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RE: co-workers ~~ who know something - 8/27/2007 8:00:05 AM

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everyone i work with knows, i talk about it all the time... maybe not talk about it but drop hints about how i need a spanking really bad...

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RE: co-workers ~~ who know something - 8/27/2007 9:31:25 AM

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ORIGINAL: WinsomeDefiance: As bad as it is to be 'outed' at work, and as embarassing as my prior accounting was, it wasn't near as humiliatiing as walking out my front door to see my two young sons in our front yard using my vibrators as Light Sabers.

Could be worse - someone I once believed to be She Who Is To Be Obeyed took the eGlass packaging advice to heart and had various bits and pieces out in the curio cabinet as "conversation pieces"...

At least it was only my parents who asked about them before she figured out that it wasn't a great idea... "So, that has some girth - you measure up, son?" "Good to see that she knows what she likes..." "Ooohh! Liquid filled! Adds some heft, eh?"

Being outed at work - not such a thing with me, working in restaurants. Most of the folks serving you at places a bit further up the ladder than Chili's are probably wearing a butt plug, a karada, nipple clamps or all of the above in various combinations. One of the last nights I was at the Restaurant I Gave Up On, I had my bartender giving boot worship to all of the servers in exchange for seeing Her in a corset and tartan skirt... (NB: the inequality of the trade and his eagerness to do it). Pretty much anyplace I'd be working, I'd be a known quantity (well, except the specifics of what I like and what I know) from the first minute without having to say anything. C'est la guerre...

The rest of it, such as who what and where... that's private and pretty much no one's business.

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RE: co-workers ~~ who know something - 8/27/2007 11:37:54 PM

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ORIGINAL: WinsomeDefiance
I have to say I felt myself pretty well 'outed' at work. All I could say to the guard was, "All non-Exxon issue."

I forget the comedian who said security guards have to be trained never to imply ownership of sex toys on discovery. It's always "the dildo", never "your dildo"

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RE: co-workers ~~ who know something - 8/28/2007 1:34:25 AM

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I outed myself at my one job accidently, it wasn't a big deal, small store and a good bit of the crew were relatives and I wasn't the only submissive there so. The three newest people there don't know and neither do any of the under 21 employees but the store manager and my cousins boyfriend (another supervisor) just can't get it, they see me as a Domme all the way.

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RE: co-workers ~~ who know something - 8/28/2007 10:11:34 AM

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Some of my co-workers know, others don't. I don't hide who I am from anyone but I don't advertise either. I work with pretty much all men so sometimes it's been intersting lol.

They learned very quickly that just because I'm submissive with my partner(s) that in no way means I'm a push over at work.

One of my guys made the comment yesterday " I can't even beat you for being a smart ass cause you'd like it and that defeats the purpose"

He laffed, shook his head and walked out of my office.

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RE: co-workers ~~ who know something - 8/28/2007 2:50:42 PM

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I was outed to my in-laws. That *sucks*. A bit of reference: My mother in law is a bad ass. She rides a Harley, is a single mom, pretty much raised her grandson, and has lived through some tough shit. She found a spare invitation to my collaring ceremony that my soon-to-be Master had left in her truck. (Love the man dearly, but for goodness sake!) Her response? "I thought I raised you to respect women!" His response? "I do, and I respect her more for the fact that she is comfortable surrendering to me. It takes a hell of a woman to be able to do that. The two women I love best are the strongest women I know." That answer was one of the reasons I married him!
Of course, my parents probably wouldn't care. I sat at the kitchen table with my parents (and some of their friends!) looking at Playgirl. My mom misplaced her vibe, and when she asked if I'd seen it she admitted that my father had jokingly accused me of stealing it. Her retort was "You know she has enough of her own!" I'm pretty sure they swing, maybe more. I wonder... Could kink be genetic?
As for employers, I've never been anywhere where it mattered to me. However, when my hubby was getting his security clearance, they checked out his myspace account and saw one of our good friends, Sissy Candie. When they questioned him about it all he could say was "Actually, when we met he was a Viking." Anyone ever notice the crossover between BDSMers and Renn Faire Folk? <grins>
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RE: co-workers ~~ who know something - 8/28/2007 5:12:37 PM

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I prefer to keep my private life private day to day; I'm a pediatric home health nurse. I find that most parents want to believe the nurse hanging out with their kid in their home 8-12 hours a day is quiet, reserved, and demure. I play the part very well.

