an-instant-star" world, that the idea of knowledge, experience and training seems a bit passe..
If you are visiting a YOUNG Domme (let's just say for example, 21 years old, same as you), just in what years of her life did she get enough yearrs of experience to be able to claim to be a "professional?" Do you want a beginner (no matter HOW hot she looks) tieing you down and declaring, "Let's play with this new sounds set that came in the mail today!"
Or even just "slightly" kinky stuff, would She know how hard to paddle you, how tight is too tight to tie you up, how quickly to thrust that 10" long/3" wide strap-on into your virgin bottom (or mouth)?
I mean, consider this: YOU know what "kinks" you are expecting from this Domme. How many others would you like Her to have "practiced" on before exposing Her to YOUR body?
Figure out how long it will take YOU to look up information on each and every kink that inhabits your fantasies, and imagine how long it would take YOU to get comfortable "acting" as the Dom so that YOU could be comfortable enough to do it to complete strangers that you know NOTHING about.. after all, THAT is the Professional Domme's stock in trade.. having the experience to kinda do an "instant evaluation" with this 21 year old guy that "didn't want to wait and wanted to have kinky fun RIGHT NOW.". Multiply the time to learn one activity times the number of activities that you would idealy like to have the Domme perform on you, and THEN, after adding all that time up, SUBTRACT it from 21 years old, and then really THINK in your mind, what age a 21 year old would have to START at in order to be an "experienced professional" at the age you ideally wish your Domme to be..
I can give you a really good f'rinstance. One lovely Lady that i am serving at the moment is VERY good at a certain discipline of what you might call "edge play." And She is fairly known for this activity. To Her surprise (She has related to me, I don't think there's any big "confidentiality issue" here) She has been consistently approached by "professional" Dommes from around the country, ages 23-35, asking Her to "train them" in how to perform this particular activity correctly and effectively. She really doesn't have the "Teacher Gene" in Her, and doesn't really desire to train Others (although I have suggested that She needs to put an online training course together, since it's obviously something that subs are craving, but some Dommes don't feel comfortable performing with no prior experience).
How would you feel going to one of these "professionals" and requesting that activity.. or rather, how would you like to be the "crash test dummy" that She practices on, and maybe gets and right and maybe not?
(And the audience goes "Ahaaaaaaaaaa!")
Just food for thought. Possibly you really need more of a kinky girlfriend than a true Domme so that you two can learn together, and you can "bring Her up right," learning your particular kinks and fetishes.. It really sounds like you want "kinky sex" more than a "lifestyle experience."
And, unfortunately, finding a kinky girlfriend is not going to be easy either.
I might seem that a "quick fix" might not be in the cards for you, given your specific pre-requisites..
But, this advice is worth TWICE what you paid for it! (big grin)
mm1
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