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Finding a Sub - 8/20/2007 2:19:07 PM

Eagleman54

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How does a new Master find a Sub. I live in way upstate NY.

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RE: Finding a Sub - 8/20/2007 2:26:45 PM

Hisbellaluna

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same way all the other ones do? with time and patience and i don't know, actually attempting?

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RE: Finding a Sub - 8/20/2007 2:40:36 PM

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The same way you would find any other type of partner. Get your butt out there and start looking. Don't assume you will find your sub at a munch or BDSM event either. We subs and slaves don't spend our entire days tied to crosses. We get out and do book clubs, historical reenactments, walk in the local park... anything "normal" people do.

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RE: Finding a Sub - 8/20/2007 3:44:16 PM

amaidiamond

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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

The same way you would find any other type of partner. Get your butt out there and start looking. Don't assume you will find your sub at a munch or BDSM event either. We subs and slaves don't spend our entire days tied to crosses. We get out and do book clubs, historical reenactments, walk in the local park... anything "normal" people do.

*GASPS* You mean...theres a world out there....something other than hanging around on a cross waiting to be used???? *Runs to the dungeon window to look*

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RE: Finding a Sub - 8/20/2007 3:52:11 PM

Aileen68

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Quiznos
http://www.quiznos.com/index.aspx

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RE: Finding a Sub - 8/20/2007 4:14:56 PM

Eagleman54

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Yes, as of today.

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RE: Finding a Sub - 8/20/2007 4:17:53 PM

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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

The same way you would find any other type of partner. Get your butt out there and start looking. Don't assume you will find your sub at a munch or BDSM event either. We subs and slaves don't spend our entire days tied to crosses. We get out and do book clubs, historical reenactments, walk in the local park... anything "normal" people do.

*GASPS* You mean...theres a world out there....something other than hanging around on a cross waiting to be used???? *Runs to the dungeon window to look*

Your dungeon has windows!?!?!

.... I want a dungeon with windows. And pretty lace curtains.

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RE: Finding a Sub - 8/20/2007 4:19:02 PM

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Well first of all there is next to nothing in your profile except a blatant attempt at telling folks to contact you on msn.

If you are truly looking expect to send lots of emails back and forth here on cm before moving to private email addys, once, that is, you find someone who you appeal to.

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RE: Finding a Sub - 8/20/2007 6:10:16 PM

SmokingGun82

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Again, I'm in a good mood so it's legit advice time.

First, work on your profile. Make it a reflection of who you are. There are a ton of posts on the forums that describe what makes a good profile- read them, take them to heart, and make yours stand out.

Next, send emails. Lots of them. Not form letters though- read profiles, if people interest you, send them an email. Mention whatever it was in their profile that got your attention- lots of people leave tidbits that are just made to be commented on. Don't just email everyone, but anyone who interests you, send something short and to the point to let them know you'd like to find out more, etcetera.

Be patient. You might send out a hundred emails and only get five replies- and not be interested in any of them. Or they might not be interested in you. Don't insult them, don't say "I'm too good for you anyway" or anything of that ilk. If you have to reply, thank them for their candor, or if you want to make new friends too, try that direction. I've said it before and I'll say it again- you never know who's friends with who. Maybe the girl you email isn't interested, but maybe her friend is looking and she decides to pass your name along. That happens in vanilla relationships, and it happens here too.

Participate on the forums. If you're on the forums, making intelligent contributions, people will start looking at your profile. You've made it interesting, right? Good. Again, maybe they're not interested... but they might know someone who would be. Don't try to make enemies, just be an active part of this community, as it were, and remain patient.

That's just assuming that you're only using CollarMe. Try finding munches/etcetera in your area and going. Again, you might not meet anyone you're really interested in, but you could make some friends. You see where this is going? Yeah, "a friend of a friend" is probably the number one way I've ended up in relationships, vanilla or otherwise. And hey, you'll learn things, which is always good.

The two best things I can tell you are to be patient, and make friends.

But that's just me, feel free to accept or ignore the advice.

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RE: Finding a Sub - 8/20/2007 6:12:48 PM

abda

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I have to agree with you AquaticSub. We are every where. You never know, the woman standing next to you line at the grocery store, movie theatre just may be submissive. So take your chances. We are out there.

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RE: Finding a Sub - 8/20/2007 6:20:17 PM

MissIsis

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It shouldn't be too hard. You live in one of the most beautiful places on earth.