If someone were to find out, I wouldn't stress over it. As it's been said before...if you find me online on here then you have some "'splaining to do Lucy" anyway.

I wouldn't care if my boss knew or my coworkers...it is the comfort of my patients' parents that matter.

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RE: co-workers ~~ who know something - 8/28/2007 6:22:41 PM

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i only have one answer when someone at work says "Can i ask you a question"? That response is and will always be......."You can ask me anything you like........but remember........You asked"! I never hide who or what i am. I not ashamed. To be so would be a disservice to myself and Him.

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RE: co-workers ~~ who know something - 9/2/2007 1:36:56 AM

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I recently started a new job and found out the other day that my boss is also a Dom we have sat and chatted about it and have no issues there, although it is not something i make public knowledge i have no problems with people knowing. My sub also wanted a change of job and came for an interview at my place of employment for a job in another department and before she came my Boss asked if she would be interested in working with me in our department as she is also technically skilled in this field of work and we had vacancies arise that morning.

She was interviewed by him and is now starting with us soon and he knows she is my sub as she wears my collar. I am looking forward to working with her now and i cant see any problems arising because of our lifestyle :)

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RE: co-workers ~~ who know something - 9/7/2007 4:39:50 PM

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i do shift work, pm shift, and am the only female in the whole place untill morning, so i keep my private life out of the workplace, its hard enough warding off the usual sexist or solicited remarks like "do you watch porn" etc etc.. i could only imagine how it would be if they knew i was a submissive who liked a good spanking along with a good slutting... yikes!

on the other hand, i told my sisters early on in my quest in bdsm, and again later after Master and i found each other, i have also told my best friend lately, and she took it with a grain of salt which i expected, said well its your thing, go for it.
gotta love close friends and family, they are honnest and accepting in ways you can only imagine others would be.

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RE: co-workers ~~ who know something - 9/7/2007 6:49:46 PM

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At work, I'm jokingly called the dominatrix editor because of how demanding and strict I am with my writers. I'm almost certain the work friend who created the nickname knows the husband and I are into BDSM, and a few others might suspect, but I think they all have our roles confused. No one has ever asked me directly, so I see no reason to discuss it. Let them think what they will.

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RE: co-workers ~~ who know something - 9/7/2007 7:30:04 PM

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ORIGINAL: GhitaAmati
Now I stay at home, and the place Sir works, the entire company are swingers....sometimes it actually hurts us more than helps us, Sir doesnt get the best jobs and the most money because I refuse to fuck his boss (fat and annoying and smells bad)...but the other guy who compeates for the same jobs as Sir, his girlfriend fucks the boss all the time...so he gets the better work.....

Your story reminded me of a swinger friend of mine that owns a small imports company, He's hot really hot and I did have sex with him before the thought of me working for him part time ever entered either of our heads. But, I never had quite so much fun while working as traveling with him on the weekends for most of a summer. Yes there was real work to do "renfair merchant stuff" but we had lots of sex too. I think he has sex with most of his employees. (he does tend to hire lots of ladies) I jokeingly tell people that ask about him. "He considers sextual harrasment to be a frindge benefit, but one thats easy to opt out of."

Ive also worked with my husband (boyfriend at the time), he was my supervisor at a restaruant. The owner hired me knowing that I was his bar Managers girlfriend. We tried to keep work and home seperate but I find that Some time apart is a good thing.

Once a manager overheard my boyfriend at that time say as he was droping me off at work after a bad morning "If you dont stop crying I'm going to beat you till it doesnt feel good anymore" He was tottaly makeing a BDSM funny to try to make me smile, but that took a bit of explaining.

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