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johnxinxscruz -> RE: Online relationships (8/25/2007 3:00:39 AM)
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For me, an on-line relationship focuses entirely on the mental aspects of things. If you're very focused on the physical, then that can be pretty unfulfilling. But, ultimately, it's a fantasy, and thus it can also be unfulfilling if the relationship doesn't eventually find a way to leap into the real world. If it doesn't, then certain stresses and problems start to creep into the relationship.
I agree with MaamJay that it can be a safe way to learn and explore the mental side of things. But, it doesn't help with learning the physical side, obviously.
And, because it is a fantasy, it's hard to be sure that both people are on the same page. For one, it might be pure fantasy, while for the other it might be fantasy with an intent to convert it to reality. In that case, it's going to lead to some form of heart ache eventually. The other danger is: because it's a fantasy, it's easy to lie, or be lied to. Like they say, on the internet, no one knows you're a dog. You don't know that the person on the other end of the conversation really is who they say they are. They might be 13. They might be a gender you're not comfortable with. They might be a predator instead of a Dom... or a predator instead of a sub.
IMO: the more reality you can insert into the equation, the more likely it will last and be more fulfilling than just a short-lived fantasy. No reality = no longevity. If you're comfortable with that, that's cool (as long as the other person knows that too). If you're not comfortable with that, then figure out how to solve it.
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