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BDSM Closet - 8/23/2007 9:49:47 AM

Dnomyar

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In what way has comming out the BDSM closet made your life better or worse?

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RE: BDSM Closet - 8/23/2007 10:20:08 AM

MasterMike04103

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execelent question,

For me personally it was neither a helping hand or a hinderance. People were taken back a step at first but over all my friends and close family are all supportive as long as I am happy. In the past I have been open to my employers, like when I was working for a company at the local airport as I was dealing with people all day and I would never know when a kinky friend would come threw and want to say hello.

As it stands for me, I wear my pride on my sleave in more ways than one with three different lifestyle specific tatoos on my body...

Thats my take and your milage may varry

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RE: BDSM Closet - 8/23/2007 10:26:57 AM

LATEXBABY64

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just made know that the whole freaking world is kinky lol

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RE: BDSM Closet - 8/23/2007 12:06:47 PM

thetammyjo

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It has freed me to be myself without having to pretend to be something else.

It has also offered me information so that when someone responses negatively, I know that person is not someone I was meant to have an intimate relationship with.

However there is a big difference between being out and being in other people's faces. Most of the time, let's be honest, being kinky is not something that shines forth brightly signaling us out from non-kinky folks. Unless you get close enough to a person to be their friend why would you they are kinky or not, straight or gay, Christian or pagan? Symbols, language, etc that we choose to use may flag what different groups we are members of but I don't think these are things we must do.

Being out enough to do what you wish and wear what you wish can feel very empowering. I, personally, let folks ask me the questions that lead them to this knowledge about me -- they don't ask the questions or visit my home, it's none of their business.

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RE: BDSM Closet - 8/23/2007 12:46:49 PM

SunNMoon

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I don’t think I’ve ever come out of the closet nor do I think I’ve ever been in it. I’m just me, I have a friend that hasn’t told his parents that he’s gay, and his reason is, “well I’m just me; I’ll just show up with my boyfriend when I have one.” I’m the same way, I’m just me. Kinky or no kinky still me.

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RE: BDSM Closet - 8/23/2007 3:43:39 PM

Joseff

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I've got to admit, I've never considered myself in a closet. I don't normally announce my kinkiness, but I don't really go out of my way to hide it either. Of course, opening up to one person did change my life in a positive way, gained me a lifetime partner in kink.
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