I agree about putting more information in your profile, & looking at other places, even outside of bdsm people. It may be you meet someone who is very interested in this, who may never have even known there was a name for what we do. I have known men, who were able to make their girlfriends or wives very hungry for what we can offer them. Slowly, lots of communication, & when you find an interest they have that you would like to have in your relationship, be loving & firm. Make them want more.

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RE: Finding a Sub - 8/20/2007 6:32:48 PM

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I have to agree with you AquaticSub. We are every where. You never know, the woman standing next to you line at the grocery store, movie theatre just may be submissive. So take your chances. We are out there.

Exactly.... so the next time you're at the grocery store or movie theater grab the woman nearest to you, turn her over your knee and spank her. If she likes it you've found your woman, if she resists then move on to the next.

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RE: Finding a Sub - 8/20/2007 7:04:24 PM

trustingsubHF

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i have found that i was more attracted to the Dom's that took their time to get to know me as a person, not only as a sub. talk to the sub as You would anyone else, show respect and show interest in her desires. whatever You do, do not start a conversation by asking about her tit size or her sexual preferences...odds are she will not be interested!

good luck to You...

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RE: Finding a Sub - 8/21/2007 5:29:52 AM

HisAlphaSlaveJ

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Eagleman54
Dominant Male
Plattsburgh
New York
5'7" (170 cm)
175 lbs
53
Straight
Caucasian
08/20/07 08/20/07

Actively Seeking:

Submissive Women

Sir,
First of all your profile says nothing about You or what You seek. Women are funny creatures we like to know information about the person seeking as well as information about what they desire. To simply say submissive is to generic.

Second of all you do not have a picture, it is a known fact that profiles without pic's get overlooked. Remember Women not only want information but they want visuals as well.

Third, take time to make post's on the message boards, it is a great way for potential subs to see your point of view, you educated responses and your personality thru your posts.

Fourth, you just joined on 8-20-07, it has been less than 24 hours on your search. Please take your time finding miss right, not miss right away. You will find it is not how fast you complete the journey, but the beauty of the journey along the way.

Fifth, even though you are Dominant, when you do get to meet someone, do it in a public place like a resturant, never a motel and have a safe call. yes i said safe call.....everyone can get in a bad situation.

Sixth, How much real life experience do you have? Have you been to any meet n greets? munches? play party's?, BDSM classes? Events? BDSM books? These are all great resources to consider, the more you participate, the more you learn, the better the chances you will have in finding a woman who is submissive or a slave.

good luck!

I am looking for a Sub in need of a new Master. My name is jeadams2 and live where there are Many Sunny Noons.

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RE: Finding a Sub - 8/21/2007 5:30:57 AM

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Quiznos
http://www.quiznos.com/index.aspx

Why not Blimpie?

It's a beautiful thing...

Ron

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RE: Finding a Sub - 8/21/2007 6:09:23 AM

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Quiznos
http://www.quiznos.com/index.aspx

Why not Blimpie?
It's a beautiful thing...
Ron

Because Ron, everyone knows Quiznos has HOT subs!

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RE: Finding a Sub - 8/21/2007 7:34:35 AM

MrDiscipline44

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ORIGINAL: Eagleman54

How does a new Master find a Sub. I live in way upstate NY.

Go out back and start turning over some rocks. They're all over the fuckin place.

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RE: Finding a Sub - 8/21/2007 7:47:17 AM

chathamvahere

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Time and patience, and yes you really need to put more in your profile, how long in the lifestyle, experience levels, what you are looking for, just our opinion.:)

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RE: Finding a Sub - 8/21/2007 3:27:46 PM

jflynn

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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

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ORIGINAL: Aileen68

Quiznos
http://www.quiznos.com/index.aspx

Why not Blimpie?
It's a beautiful thing...
Ron

Because Ron, everyone knows Quiznos has HOT subs!

And so does D'angelos. Oh, one of my many happy reasons why I moved to Boston.. That place beats the pants off of Quiznos. :-)

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RE: Finding a Sub - 8/21/2007 10:14:20 PM

shyinini

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ORIGINAL: Eagleman54

How does a new Master find a Sub. I live in way upstate NY.

You look intelligent enough.
54 yrs old I assume.
Open your wings, mr eagle, your sense of small and hearing comes in handy ...look real hard, dont eagles have great eye sight?
Hum and hover around awhile...approach your prey respectfully, politely and see what happens.

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