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An open book or just the norm? - 8/22/2007 10:21:11 AM

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I wasn't aware of it but apparently i have many 'faces' when i am with Sir! The most frequently mentioned are my 'aww i look pretty face', the 'animalistic' face, the 'i've displeased Sir' face and the 'i don't want to do that' face.
On hearing about these i decided to look for them and Sir is quite correct i do give certain looks for certain things. Animalistic when we fuck. i'm pretty when positioned in a way i find attractive, harnessed especially etc etc. Oh and i know this because a lot of the time i can see myself in the mirror.
So i was wondering do we all, subs/slaves have these faces or am i just an open book?

Also pondering why is it that when we are being used by someone we become more attractive to others? I mean that something about me personally must come alive or show because the amount of messages i have recieved since seeing Sir that can see certain traits in me is uncanny?
Again is this something that just shows in general or am i being the open book again?

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RE: An open book or just the norm? - 8/22/2007 10:28:38 AM

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I think most people have them- we just don't often step back and name them.

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RE: An open book or just the norm? - 8/22/2007 10:32:07 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: missturbation

Also pondering why is it that when we are being used by someone we become more attractive to others?

Because happy people are more atractive.

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RE: An open book or just the norm? - 8/22/2007 10:44:19 AM

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As usual LA is right and insightful, yes we all have different looks for different emotional times as happens in D/s.
Misstrubation, as for being an open book, you have to remember you are being read pretty closely. Because of the extreme dynamic of D/s a good dominant will be monitoring you doing everything. Everything from "are you in serious pain," to "are you having fun?" Knowing that those two can also be the same look just makes it harder. :)
Anyway, to be trusted with command you have to look after the person who has granted that wonderful gift. That is why I have always need eye contact, no lowered eyes and bowed head. I need to see into her eyes to read what is going on. Besides seeing those eyes react is a one of the most rewarding parts of the relationship.
So let him see, and not so much of the "i don't want to do that face."

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RE: An open book or just the norm? - 8/22/2007 10:49:29 AM

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umm everyone has them,, it's called body language,,
some are easier to read than others,,
and it's not just sub/slaves that have them either ,,
watch your Master/Dom,, and you will see there
are several moods that one will go through in a day/night
and well i'll be willing to bet with a little effort and time
you will beable to 'sense' the moods and looks

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RE: An open book or just the norm? - 8/22/2007 10:56:05 AM

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Yeah, you're in good company. It can be a funny subject.

Sometimes, I tell my slave something shockingly perverted just to see her facial expression. Her "OH MY GOD!" facial expression is priceless.

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RE: An open book or just the norm? - 8/22/2007 10:56:08 AM

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I seem to not only have different faces but also different attitude and words i use more during certain moods. Master always seems to know my mood (even on line) within the first few moments. I dont think I have always been an open book nor do I think I am open book with everyone but being in the type of relationship we choose to be in I think we almost have to be an open book.

I think there are a few reason people are more attracted to us when we are in a relationship. 1. we are happier and everyone wants to be with the "happy people". 2. Forbidden fruit is always sweeter, people always want what they cant have.

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RE: An open book or just the norm? - 8/22/2007 12:15:12 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

I think most people have them- we just don't often step back and name them.

I certainly didn't see them before they were pointed out to me. But yeah you're probably right, everyone expresses things facially at some time.
Thank you.

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RE: An open book or just the norm? - 8/22/2007 12:20:27 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: leadinghand

Misstrubation, as for being an open book, you have to remember you are being read pretty closely. Because of the extreme dynamic of D/s a good dominant will be monitoring you doing everything. Everything from "are you in serious pain," to "are you having fun?" Knowing that those two can also be the same look just makes it harder. :)
Interestingly, or not lol He is the first person to mention and name these looks i give. I guess as you say my facial expressions are a way of monitoring and i hadn't thought of it when i posted this.
Anyway, to be trusted with command you have to look after the person who has granted that wonderful gift. That is why I have always need eye contact, no lowered eyes and bowed head. I need to see into her eyes to read what is going on. Besides seeing those eyes react is a one of the most rewarding parts of the relationship.
So let him see, and not so much of the "i don't want to do that face."
I don't think He would want me to hide the 'i dont want to face' as i know He sometimes enjoys me doing things he knows i don't want to. Should it become a too regular face though i'm sure He wouldnt be impressed.
Thank you.

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RE: An open book or just the norm? - 8/22/2007 12:22:07 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterMataeo

umm everyone has them,, it's called body language,,
some are easier to read than others,,
and it's not just sub/slaves that have them either ,,
watch your Master/Dom,, and you will see there
are several moods that one will go through in a day/night
and well i'll be willing to bet with a little effort and time
you will beable to 'sense' the moods and looks

MasterMataeo

I have learnt to recognise some of His faces. Especially the 'i'm annoyed with you look' to put it politely lol.

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RE: An open book or just the norm? - 8/22/2007 12:24:48 PM

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I have a very hard time hiding my feelings. I have to be careful sometimes, I am told that I have a tendency to roll my eyes. Usually that is at store clerks and my 15 year old has learned how to make this pathetic "I'm really sorry for my mom's attitude" face. I'm working on it though because to be honest I don't intentially mean to make people feel bad so I have to stop!

