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RE: proper protocol - 8/22/2007 11:32:15 AM

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Thank you for the input. Yes it's true, I need only worry about what my Sir wants. He doesn't require me to use that style of writing with others so I guess that's that!

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RE: proper protocol - 8/22/2007 11:32:22 AM

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I too find it unnessary, but if your Master wants you to use it, then you should. No one can complain with that (or should). You are just trying to be respect to his wishes and to everyone else. It is like address a dom you don't know as "Sir." I would never require it from someone I was talking with causually with, I like it.

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RE: proper protocol - 8/22/2007 11:36:55 AM

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I'm painting an unflattering picture of myself? How so? Doing what I've been told to do by my Sir is unflattering?

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RE: proper protocol - 8/22/2007 11:56:18 AM

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I'm painting an unflattering picture of myself? How so? Doing what I've been told to do by my Sir is unflattering?

There are things that we do that are unflattering, rude, annoying, ridiculous and so on.

Doing it "because master said so" only means that TWO people are endorsing doing something unflattering, rude, annoying, ridiculous and so on. There's a lot of rude subs who say "Well my master likes me like this so kiss my ass." Does that mean they aren't being rude? Or that it's appropriate behavior?

Whether you agree that your behavior is unflattering, rude, annoying, ridiculous and so on is up to you.

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RE: proper protocol - 8/22/2007 12:32:44 PM

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I'm painting an unflattering picture of myself? How so? Doing what I've been told to do by my Sir is unflattering?

Yep. Read the answers above, pointing out how the majority of people feel about it.

Do T/the thing if you wish, and don't worry about what people think.

But if you believe that you can change what people think, by passing on orders from someone they have never even met, you are fulfilling the exact stereotype associated with that practice.

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RE: proper protocol - 8/22/2007 12:54:18 PM

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I'm painting an unflattering picture of myself? How so? Doing what I've been told to do by my Sir is unflattering?

Let's say your Sir wants you to walk around in a KKK robe, shouting racial epithets. Do you see how doing something, even when directed by your Sir, might paint an unflattering picture of not only you, but your Sir?

Those who do this stuff in real life see the "Y/y" stuff and think to themselves "oh look, someone who has never actually been to a munch/party/event." If that person then says "My Master tells me to do this", they then think "oh look, someone who's Master has never been to a munch/party/event, and I doubt that the two of them have ever met in real life."

In real life, you can't pronounce "Y/y" and "I" and "i" sound the same to the human ear. Online BDSM lacks so much reality that they need to fill the gaps with this kind of stuff. Once you make it to the real world, that stuff just seems so inconsequential.

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RE: proper protocol - 8/22/2007 1:04:59 PM

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I, personally, don't give a rats ass about text protocol.

I also don't fault anyone else if they do, as long as they're not trying to shove it down my throat that I should agree.

So, in short, do what works for you, and if that is the protocol your master has subscribed for you then by all means, caps away!

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RE: proper protocol - 8/22/2007 1:11:37 PM

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I do not like the caps ordeal. Only your domme can tell you what they prefer and to any other domme, a respectfull tone should suffice. I get annoyed when a sub replies to an email and does not change the subject line, to me this is very disrepectfull and only better happen once. So to your domme, stay obedient, to the rest remain respectfull and go from there.

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RE: proper protocol - 8/22/2007 1:38:50 PM

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Unless the person writes a really bad subject line, or changes the topic of the email completely, it's actually rude to change the email subject. It makes it harder for the original writer to track the thread and have an idea of what is in the email.

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RE: proper protocol - 8/22/2007 1:42:42 PM

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I just never think about it. I mean, what am I going to change it to? They already know what we were talking about. Or at least they should.

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RE: proper protocol - 8/22/2007 3:48:37 PM

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Ok, I totally get it. Thanks for your explanation TallDarkAndWitty.

One note I’d like to add… it would take a lot more than the “caps” thing to paint an unflattering picture of someone… just me I guess.

And as far as the real life relationship, it is real. You did make me laugh TallDarkAndWitty…. You’re right, I haven’t been to a munch yet and I’m pretty sure He hasn’t either. He’s been in the lifestyle for 10 years, as for me I’m going on a big ol’ 8 months! woooo hoooo!

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RE: proper protocol - 8/22/2007 4:26:54 PM

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Basically, if they are not your Master or Dom... fuck 'em. Other than that type to people as you would to any other human being on the face of the earth.

If they can't deal with it, it's their problem, not yours. Basically, if they are not your Master or Dom, you don't have to worry about pleasing them.

Personally, I do not make a big issue out of upper and lower case. There are times when I exchange emails with submissives/slaves and type their name starting off with an uppercase letter. There are times when I do not, actually I don't think much about it at the time either way.

It's actually humous that many Domly Masters out there will have a fucking aneurysm over how complete strangers that have not nor never submitted to them type. I often wonder if they get pissed off at how vanilla girls type as well. LOL...

Basically, just because you are submissive does not mean you have to kiss every Domly Doms ass online or on the message boards.

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RE: proper protocol - 8/22/2007 5:40:28 PM

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I have to agree with WhiplashSmile on this question.

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RE: proper protocol - 8/23/2007 12:09:03 AM

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Do what works for you and ignore the "if you were twue" or "I can tell who's twue" based on if you cap or not *eyerolls* If your Master wants it, do it. If you want to do it and He doesn't care, do it. But for godsake tell the people who don't like it to bugger off. Who gives a shit what they like or don't like? Are you going to submit to them anytime in this lifetime? And as far as the unflattering picture.....again I say bugger off. The need to judge what's "right" or "twue" in CM is what's unflattering.

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RE: proper protocol - 8/23/2007 5:37:22 PM

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I would prefer it if it stopped. I think its a totally unnecessary affectation. Having said that, I once leapt to the defense of a submissive who used it in a chat room where it was not appreciated, and was abused and berated by a vocal few who didn't care for it either.

A simple polite correction would have sufficed, and her only crime was attempting to not cause offense in a location that was unfamiliar to her.

Being polite and respectful should never be offensive to anyone, in my opinion that is... but berating someone for attempting to be respectful is a thoroughly shameful and petty thing in my eyes.

"subX... just to let you know that mode of address is not required or desired here, thank you :)"

Otherwise, by being an ass about it, you send the message to the sub "We're a bunch of rude, disrespectful butt heads- so, of course, we don't show respect. Therefore, you're polite and correct to be using that form of address, and we're not the kind of people who appreciates polite and correct folk... so piss off and go find somewhere that A/appreciates T/that C/crap" - and as a result, T/that C/crap P/perpetuates.

(On a side note, I ended up spending 2 great years with that submissive

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RE: proper protocol - 8/23/2007 5:45:03 PM

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I find it incredibly annoying and tend to skip right over posts that use it.

Ditto....

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RE: proper protocol - 8/23/2007 5:54:42 PM

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wooo hooo Redoubt! lmao... well said!

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RE: proper protocol - 8/23/2007 5:56:57 PM

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You all had some very good points and i appreciate them all!

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RE: proper protocol - 8/23/2007 6:38:13 PM

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I wouldn't consider it formal myself, just a net thing....

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RE: proper protocol - 8/23/2007 7:00:31 PM

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I wouldn't consider it formal myself, just a net thing....

Absolutely agree.

Just a quick question... and a playful one with no ill intent... where do you think you are now :) ?

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