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WhiplashSmile -> RE: dominant little girls? (8/21/2007 10:07:19 AM)
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When I first read and responded to this thread, I was not honestly thinking too much of my own past. The years that have passed can be a bit of a blur at times. This morning though I had one of those classic slap on the forehead "I could of had a V8" moments.
Yes, a Domme can act very much like a spoiled little girl, or one trying to wrap Daddy around her fingers. In many regards, it's a less threatening role to play at times even. I was not looking at this from a more serious angle, mind you the years have passed. There were a number of roles that Amanda and I had fun with, and sort mocked. Meaning we acted things out and sort of had or made fun of it at the time. At least this is how I've always viewed it when it happened, and have looked back upon it as such too.
I did not think about connecting the dots until I read a private email from somebody this morning. The subject of pampering was wrote about. Now, pamper is something that can be done by both submissives and Doms alike. I myself have bathed somebody and brushed their hair out and blah, blah, blah...
Long story short, I was reflecting upon the subject of pampering. How sure, I've done this and I'm a Dom. Pampering itself is neither a submissive or Domly act, it's all in how you go about doing it.
At first I thinking about my Dom to submissive pampering acts, then there is the odd ball exception from my past. Anyways, there I was reflecting upon past interactions and how the Hell it worked. Dugh, she would act like a little girl at times trying to Coax me into pampering her. While she was not ordering me around or treating me like a submissive, she would assert her way at times by acting very much like a little girl, one trying to wrap a Daddy around her fingers. Ummmmmmm.... I was always aware that she was asserting herself in this fun or positive manipulation manner. he he he.. Yes, at times I would even be a bit of a smart ass pointing out that I knew what she was up to. However, when you are with somebody you actually love, like, enjoy and care about. Again, she was Domme however she was not treating me like I was submissive.
There were moments when we asserted pampering one each other, actually... pampering is can be a really non threatening way of topping somebody too.. Twisted, my mind is completed twisted this morning.
The thoughts of little girls topping a Daddy from the bottom are on my mind. Yes, I have my moments where I am concious of WTF is going on, and it's totally up to me if I allow it or not. Within reason, if a little girl thinks this Daddy is a complete push over, she's in for a rude awakening. Now, my mind is thinking in deeper thoughts in light of recent personal experiences in dealing with a bit of a Bratty Little girl that likes to do things her way regardless.
What a Daddy/Daughter relationship means for one person, may be somewhat different to another. I will say this, some of my recent experiences with a so called D/s long di relationship remind me very much of a D/D relationship I was once in.
So between this thread, a morning email, a little personal reflection upon my past and my recent interactions. Yes, there are little girls that enjoy manipulating, (ummm.. wrapping Daddy around their fingers).
I think this is a great subject for two people entering into a Daddy/Daugter type of relationship to talk about and get out in the open. I can honestly see this working D/s with the little girl on top, or Daddy on the top, or even a mutal balance of Power between a Daddy/Daughter.
There are times when D/s is too stressed as part of the lifestyle, that it becomes a stereotype. Meaning Daddy's are supposed to be always be the Dom, and little girls are just mere submissives.
The one thing I enjoy and appreciate about using the message boards and interacting with other people here, is that it makes me back up, stop and think. Helps me rethink or see things in a slightly different light at times. While I have not been actually doing very many BDSM activities for nearly a year now, I feel that I have been growing as a person.
Some people actually shun the thoughts and ideas about being involved in any BDSM community be it online or in the real time. Yeah, Yeah, Yeah, it can be a bit of a social club at times with people in their own little clicks or groups. However, there is also some value to what a BDSM community can offer. In terms of social interaction, and the exchange of different perspectives.
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