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RE: An open book or just the norm? - 8/22/2007 12:26:12 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LaMspeach

I think there are a few reason people are more attracted to us when we are in a relationship. 1. we are happier and everyone wants to be with the "happy people". 2. Forbidden fruit is always sweeter, people always want what they cant have.

Both good points - thank you.
I was thinking more though of those people who don't know i'm in a relationship. When i travel home from Sirs i usually get many smiles and chatted up quite frequently. Sir says i have that just been fucked and used look, so i was thinking maybe other people pick up on that vibe too!?!

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RE: An open book or just the norm? - 8/22/2007 1:18:45 PM

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quote:

Sir says i have that just been fucked and used look, so i was thinking maybe other people pick up on that vibe too!?!

I'm convinced that being sexually active makes me look better and has an overall positive effect on my well being. I think it probably changes the body's chemistry or something, like the 'glow' pregnant women get. Good chemicals are running through the blood and stuff like that, the same chemicals that are part of physical attraction probably have a more general effect.

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RE: An open book or just the norm? - 8/22/2007 1:18:55 PM

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i have that, "don't make me give you crazy eyes" look

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RE: An open book or just the norm? - 8/22/2007 2:04:52 PM

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How would the power distribution or ability to communicate go if you were masked or hooded? Could he read you then?
That would be an interesting thing to find out. hehe.

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RE: An open book or just the norm? - 8/22/2007 2:42:10 PM

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Tacs watches my expressions closely and learned most of them quite quickly. I am an "open book" with most everyone in my life and I do not see that as a bad trait. I have learned to temper them when the true expression would be impolite.

As for the
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Also pondering why is it that when we are being used by someone we become more attractive to others?

I've noticed this too. I point blank asked the guy that showed interest everytime I was in a relationship. His answer was in line with the "forbidden fruit" comment from LaMspeach. I think there is alittle of "the grass is always greener,"as well.

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RE: An open book or just the norm? - 8/22/2007 8:46:48 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: missturbation

I wasn't aware of it but apparently i have many 'faces' when i am with Sir! The most frequently mentioned are my 'aww i look pretty face', the 'animalistic' face, the 'i've displeased Sir' face and the 'i don't want to do that' face.
On hearing about these i decided to look for them and Sir is quite correct i do give certain looks for certain things. Animalistic when we fuck. i'm pretty when positioned in a way i find attractive, harnessed especially etc etc. Oh and i know this because a lot of the time i can see myself in the mirror.
So i was wondering do we all, subs/slaves have these faces or am i just an open book?

Also pondering why is it that when we are being used by someone we become more attractive to others? I mean that something about me personally must come alive or show because the amount of messages i have recieved since seeing Sir that can see certain traits in me is uncanny?
Again is this something that just shows in general or am i being the open book again?

Maybe you are giving off a more positive and sexual vibe now that you are involved in that way. As I recall, even when you didn't have a Sir, you attracted lots of attention from both males and females.
Maybe since you are happier, you are noticing the interest more?? I think that has more to do with you and your personality, rather than the fact that you are now attached.
There are plenty of women with Sirs/Masters, who get zero attention from other men (or women for that matter), because they are dull or unattractive or whathaveyou.

As far as the "faces" thing. I would call it having different 'looks' depending on mood and circumstances. I think that's normal and everyone does that.

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RE: An open book or just the norm? - 8/22/2007 8:59:30 PM

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I have those faces. I am very expressive in my facial expressions. Master says I even blush sometimes, which I never thought I did. I think when someone has tapped into that part of us I don't feel there is anything to hide and I do feel more sexy and attractive during those times when Master is having his way, because I am open and comfortable.

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RE: An open book or just the norm? - 8/22/2007 9:09:58 PM

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ORIGINAL: sweetnurseBBW

I have those faces. I am very expressive in my facial expressions. Master says I even blush sometimes, which I never thought I did. I think when someone has tapped into that part of us I don't feel there is anything to hide and I do feel more sexy and attractive during those times when Master is having his way, because I am open and comfortable.

I'm a big blusher too. The slightest thing can turn me crimson in seconds. But I have found that men absolutely love that. I think they see it as bashfulness and a sense of vulnerability

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RE: An open book or just the norm? - 8/23/2007 3:16:40 PM

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Maybe you are giving off a more positive and sexual vibe now that you are involved in that way. As I recall, even when you didn't have a Sir, you attracted lots of attention from both males and females.
Maybe since you are happier, you are noticing the interest more?? I think that has more to do with you and your personality, rather than the fact that you are now attached.
There are plenty of women with Sirs/Masters, who get zero attention from other men (or women for that matter), because they are dull or unattractive or whathaveyou.

As far as the "faces" thing. I would call it having different 'looks' depending on mood and circumstances. I think that's normal and everyone does that.

I am happy and maybe you're right and it just shows x

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If it fit's in a toaster, i can cook it.

Buying 10 item's or less is not shopping !!

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