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MaamJay -> RE: beginner questions (8/25/2007 12:12:34 AM)
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OK I'll dive right in with an answer. I'll preface this by saying I am NOT a ProDomme, any understanding I have of how they operate comes from having talked to some within the lifestyle. My comments re ass play are from My own experience.
Either at the time of booking, and/or when you first arrive, you should have opportunity to talk to the Domina. This is when the scene is negotiated. Given that you are a paying customer in this circumstance, you have the general say in what happens, although how and when it happens is usually up to Her. If you want the best bang for your buck, it is crucial to be honest and explicit about your requirements. It is particularly important to tell Her that it's the first time your ass has been used that way. If She is indeed reputable, She will use LOTS of lube and take it gently at least until the toy is in there, then judge from your responses how much you can take. She should also select a smaller toy to start with (and if She asks you to choose, don't be a greedy fool, start small!). She may choose to insert it under hand control so She can guide it better, She may finger you first to get a feel of how your anus and rectum respond. Ideally She should have gloves on if She does that (for Her protection and yours ... especially if She has long fingernails!). If you go well, She may choose to move to a strap on. Make sure you have a safe word or signal in place (She should tell you what that is) and be prepared to yell it when you need to, don't be a macho idiot and suffer real damage!
Mostly likely you will be a little tender but if it's been done well, none or minimal bleeding afterwards (you don't have haemorrhoids do you??). you may find you will evacuate a fairly soft stool not so long after, the side effect of being opened and also the lube. Find out when you book whether or not an enema preceding anal play is standard practice or not there, that is a whole other experience! The disinfected sex toy in a fresh condom should be fine, it's what I do with Mine! Milking is best done at the end of the session, for many men, once they cum, it sets the off switch on the submissive button! you should be invited to have a shower afterwards and talk to Her (or perhaps an assistant) briefly at least as aftercare so She can be assured you are OK and ready to leave the premises.
From My understanding but NO experience, the Japanese have an excellent reputation in the world of pro-Domination. Good luck!
Maam Jay aka violet[A]
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