The "bartering" or, rather, the discussion of wants/needs/requirements of my Master and i came before i made my decision to become His slave. The rules, that i would be required to live by, were set by my Master and understood and agreed to by me, before i accepted my His collar and became His slave. If He had required that i give up all connections to family and friends, negotiations would have ceased between Uus. The mere suggestion of that would have been a red flag to me, that this is not someone i would respect or trust and, without those two qualities being present, i would not be interested in serving.
As far as i'm concerned, turning your back on the people who are a close and integral part of your life, prior to becoming a slave, is contradictory to some of the most basic character traits that i consider essential to, not only being a long-term slave but, to having any long-term, committed, intimate relationship. Those qualities are Loyalty, Honesty, Fidelity, Responsibility, Reliability, and Dependability. The willingness to turn your back on your children, your parents, your siblings, your close friends, for no other reason than to become a slave, indicates, to me, that those character traits are either not present or not very strong.
Those are the character traits i look for in deciding to become involved in an intimate relationship, with the hope of it being long term. Those qualities are also essential to my Master, in His choice of slaves. i understand that different Masters have different qualities they look for in a slave and, perhaps these qualities are irrelevant to some. But, i still don't see how having the willingness to turn your back on the people who you are close to, in order to become the property of another, would be a desirable trait in a slave, much less a requirement to being a slave.
Not only that but, if the slave cuts all her ties to the people she is closely connected to, in order to become a slave and, then something happens down the road, that ends her service to her Master, such as in His death or His decision to release her, she has no family or friends to turn to for comfort, help, or simply to not be all alone. This would be a very insecure way to live, i believe, and would make it very difficult to feel comfortable serving a man who would require or even desire this from a slave.
It sounds to me as though you became collared with conditions as to your "Master"'s ability to order you. I will not contest you calling yourself a "slave", nor your "Master" just that. However, as the relationship you have chosen does fall outside the definition of M/s I use (I would qualify you as a sub, in my own speak), the statements I have made about slaves do not necessarily apply to you nor your relationship.
I would like to empathize that I mean no insult to you nor your relationship nor do I mean to say that it is anything less. All I mean to say is that my statements about M/s are about M/s as I define it and cannot be assumed to necessarily apply to something outside of my definition of such. I have referred to the positions in your dynamic as "slave" and "Master"- in quotes- to maintain that this is what you call these positions, but that I would not call them the same in my own terminology.
