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RE: more politeness anyone? - 8/22/2007 3:41:19 PM

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Sometimes I have read a comment that rubs me the wrong way...then..I reread it while smiling, frowning, etc. The way you read something can change your reaction to it.

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RE: more politeness anyone? - 8/22/2007 4:33:17 PM

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That is a good suggestion
Thanks!

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RE: more politeness anyone? - 8/22/2007 4:46:12 PM

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Politeness isn't a bad thing, nor is it a rule, requirement, or indicator of anything in particular.

(my italics)

....i tend to disagree with the italicised part of this i'm afraid. In my opinion politeness as a starting point is an indicator of someone who is aware that the mode of delivery as much as the message influences how people percieve what we say.
Contentious argument is delivered in A) a polite way, or B) an aggressive way. A) is more likely to be heard than B).......therefore politeness is an aid to communication.

I think that depends upon the content of the argument.

If someone is going to do the five-minute armchair/internet 'psycho-analysis' on someone there is going to be contention no matter how it is worded.

Anyone who says they can figure someone out using that method is a de facto fool or liar (or both).

No doubt they can convince themselves of their accuracy. But the fact they've convinced themselves this method actually works demonstrates they can convince themselves that the Easter Bunny and Santa are having a fling

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RE: more politeness anyone? - 8/22/2007 6:10:48 PM

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Well, first I was raised to be polite (if it kills ya..lol), and second -- you can get more flies with honey than vinegar (not that i'm calling absolutely anyone here a fly..lol)

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I made a post on another thread on "Ask a Submissive" so if anyone would like to comment on that or how you see the place of politeness (or not) on these forums...I am interested in hearing all sides.

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RE: more politeness anyone? - 8/22/2007 6:21:12 PM

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ORIGINAL: angelikaJ

I made a post on another thread on "Ask a Submissive" so if anyone would like to comment on that or how you see the place of politeness (or not) on these forums...I am interested in hearing all sides.

I'm very polite on here. I mean if you could here what I'm saying when I'm typing, you'd die of non-PC overload.

Example scenario.

Poster one. "I think we should be _______(fill in the blank with something I'd be completely opposed to).

Me typing. "That is interesting, but isn't that wrong because of x y and z reason. "

Me muttering to myself while typing. LOL. "Stupid fucker, wouldn't know fascism from Mickey mouse." or something similiar. LOL.

I'm very polite on here.

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RE: more politeness anyone? - 8/23/2007 3:03:43 AM

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I think a lot of people read others wrong. Some see disrespect where there isn’t any and then ask why it’s such a nasty world. Only the person that wrote their words knows the intent behind them that’s why I try not to read too much into anything. Many comments made can be taken the wrong way I don’t see anyone going around calling people names. Why the investigation that seems to be quite a regular event?

Quite.

As for myself: I am insensitive. Politeness is outside my ken, just like vision is outside the perception of a blind person. I know that I am severely mentally handicapped in this respect. I know that I rub people the wrong way because of that. On the other hand I am not sanctimonious. Though what I say may be perceived as an insult, it is never intended as an insult. How can it be as I am not aware of what is hurtfull? Only polite people are able to intentionally insult other people.

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RE: more politeness anyone? - 8/23/2007 3:49:14 AM

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I try to be lighthearted and fun in all my posts....and sometimes, a little sarcastic( can't help it, its just me)

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RE: more politeness anyone? - 8/23/2007 4:11:32 AM

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Ditto to cuddleheart.

I cannot fathom how anyone can sit around and take every word seriously and as law.

Everyone is different, everyone reads differently and has a different story to tell. Polite (in this forum of speech) is not using caps, trying to not to misquote someone, and keeping any banter within reason and as un-personal as possible.

If you have been on the net a longgg time, it comes natural to not get emotionally connected to comments or opinion-material written. Some never absorb this 'water off a duck's back' ability, some do.

Why can't everyone get along?? well, cuz we are human.

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RE: more politeness anyone? - 8/23/2007 4:24:20 AM

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I'm with cuddle and came. This is the Internet. You don't know me and I don't know you. I don't know if I'm necessarily polite, but I am seldom rude. With that said, if someone doesn't like what I say, oh well. I don't take it personally or worry about it.

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RE: more politeness anyone? - 8/30/2007 1:13:51 PM

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Yes in some of the regular people here that answer and post on this message board....and then you have the few that mislead with false information or the better than thee ego trip...
Just because some have not heard of something being one way or another, does not mean that it is not true....
do not shy away from information that challenges your assumptions....
you post because you wish to know or share something and deserve a decent reply.....

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RE: more politeness anyone? - 8/30/2007 1:41:01 PM

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I prefer brevity to politeness.

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RE: more politeness anyone? - 8/30/2007 1:55:21 PM

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One can be concisely polite. Politeness doesn't always warrant lengthy flowery declarations of civility. It's quite polite to open the door for an old person, or to help a short one reach something on the top shelf in a shop (something I can only do when I'm in my heels); it's polite to give up one's seat on the underground to a pregnant woman. None of these things take time and they're polite.

It's polite to be polite to those that serve you too: I don't like encounters with snooty shop assistants, but when I see how customers behave in shops (no eye contact, no 'hello', no 'please', no 'thank you'), I'm not altogether surprised salesclerk become jaded and bitchy. On the other hand, I am finding it difficult to get accustomed to the fake cheery politeness I encounter here, in America, on so many occasions... you know what I mean... it creeps me out and reduces me to a state of hilarity I find very hard to conceal (which is, of course, the only polite thing to do).

I have traveled a lot and I find that although there are, of course, cultural intricacies to the rules of politeness worldwide (I saw some tourists in Bangkok lie on the floor with their toes pointed towards the Lying Golden Buddha at Wat Pho in Bangkok... they simply had no idea... the morons... And you know what? The monks and nuns were far too polite to tell them off.), altogether, it is a universal language. Clarity of thought transpires in our actions: and that, everybody, wherever they are from, can read.

Politeness is what separates the real human beings from the pod people who think they have to overtake everybody to be the first in the queue. Gaawwwd, I feel so sorry for those! Politeness is wonderful; it's kind; it's civilised! It's all that is left in this world that makes encounters with strangers bearable. Except, of course, when one meets somebody who's on the same wavelength as one... blessed be those occasions! They are rare and precious!

I love politeness... except online, goes without saying. But the Brits are strangely wired.

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RE: more politeness anyone? - 8/30/2007 2:13:20 PM

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You are quite correct. My comments were in reference to this board, where you see a lot of people dancing around topics ... somewhere around the third or forth paragraph, a point is actually made.

Like most movies these days, that 'pack' one hour of story, in to three hours of movie.

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RE: more politeness anyone? - 8/30/2007 3:49:54 PM

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I prefer brevity to politeness.

caitlyn, can you expand on that please ?

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RE: more politeness anyone? - 8/30/2007 5:02:53 PM

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ORIGINAL: angelikaJ

I made a post on another thread on "Ask a Submissive" so if anyone would like to comment on that or how you see the place of politeness (or not) on these forums...I am interested in hearing all sides.

(I'm sorry...was there an actual question?)

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RE: more politeness anyone? - 8/30/2007 6:45:55 PM

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2 quotes: I only eat rude people.
Hannible Lechter
I'm always polite, even when I'm angry...especially when I'm angry.
Me
There is never a good excuse for rude behavior.
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