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Empty Nest Syndrome - 8/21/2007 9:21:04 AM

DiurnalVampire

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Start of the school year again, and I am starting to feel it already. Both my boys are students, and as soon as school is in session, I find myself alone alot. I dismissed my Kitten, becaue he was going to school in FL, and I didnt think it fair to keep him attached to me for the year when at best we would see one another a few hours ever 2 months or so. I told him he was free to see whoever he wants, and I hope he meets someone wonderful. If and when he comes back for the summer,we will rethink the arrangements.
Angel started classes yesterday, and his schedule is going to be even more demanding this semester than it was last.Over the entire last semester, I saw him a handful of times because between work and class he had no free time. School is our priority and I wil not come in the way of their educations... but I am already dreading the long months tat I have to bear with this again.
For those of you who have reasons to have to give your boys and girls up for long periods to long distance relationships and whatnot, you already understand what I am going through. To make matters worse, Angel is out of reach, but within reachable distance. He lives less than 15 min away on campus... but I will never see him. It was somehow easier to handle when I was states away and didnt have the option of being together.
Last time we went through this, he and I stressed out so badly about being apart that it nearly ruined everything. I dont want to let that happen again, but I am not really sure how to keep from letting the frusteration get in the way. I can give everyone else advice on this, and often do. But when it comes to me and my own baby... I am at a loss.

**sigh**
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RE: Empty Nest Syndrome - 8/21/2007 9:44:53 AM

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*HUGS*

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RE: Empty Nest Syndrome - 8/21/2007 9:49:08 AM

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I found the cure for an empty nest, get a second job. Seriously, it is beneficial. Less time to worry about things, extra cash and benefits. It does drastically cut out your time to do stuff, but I did so little stuff before getting a second job that I don't miss the lack of time in my schedule.

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RE: Empty Nest Syndrome - 8/21/2007 12:29:06 PM

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Ick. I feel sorry for my mom about this sort of thing. My little brother is always away from home and never answers the phone, and I'm typically the reserved type- even if I try to make an exception for being aorund her. My father's deceased, so I guess it can get lonely here.

She bought a puppy. My little brother also bought one from the same litter, but isn't taking care of it; *sigh* he stuck my mom with it. (He's in an apartment where he could take care of a pet. I opted for a dorm before anyone told me about them getting puppies, so I can't take it.) In any case, now she has two extremely active puppies around the house that cause all kinds of mischief. I guess it's better than nothing.

She's taking a vaction to Europe soon with a friend. I think that'll be nice. I really do hope so.

I hope you feel better. If it helps, I think most of us appreciate our parents than we show at times.

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RE: Empty Nest Syndrome - 8/21/2007 2:09:02 PM

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My sister sent me a letter when I fled screaming from my childhood home to school up north.

Said when I lived there my parents spent all their time fighting with me.

After I left, they spent all their time fighting with each other.

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RE: Empty Nest Syndrome - 8/21/2007 4:11:11 PM

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Well call us crazy but after summer visits from rebounding UM's the nest can't be emptied fast enough for us!