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RE: What do you look for in Profiles? - 8/27/2007 9:34:36 AM

Celeste43

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Somebody who already had drawn up a list of what I would have to do and how I would be punished is someone I wouldn't respond to. I want to be a person to my partner, not an interchangable robot.How can you decide ahead of time what you want someone to do for you if you don't know what their strengths and weaknesses are?

Life is difficult enough that I will never again get into a relationship with someone who is looking for me to fail so he can attack me for it and make me feel worse than I already was. I need someone who will guide and teach me, not give me commands knowing I can't possible fulfill them. But I was looking for someone who could be a friend first and foremost, not a role.

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RE: What do you look for in Profiles? - 8/27/2007 2:34:13 PM

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I look for someone who is honest with themselves about what their sexual turn-ons and fantasies are. I am also interested in some detail, as vague and incomplete profiles show either a lack of maturity or seriousness.

And, of course, location is a big factor, as I seek someone in the Tennessee area.

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RE: What do you look for in Profiles? - 8/27/2007 3:19:48 PM

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Something that immediately comes to mind and is a big turn off for me is a profile that consists only of a description of a "Master's" fantasy scene. As if that is all he has to offer.

I am intrigued by profiles that show me a man's true self, his sense of humor, his good judgement, his intelligence, his interests other than BDSM (since I am looking for the whole package, so to speak). A picture is not a must but I want to see one shortly after intial contact although I realize a picture does not prove anything, it could be anyone's picture.

I agree with many others who have said that a profile full of how domly a man is does not excite me. Who are you trying to convince?

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RE: What do you look for in Profiles? - 8/27/2007 3:26:03 PM

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LOL....I never looked at profiles in one year, now I look for............my Master-hahahaha......and what a challenge it is, picking out his many profiles :)

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RE: What do you look for in Profiles? - 8/27/2007 3:47:12 PM

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Wether he is attractive or not, a picture is necessary. (and just a tip to some people out there... even if you're not confidant in your looks, you can take an attractive picture, put some nice clothes on and take it somewhere other than in front of your trailer.)

Also, for me at least if he has a picture of himself with a cat or dog, it makes me melt. :)

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RE: What do you look for in Profiles? - 8/27/2007 5:44:10 PM

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When I do take the time to actually look at profiles; what stops me and makes me read a bit more slowly is:

well-written, articulate, humor, insight; something that hints at intelligence

If I actually like the profile, I go look at the age; then the height; then the location. If all fits in with what I am looking for, I will send them a small hello and such.

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RE: What do you look for in Profiles? - 8/27/2007 6:17:01 PM

DrkJourney

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First of all, I would like them to actually have one...LOL

Don't know if you want a Domme's point of view, but, I look to see if they actually tell me something about themselves, or do they just do the "net slave speak" thing.....you know the, "I believe a slave is/should blah blah blah; and women are superior, blah blah blah. Then of course there are the "do me" lists and please refrain from telling me how good looking or hot you think you are.

We are on this site, which is a bdsm site, so we know we have that interest already, we know what our roles are...that really tells me nothing. And details are something I'd rather discuss after we get to know each other, and preferable face to face

let me know about you, what kind of relationship/situation you are seeking. Tell me something about you as a person to let me know what we are going to click. Do you have a sense of humour?, what kind of music do you like? do you like to dance?Honestly I don't plan on staying indoors 24/7...I do like to get out every now and then and do other things, hang around other people, etc. and a picture would be nice

Now I don't mind general lifestyle interests on the profile, as long as it's "included" with the rest....but not make the whole profile about what they want done to them

But that's just me, and what I need to look for in the type of relationship that I seek...to get my attention, be yourself. If you met me or any other lady on here on the street, starbucks or whatever, I would certainly hope you wouldn't approach talking about sex and bdsm.....write just like you are meeting me in any generic place.

And whatever you write in your profile...please don't copy and paste it to me in an email in lew or actually taking the effort to write me an email....I can click over and read your profile all by myself

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