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Is this the norm on CM? - 8/24/2007 7:41:25 AM

tootsiefootsie

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Hi,
I am new on CM and I am shocked by the level of so called Doms who want to dominate our life. I am not speaking of the countless one-liner say nothing replies to my post. But I am shocked by many of those who take the trouble of writing more than a line. Here is one I have just received:

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Any comments?

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RE: Is this the norm on CM? - 8/24/2007 7:42:51 AM

LuckyAlbatross

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Who put the idea that most people on the internet were mature into your head? I'm sorry you actually believed them.

Don't expect anyone to share your values- be happily surprised when they do.

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RE: Is this the norm on CM? - 8/24/2007 7:48:48 AM

littleone35

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Well i can tell you that was not the norm for me. I got the one liners sure but i also got well thought out e mails. I sure hoped you blocked this guy. It seems he may need professional help.

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RE: Is this the norm on CM? - 8/24/2007 7:52:18 AM

DeepWaters

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tootsie --thats your standard form letter, just ignore them.
but as to your question...
Responsibility and authority go hand in hand…I don’t think you’ll find too many Doms who are going to take you in, let you live your own life and then cater to your bedroom submission desires without expecting to also have final say over most of your vanilla life choices as well.

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RE: Is this the norm on CM? - 8/24/2007 7:52:37 AM

AquaticSub

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Sounds like a HNG who got off on sending you that.

Edited to add: You may want to define what you want though. There is nothing wrong with being a bedroom submissive, but is also a lot of us who enjoy being dominanted 24/7. From situations are ordinary and boring ("No Aqua. Those shoes aren't comfortable enough for you to walk in so you can't have them") to the sort of sexy scenes that you read about in erotica. Luckily for us, there are owners who enjoy doing it. You just need to let the people looking at your profile know what you are looking for.

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RE: Is this the norm on CM? - 8/24/2007 7:53:15 AM

mbes

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I just wonder how long it took him to type all that out one-handed!

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RE: Is this the norm on CM? - 8/24/2007 7:54:16 AM

DiurnalVampire

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This is one guy, out of many. There are a huge number of fantasy players out there, of people who are truly into that even if you arent. I am sure there is someone on the site who would be drooling over an offer like that. There is no "norm" on here. Everyone you ask is going to have a different experience. Mine has changed drastically in the time I have been on. Take things as you get them, if an email doesnt match your interests, just ignore it. If you want to be polite and let them know they arent a match, thats cool, if not just delete. If they get insistant, you can block them. There are plenty of very polite and well spoken Dominants on here, but there are an equal number of not so polite. Theres nothing to say he is a "wannabe", just that he cetainly isnt what you are looking for.
Get used to the crazies for a good while. Every female, especially with an attractive profile picture, gets a lot of undo attention initially. That will pass, an you can weed out the worthwhile stuff from the crap.

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RE: Is this the norm on CM? - 8/24/2007 8:29:24 AM

Honsoku

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mbes

I just wonder how long it took him to type all that out one-handed!

It is even funnier when you realize that the profile picture has been swiped from the sidebar ads...

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RE: Is this the norm on CM? - 8/24/2007 8:56:36 AM

HotFaerieMama

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I've learned to deal with it. and i don't even have a picture.

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RE: Is this the norm on CM? - 8/24/2007 1:58:07 PM

Constanza

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Some how i never get msg's from other doms apart from my own Master :)
I must be doing something good....lol

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RE: Is this the norm on CM? - 8/24/2007 3:11:50 PM

slaveish

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Sure it's normal.

You'll get messages from vanilla pervs playing bedroom Dom, messages from subs who say they will Dom you, messages from subs begging you to be their Domme, messages from bottoms who are looking for Tops. You will get messages of all sorts from all kinds. No big deal as long as nobody's bleeding out and there's still oxygen left in the air - it's all gonna be ok.

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RE: Is this the norm on CM? - 8/24/2007 3:17:23 PM

michaelOfGeorgia