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samboct -> RE: Do you trust your peers here? (8/21/2007 1:29:15 PM)
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I kind of agree with the previous poster-
1) Don't have a kid.
2) Play with my sister? She's kinkier than me- no problem.
3) Don't have pets- but if I did, no problem. (Grew up with dogs.) Most people can take care of an animal for a few days with no ill effects- as long as the animal wasn't out on the street.
4) Blind date with best friend? Heck, a bunch of my friends are also pretty kinky (no we don't play together, been friends for too long and I'm not gay)- probably be fun.
Akasha-if I think about what you're driving at though, I'm on some other websites where the response would be a no-brainer. Both sites are dedicated to my hobbies (sailing, flying model airplanes.) and both groups of people are notorious for assisting others involved in the same hobby.
So why is this site different? Because it's too easy-there's no winnowing process that gets rid of the wanna be individuals. People can create fantasy personas (and frequently do) and since BDSM casts such a broad net, you're going to get a lot of people who unfortunately can't be trusted. The other hobby related websites attract a certain type of individual who's willing to overcome a bunch of challenges to get to a certain skill level. Hence, these websites also appeal to a much smaller group of individuals who are really much closer in outlook and goals than this one.
Another example would be car clubs. People that join car clubs are enthusiasts about a particular type of car, whether it's a Ford Model A, a Rolls Royce, or an Alfa Romeo. Turns out that they're similar individuals, generally what distinguishes them is how fat their wallet is for which club they join.
I suspect that this site gets a pretty broad cross section of humanity, at least based on the postings I've read and a few of the people I've talked with in more depth. I'd doubt you'd do much better or worse than picking a subway car full of randoms- you might get lucky, and you might not.
Note- I'm not someone who's generally fearful, nor do I succumb to the paranoia raging in the media in a frenzy to sell newspapers, air time, or ad space. On average, most folks are decent- and I doubt that it's all that different here.
Sam
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